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writes:Do ladies around my age (17-23 I guess) think it's cute for a guy that's 19 to be a virgin? I know a few girls, one is 18 now, and she said she wants a guy with experience. But on the other end, one day when I was in class these "experienced" (lol) girls found out that I was a virgin and did that whole "AWW!!!" thing like someone brought a baby into the room. I'm not the typical older teenage virgin, I'm pretty social, lol, I don't get nervous talking to girls or anything like that and I actually am a good looking guy (from this comment you can tell that I'm atleast a little confident).
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reader, Ravenxx91  +, writes (7 January 2010):
 I kind of cant see what your getting at there rhythmandblues2 ? Mainly probably cause its nearly 2am...hmm ill work it out.
"And Ravenxx91 is 18 and giving all the youngsters on this site advice about how to lose their virginity"
Correct...advise is best?
"but she states that she likes that a man is a virgin because she doesn't like to be compared to past lovers."
Who does?
"She makes a very good point without even putting any thought into how her encouragement for young girls to go ahead and lose their virgintity to a boyfriend might affect their future relationships with a guy they happen to be in love with in the same way. "
See this confused me... i say, if you love them and they love you, go for it but use contraception. To make people who are 'infatuated' with someone focus on the future with a different person... would you want to listen to it in that frame of mind? Im AT this age current and in this present day and i can understand how they feel. Plus these poople are young! We always say "dont rush, enjoy being young, dont think about the future" and then they are told to think about it?! Se that's how teens of today become confused :)...No they need advice on how they are feeling currently and ways to solve their current problem..which is what we are here for, isnt it?
"Perhaps he doesn't want to think about her having given herself away so easily to just some dude before him....Hmmm, what a thing is that?""
All the above doesnt mean shes done it easily...it means shes done as she wants. Thats life. No one said easy or insinuated it.
But thanks for the critisism. (notice i gave your answer none...this is because we ALL give our own advice based on what we have have experienced ourselves and thinks whats best...) So from that i have established your were negativly critising me. ...thanks, you go nowehere with it. =]
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reader, ThatOtherGuy +, writes (2 November 2009):
ThatOtherGuy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): It really does not matter at all what other people think about you being a virgin.
I can't believe someone would tell you the whole virgin thing is overrated.
And Ravenxx91 is 18 and giving all the youngsters on this site advice about how to lose their virginity, but she states that she likes that a man is a virgin because she doesn't like to be compared to past lovers. She makes a very good point without even putting any thought into how her encouragement for young girls to go ahead and lose their virgintity to a boyfriend might affect their future relationships with a guy they happen to be in love with in the same way. Perhaps he doesn't want to think about her having given herself away so easily to just some dude before him....Hmmm, what a thing is that?
The decision to lose your virgintiy is a personal one and ideally it should happen when you are in a commited relationship with someone that you love and who loves you and who you are planning a future with. Of course sometimes your best layed plans for that do not work and most of us lose our virginty while on our search for love.
But by waiting until you are more adult and more emotionally mature, you will be able to handle better the feelings that come up when sex is involved. Sex can make an otherwise nice relationship more complicated before you are ready to handle those responsibilities and feelings.
So in the end, the person that you rare in love with first will have appreciated that you waited for them, but after that it is more about how promiscous you have been.
So take your time and don't be in a hurry to have all that grown up stuff to think about. Find a girl who likes you for who you are and all the rest really isn't that earth shattering, who cares what the general population of girls like, you only have yourself to live up to. Find someone who lives up to your standards.
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reader, Ravenxx91 +, writes (28 October 2009):
Im 18!
And i would say, if i was single now, i prefer it! Mainly because as a girl i wouldnt feel compared to previous sexual partners if that makes sense? x I guess im weird like that. =] x
Btw its nice to hear there is a boy your age saying they are a virgin! never thought i would see the day! x
Thankyou, you made me smile! x
Email me if you would like a chat =] x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): I find that most people like virgins but only if it's harmless. The crowd freely tolerates virgins but does not really accomodate & accept them.
The crowd has little patience for virgins who are genuinely proud of their choice, like they are willing to point out the downsides & dangers of casual sex in a verbal debate. Or a virgin that wants to hold out for a fellow virgin.
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reader, LaraC +, writes (26 October 2009):
Yes, I would say that it's cute.
At the end of the day though I would probably say that the whole virgin thing is a bit over rated, for women and for men.
I don't think it will matter a whole lot if you chose to stay a virgin or if you were to start having sex with people. Either way has it's own advantages and disadvantages.
Personally I prefer experienced guys simply because its more enjoyable if the guy knows what he's doing. Otherwise it turns into a sort of lesson situation which can be fun but not if you want the passionate love making.
No need to worry though, stay a virgin if that's what you feel like and you can start practising with the right woman when you're ready for it.
Best of luck
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reader, Kalyov +, writes (26 October 2009):
 I give you props!
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age...Im 21 and I choose to stay one myself (its actually the reason my Ex dumped me...im glad I didn't give in to him).
I believe it should be saved for that one special person, but thats just me...everyone has their own views on it...but agaim you are fine, and I wish there were more out there like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): YES It's actually a very attractive attribute amongst some women, it's just all about finding the right girls and they will appreciate that you are a virgin. The girls who are bothered by it or that want an experienced guy aren't worth wasting your time on. Personally I find it very hot when I meet a guy who hasn't been with a ton of women. Enjoy it and wait until you find a girl who is worth it, you've obviously waited this long for something don't just throw it away to join the club of experienced people because I'd bet the majority of them deep down wish they had waited longer to have sex. BTW I'm 22 so yes girls around your age find this a good thing. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): Its just nice for a change. So many people now a days, guys and girls sleep around, its just refreshing. Its sort of endearing.
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