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writes:My parents is forcing me to an all boys school which is the top school in the UK.I do not want to go to it because I will be a full boarder in that school, which means I will be in the campus 24/7. I seriously can't tolerate that. What can I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): Talk to your parents, really tell them your feelings. Boarding schools often are not that bad, but really make a difference in your life. I think it's your decision to choose what you do in life, and they don't get to choose. But whether you go or not, both boarding and non-boarding schools are interesting.
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reader, 83puremage1 +, writes (10 January 2011):
83puremage1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Wow, I know so many kids who would JUMP at a chance like this. It may seem intolerable right now, but I think you should seriously give it a chance. What you get (educationally wise especially) is not something you can get elsewhere.
I say give it a shot, you may find that you like it.
Go for it and make it GREAT!.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Eton right? Do you mean right now? This would be an awfully odd time to be starting, at the beginning of the Lent Half in the first year of the Sixth Form. Very difficult to settle in and catch up starting part way through a year.
Perhaps you mean that they hope that you'll start there next September? If so, just tell whoever is interviewing you that you really don't see any value in you going to Eton. They won't take a boy at sixth form entry who doesn't desperately want to go there.
On the other hand, I think that you would be a fool for not wanting to go. Tough to start at 16 rather than 13 but if you take advantage of all that it has to offer you'll have a great 2 years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): Give it a chance. Once there you may find you feel quite differently. As it is a top school there will be lots of activities laid on. If by half term you still think the same that would be the time to tackle your parents about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): Why don't you want to go? You are being given a chance to go to a top school, it will help you get good qualifications, a well paid job and get on in life. I know doing new things are scary, this could be something that if you don't do you will regret later on in life. Think about it, how long is? Just a couple of years, it will pass before you have even noticed.
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reader, Willow88 +, writes (10 January 2011):
Hi,
I went to boarding school at the age of 8, and after a lot of tantrums my parents finally agreed that it wasn't for me.
At the age of 16 I decided that I wanted to go back to it (mainly because my parents were driving me crazy!) and I did. I had so much fun. Honestly I was always the type of girl who wanted to be at home and not away from it 24/7, but for me it helped me develop.
I became friends with people I normally wouldn't be close to and had my day time friends, and boarding friends.
Speaking from experience, it really isn't that awful. I'm guessing you're talking about a school such as Eton/ Harrow but you'll have lots of things planned for the weekends. I went to one of the top girls schools in Berkshire, and every weekend we used to meet up with Eton and Harrow boys - go to theme parks, bowling etc - and make lots of friends ... and even boyfriends :) We'd also do things in the evening - and when I was a day girl I used to envy hearing about the stories the boarders would get up to!! So you're out and about - not locked down in a cell for 24 hours 7 days a week.
My honest advice is to really look into it with open eyes. I made a lot of friends boarding and had the time of my life. I learnt how to be independent and more sociable. I'm 23 now, but a learnt the most in my late teens.
If it really isn't for you, then as Blonde30's says, you're 16 and entitled to voice your concern on this and be listened to - but have a think. It's really not as bad as you think. :)
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reader, ivanichiaynus +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Without sounding too critical, aren't you being rather ungrateful?
Your parents are providing you with the best possible start in life, a very expensive education at, in your words, the top school in the UK and you rail against it.
It seems to me that you are in dire need of a good education, in view of your opening sentence "My parents is....".
If you can't see what is wrong with that, go to your parents immediately and hug them in gratitude for what they plan to do for you.
Ivan.
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