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writes: Last week I was shocked to find my girlfriends' sister trying it on with me! I'm 22 and live with my girlfriend, who is 23 and her sister is only 16. My girlfriends whole family came to stay at our house as we live quite far apart and one day I found myself alone with her sister in the house. We were sitting on the couch watchin TV when all of a sudden she starting doing some serious flirting and next thing I knew she tried to kiss me! Of course I didn't rise to it as it is so wrong on so many levels. She said she had liked me for ages even though she herself has a boyfriend! But because he is a strict catholic he refuses to have sex with her unless they get married so I can only imagine that's the reason she tried it on with me. Even though I felt like I'd put her straight she has been bombarding me with flirty text messages and always chats to me on facebook. I feel like I have to tell my girlfriend what is going on but at the same time I dont want to cause a huge argument in the family. What should I do?
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reader, rhoomba  +, writes (1 January 2011):
this is actually a matter to settle between the kisser and the not-wanting-to-be-kissed. just tell your gf's sister that it's not something you're interested in and don't even go into details. treat her like an equal, like you respect her and you hope that she will respect herself enough to make good decisions and don't do crazy irrational (don't say exactly that) things with her sister's boyfriend. i don't mean you should tell her to dump her christian bf, just suggest that she needs to look inward or something and you are there for her as a friend and an equal and nothing more than that. and as the boyfriend of her sister, who you presumably care about.
if she tries to act crazy and pull some psycho shit, that's when you pull out your reserve of texts and fb messages to prove your innocence. you don't want to have to show your gf that you've been teasing her sister all this time. she won't like it even if you're not the instigator. peace
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010): this is actually a matter to settle between the kisser and the not-wanting-to-be-kissed. just tell your gf's sister that it's not something you're interested in and don't even go into details. treat her like an equal, like you respect her and you hope that she will respect herself enough to make good decisions and don't do crazy irrational (don't say exactly that) things with her sister's boyfriend. i don't mean you should tell her to dump her christian bf, just suggest that she needs to look inward or something and you are there for her as a friend and an equal and nothing more than that. and as the boyfriend of her sister, who you presumably care about.
if she tries to act crazy and pull some psycho shit, that's when you pull out your reserve of texts and fb messages to prove your innocence. you don't want to have to show your gf that you've been teasing her sister all this time. she won't like it even if you're not the instigator. peace
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (13 December 2010):
 SAVE THE TEXT MESSAGES AND FACEBOOK MESSAGES! Then tell her. But wait until you have enough. Like maybe text her sister asking why she tried to kiss you etc. Because your gf may not believe you, but she cant deny text.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (13 December 2010):
 Tell your girlfriend. The longer you wait, the longer it looks like you are trying to keep it a secret or hiding something. Yes, it will most likely cause trouble in the family, but the sister has brought it on herself. My suggestion would be to talk to your girlfriend about it, but ask her not to make a big deal about it. Her sister is young, and probably a bit confused as well as immature. Tell her you handled it and that it's under control but you just wanted to let her know so that she doesn't think anything else is going on between her and her sister.
In the end you just need to worry about you and your girlfriend. You can't risk jeopardizing things just to try to keep things civil in the family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): I think you should try telling her sister you're uncomfortable with what she's doing to you first rather than immediately tell your girlfriend or it might jeopardize their relationship. If she's mature enough she wouldn't bother you again and keep her distance. However, if this carries on you should tell your girlfriend (but tell her to keep calm first!). Good luck!
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reader, ivanichiaynus  +, writes (13 December 2010):
 Perhaps you should threaten to tell her sister and/or parents if she doesn't behave?
Ivan.
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