New here? Register in under one minute Already a member? Login

245057 questions, 1084625 answers

Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!

New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us . Articles . Sitemap

To browse questions by day in October, 2009, use the links below (in brackets, number of questions on that day in this category)

1 (2), 2 (1), 3 (2), 4 (1), 5 (1), 6 (4), 7 (3), 9 (1), 10 (3), 11 (4),
12 (1), 13 (1), 14 (1), 15 (5), 16 (5), 17 (2), 18 (1), 19 (3), 20 (3), 21 (1),
22 (1), 23 (2), 24 (2), 25 (3), 26 (2), 27 (4), 29 (1), 31 (4),

Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in Virginity category)

Virginity: Help and advice

Can he be a virgin at 40 plus???

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I've known this guy just under a year- both in our early 40's- we met at work but dont work in same place. We have a few friends in common and others who arent. Since we met we have seen loads of each other - we now see each other every week or so, ...

Is it bad for a Christian girl to masterbate?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - im a 15 year old qirl. i am christian. in i have several questions. is it bad for a christian qirl to mastrubate?is it bad for a girl to mastrubate? can you loose your virginity? please help...

Should I disclose why intimacy scares me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - ok, so my question is about being in a successful relationship. i'll admit that ya i'm a virgn and ya i tended to avoid relationships, but the thing is i've had a pretty messed up past. i was abused physically and emotionally and there are some ...

Scared of my virginity, tempted to give it to an ex.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - My ex is in town and i'm tempted to lose my virginity to him ... i over analysed the importance of it before and even now have slight fear of not being a virgin forever but at the same time have fear of being a virgin forever. I trust my ex and i ...

Virgin... or not a virgin???

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - I have a question regarding my virginity. I am not really sure if I am still a virgin or not. My boyfriend and I tried to have sex but he couldn't get his whole penis inside, only a bit went it and it hurt me. He slowly tried to put it more inside ...

Help, I need information about losing my virginity!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - My new bf has been wanting me to have sex with him, but im still not too sure that i want to. I dont no if it will hurt or if i will get caught by my parents but they are never there tho. I'm still a virgin and i don't no about how anything feels. ...

Good girl or bad girl?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - hii.. oh im 19 do i have a bad past or what? when i was like 16 there was a guy i go to church with and i made out with him one time after that i cut him out my life i didnt really wanna be with him... it was bascially me feelin lonely... up to this ...

Where can we have sex without being interrupted?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Ok so I'm losing my virginity to one of my guy-friends really soon, but i don't know when yet.....i'm really nervous, and i dont know what i need to expect, because i literally know nothing about sex....i don't want to get down on the bed with a guy ...

I can help but think my boyfreind's ex is a better lover than me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I've written here before, but I'm afraid I just can't get past it. I (20 years old) have been with my boyfriend (22 years old) for a little over nine months now. Everything is going fine, though we're both very busy holding down full-time jobs and ...

I've never fallen out of love so what now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - i am 43 yrs old married for 18 yrs and have a son 16 and a daughter 9 but here is the situation. it was love at first sight at the age of 16 instantly i knew i wanted to spend the rest of my life with this girl, still a virgin (both of us) i didn't...

Ladies: do you think guys that are virgins are cute?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5432 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - Do ladies around my age (17-23 I guess) think it's cute for a guy that's 19 to be a virgin? I know a few girls, one is 18 now, and she said she wants a guy with experience. But on the other end, one day when I was in class these "experienced" (lol) ...

He's still not listening when I tell him to slow down!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend last year because I did not want to lose my virginity and he is used to sleeping with his ex-girlfriend (I have now found out he has a reputation for being more interested in sleeping with his girlfriends than the ...

Is he moving too fast again or am I just paranoid?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5505 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - Im 18 and my BF is just older than me. He has had relationships before but I am still a virgin. I went out with him a few years ago, but broke up with him because I am highly insecure (depressive, not open with people touching me) and he was moving ...

We are planning on losing our virginity together!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5503 days ago

25 October 2009 (M) - hey all my girlfriend and i are planning on having sex soon, it will be the first time for both of us. what are some recommended positions for first time, aside from standard missionary which will make it fun and enjoyable?...

My very first time...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5481 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - I was 19 when I lost my virginuty. It was with a guy I liked;it was my bffs cousin and he was 17 yrs old. I told him we should hook up when got drunk and just laughed and asked, what about the next day.I didnt know if he meant sex or a ...

If I have my girlfriend finger me am I still a virgin?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - If I have my girlfriend finger me am I still a virgin?...

This is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - Hello all, I have a complicated situation. I consider myself to be clear of mind and a high thinker. But this problem I simply cannot solve. My former flame and I were together for a short time. A year and a half. He was my first and only everyt...

I am a horny virgin but I don't think I am ready for sex!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - im 15 and i keep feeling horny, but i havent had sex before what do you think i should do? i want to have sex but at the same time i dont think im as ready as i think, but i keep feeling horny. Help me please....

I'm 16, and really concerned about my Love Life!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

22 October 2009 (M) - Hey. I'm 16, and really concerned about my Love Life. Well i cant call it that, as i've never actualy had one. I've never actualy had a proper girlfriend, i've 'seen' girls but not been in an actual relationship. I always get mucked about by ...

If I am a virgin, am I able to have an orgasm?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5503 days ago

21 October 2009 (F) - What if he says no? I really like this guy and want to take it further than friendship but what if he does not like me more than a friend? I feel like I am falling in love with him but he does not like me. He gives me a hug everyday but only if I ...

How do I have sex if I'm not comfortable in my own skin?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

20 October 2009 (F) - hey guys. its a bit long, but heres the issue. its quite personal so please be serious and give some good advice. im 17, i have never had any sexual experience, mainly because iv never had a serious boyfriend. obviously iv kissed guys, but nothing ...

I love him but I don't want sex anymore, I am not interested in being around him. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5486 days ago

20 October 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid I am a girl and I have been in a relationship with my first boyfriend for about one and a half years now - pretty much for the most part I have been at university, as I am now finishing my second year. However, I am finding that alt...

Is he being truthful or is he saying it just to get into my pants?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

20 October 2009 (F) - I am in a relationship with a man since a year and half. We have known each other since 3 years. I have never been in a relationship before and I am a virgin too. Initially , at the start of our relationship every thing else was good except the sex ...

Why do I always seem to want sex when I'm a virgin?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

19 October 2009 (F) - Why do I always seem to be wanting sex even though I am a virgin? When I was grinding with a guy and I felt his boner I was about to explode, why? And another guy that I was grinding with had his hands by my bladder a little lower and that made me ...

I feel as though I've lost my morals...what should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

19 October 2009 (F) - I hate who i am becoming and i can't stop myself. I used to be the classy girl with a lot of respect for herself, but in a month and a little it has changed. I lost my virginity three years ago now and in the space of three years i had only slept wi...

I think I need some reassurance here or just anyones idea

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

19 October 2009 (F) - Hi I'm 18 years old Throughout my life i have been through some sh***y relationships and broke up with my last boyfriend because he cheated on me I have gotten to the point now where i just want to lose my virginity (hopefully with someone ...

Why can't I just lose my virginity when virginity is not a big deal?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5512 days ago

18 October 2009 (M) - Hi, everyone ! Thee's one thing I don't understand about the relationship. When you have a boyfriend / girlfriend, people always say their pasts are just the past. If the person is not a virgin, then it's not a big deal as long as you love them. ...

Do you need a condom to get a blow job?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

17 October 2009 (M) - Hye there friends.. I need a lil advice. Me and my gf of 8 months years (we are both 16) were hangin together last night. And she just randomly asked to give me a bj. I was elated cuz we've never even touched on that kind of stuff before. But the ...

I need some advice on my life and how to improve it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

17 October 2009 (M) - Hello I need some advice about my life and how to improve it I mean a while ago i lost my virginity to a prostitute and it was awful regretted it.... but i made the same mistake again... and learnt alot from it. It made me realise i want a ...

Will things change if my boyfriend finds out I'm a virgin?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - i'm 18 and still a virgin and haven't gotten very intimate with a guy before. it's not because of religious reasons or anything. anyway, i'm kind of worried because i'm visiting my bf in a couple months and i never told him i was a virgin. i haven't ...

Virgin having trouble getting it up

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5513 days ago

16 October 2009 (M) - Im a 19 year old virgin and i have went to have sex with girls recently and on both occasions my penis has failed to erect. On both occasions i had been drinking and i have no problem with getting erections otherwise. i also think i need to relax ...

I have a long distance relationship problem!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

16 October 2009 (M) - Hi, i have a question about a long distance relationship. i just started college around 8 weeks ago and so did my girlfriend. We go to college in different states very far away from each other. We have been dating over a year and it has been the ...

Why should I save my virginity when other people don't?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5514 days ago

16 October 2009 (M) - Why should I save my virginity when others people don't ? and why would I wait for the right girls in case the right girl could be a loose one as well. I can't see any points of waiting for me. even my ex-girlfriend when she was with me she siad she...

Mad at myself because I got drunk and danced at a party! I've always been a 'good girl'...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - over the summer i went to a party with a bunch of friends i grew up with i was the only girl.. we went to this party like early june and i got drunk badly! ive always been called a good girl cause i am a virgin at the party i got drunk and danced ...

I really want to be with him so what do I do?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

15 October 2009 (F) - Okay, hi. Me and a particular boy are getting on very well-he's sixteen and I'm fifteen. Last week he invited me around to his house, and I went on Saturday-it was just me but I'll tell you now, he did not force me into bed with him. On the con...

He took my virginity and then started having sex with his manager. Should I be in a relationship with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

15 October 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i started having sex before we got together cause during that time he seem to be confuse.rite after he took my virginity lets say a few weeks after he started having sex with our manager but when he had sex with her he came out and ...

I'm afraid he will think I'm unattractive when he sees me naked!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

15 October 2009 (F) - Hi I need some advice ......Im a virgin...and a bit fat (13stone...5''1)...Im really self conscious about my weight...I want to have sex with my boyfriend .....but Im afraid he'll find me unattractive when he sees me naked??...what should I do...I ...

Should I have sex ?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

15 October 2009 (M) - I'm 17 and a virgin and my ex-girlfriend who is 15 had sex already ! I'm very jealous of her even though she told me that I should wait. She didn't so why would I do so? [Edited by moderator to improve readability]...

Do guys think virgins are a total turn off?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

15 October 2009 (F) - ok, so do guys think virgins are a total turn off? im asking this because i am one and every guy i end up telling this to gets really uncomfortable even though they are the ones that asked. and then of course they run when i tell them i dont believe ...

Could I have lost my virginity whilst dry humping?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5516 days ago

14 October 2009 (F) - ok so i'm a virgin but i'm just wondering... me n my ex were dry humping and i was wearing really thin pj pants and his pants were undone so it was just his boxers.... well it felt really good but i could kinda feel this pressure/ pain like he had ...

How do I get some meaningful sexual experience?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5517 days ago

13 October 2009 (M) - Hey there everyone, I've been feeling really blue lately. This is the first time I've ever really talked about this, so please bare with me a bit as I fumble with explaining things.. I'm 18 (and a half) and have no experience whatsoever wi...

Was he put off by no sex? Why isn't he calling anymore?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5518 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - Hello I am dating an interested guy. He told me that he is interested and he was acting like that but also shyly. Normally when he talks to others, this person doesn't act shyly. He was surprised when I told him that I am a virgin and don't want to ...

How do I prove to my Mom that I am still a virgin?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5519 days ago

11 October 2009 (?) - okay first of all i know i am too young to be thinking about this stuff. my boy friend is almost 18. i love him to pieces he's my world i cant live without him. i want to loose my virginity to him but not for like a good few years. my problem is ...

I just lost my virginity with my unreal aunt!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5517 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Hi...frnds i'm 18 years old boy.well i lost my virginity just a day before with my unreal Aunt.Actually i wasn't interested in any kind of sex with her but she asked me and i couldn't stop myself.I wanna know is it good to have sex with a 33 year ...

Could I not be a virgin any more because of getting fingered too hard?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Hey guys, well I have quite a straight forward question, well a while ago a got fingered by a guy, and well afterwards I was really sore and my vagina felt like it was burning, and so I had a look and it looked like it was bleeding but the blood ...

I'm only 13, but I am pretty sure I am ready for sex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - im only 13 and been with my boyf. for two years he wants to have sex and im pretty sure im ready (even though im still a virgin ) he is one year younger than me but im worrying about bleeding or what to do. im really excited about doing it and im ...

He took something very special to me. Should I confront him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

10 October 2009 (F) - okayy so theres this guy ive liked for quite some time, we were all at this party and i was drinking a little to much, i poured my heart out to him and told him how i felt, we stated talking alot, than he took me off into this room, and we started ...

Does this mean I'm not a virgin anymore?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5517 days ago

10 October 2009 (F) - me and and mah boyfriend were at his crib....nd we thought we were ready so he put it in just a little nd it hurt so i told him no nd he took it out.....so am i still a virgin or not?? ...

I'm a virgin! How do I explain to my boyfriend that I am not ready?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

10 October 2009 (F) - I've been in a relationship for about six months, and my boyfriend and I are very attracted to each other. He's made it clear from early in the relationship that he'd like to have sex, or at least be more intimate. I'm nowhere near ready, and have ...

Should I go ahead and do it already? I'm a virgin.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

9 October 2009 (M) - I'm a 34 gay man and haven't had a sexual relationship yet. Being this age now, I feel frustrated for not happening. I have a kind of boy friend who doesn't want commitment but likes me and I like him, we've being seen each other but since I don't ...