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writes:I would like to ask my mum about getting sex toys but need her to buy them since I am only 15 and can't buy online. But I have know idea how to ask her since she is not so open about these things
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reader, AgonyAuntiee93 +, writes (11 February 2011):
Well, for starters, you are 15 and it TOTALLY normal for a girl/boy of your age wanting to experience the feeling of using a sex toy. My daughter who is now 17, asked me if i could buy her one when she was 15 also. I am not open about things and i thought that she was very brave asking me and i was CERTAINLY not cross with her!
This is what my daughter did when she asked me (this is a suggestion on what you could possibly do?);
She asked if she could talk with me in private about something. I didnt know what it was, and never would of guessed, so i said yeah. I told her we could when i had but my other baby to bed.
So, once i had put the baby asleep, i asked her if there was anything wrong. She told me about how she thought it wouldnt be wrong, or how she didnt want me to be angry and just came straight out and said it.
I was proud that she had grown up, but upset she had grown up too. But that is something ALL mothers will fight.
She wont be angry, i promise. Just come out and say it! Or say something like this;
'Hey, mum. I was wondering, as im growing up, if you would let me have something. Like, it might be a big deal, so sit down. Could you possibly buy me a sex toy.
Good luck and i hope i helped darling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): I think that it is great that you want to be able to have these kinds of conversations with your mom. I think you also recognise that it might be difficult to have that kind of conversation with her because she is not very open about it. Many people have advised you that it might be difficult to have this conversation with your mom, which is probably true, but some have advised you that you shouldn't have this kind of conversation with your parents and I don't agree with that, I think the more things you are open to being able to chat to your parents about, the more you will be able to be honest, open and connected with them and with others. Also, it is good to feel ok to talk about your thoughts and feelings about sex to people you are close with, there is this idea in our society that we can't talk about sex, or that it is private or something to be ashamed of, but to me it is a perfectly natural part of being human, and part of us to embrace and enjoy, not feel ashamed of or negatively towards. You could start by just having a general conversation about sex, and if you feel comfortable and think she will be reasonably comfortable to speak about her helping you with sex toys you can try. She might not react well, but you can't blame people for finding certain conversations difficult. In terms of getting them, some people have advised a shop like Anne Summers, or you could ask someone you know and trust who is older than you like a friend's sister or something, to help you out online. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): Do not ask your mother. There are some things you should never ask your parents for and this one of the things!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): This isn't really the best thing, if you haven't had this type of conversation before, asking for a sex toy at your age from a parent isn't really right (asking at any age isn't particularly good!) Infact, some might say that a parent buying such things is actually having an inappropriate relationship, talking about sex etc is fine but this is too far.
Thats not to say you can't explore things yourself with your hands, its not wrong at all and maybe go to ann summers for a look around.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 That would not be a good idea, I think. Awkwardness galore. Sex toys are one of those things you can live without, actually, at least for now. Just...wait till you do get financially independent.
Until then, try an unripe banana or something.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 I always felt you can ask your parents for advice on sex and to talk about sex. But having your parents buy you sex toys is going over the line of what most parents would do. It's like telling their child how to masturbate. Sure it can be done, but only if the child and parent have such an open line of communication. If your mother isn't used to talking about these things with you, and isn't open about sex toys, I suggest you avoid the awkwardness and don't ask her.
Instead, wait with such things until you are old enough to buy them yourself. In the meantime I suggest you masturbate using your hand, or the showerhead (nothing should be pushed up inside yourself as you could damage yourself, the showerhead is just to spray water on your clitoris).
Use a condom on anything you'd want to experience with if you absolutely must. And make sure your hands are clean.
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reader, ivanichiaynus +, writes (8 February 2011):
 I think that you CAN buy online, but paying might be difficult as you won't have a credit/debit card at your age.
Don't you have a friend who can help - or do you want to keep it totally private?
Maybe an online site would accept a Postal Order?
Ivan.
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reader, eloora +, writes (8 February 2011):
Talking to your mum about sex toys would be understandably quite tricky for most teenagers. I'm not even sure how I would go about it myself! However, if you do want a sex toy of some sort Ann Summers sells them in their shops. Its a credible shop (not like a sleazy porn shop) that sells underwear and accessories and things like that and the sales assistants are always open and easy going which makes buying stuff like this in person pretty easy. Good luck!
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reader, LittleMissy +, writes (8 February 2011):
Just go into an Anne Summers shop there in most cities, nobody will look at you twice. X
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