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writes:I broke up with my boyfriend last year because I did not want to lose my virginity and he is used to sleeping with his ex-girlfriend (I have now found out he has a reputation for being more interested in sleeping with his girlfriends than the relationship side). He didn't seem to understand NO to well and tried constantly, even touching me in public. I told him it wasn't working out (as there were other reasons for the break-up too). We only went out for a few weeks.I started talking to one of his friends recently and we were getting along really well. After a while by ex came and hung round with us as well and I started to remember why I liked him in the first place. His friend kept making comments about us as a couple - I assume trying to establish if I still liked him for his own needs.His friend asked me out, and I said no as I still liked my ex. His friend is really nice and I do like him, but I liked my ex still.We got drunk the night after we got back together at a party, and I told my ex to slow down but he didn't listen. He just laughed and said we've been out before. I didnt lose my virginity, but I was drunk and he still did loads more than we would have done if I was sober would have stopped him. Did I make a mistake going out with him again? I liked his friend but I turned him down and I don't really know why? He warned me about my ex. I can't dump my ex again but he is not listening to me when I tell him to slow down...I dont know what to do. I did think about going on the pill but i'm not ready yet. Also I know the other guy wouldn't try to sleep with me yet, he is funnier too, and much less selfish. I already turned him down for my ex though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): dump youre ex, he already abused you when you were drunk, he has absolutely no respect for you. for some reason girls have a problem getting rid of their bf's, and to tell you the truth, i think theyre illogical. your bf's friend already warned you about your bf, and so said so done. unless your a masochist (theyres nothning wrong with being a masochist btw, its pretty appealing actually), leave your bf and see if his friends offer is still up for grabs. i doubt anything can go wrong from there
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reader, Ravenxx91 +, writes (28 October 2009):
 This guy seems to have no respect x Dump him adn go see if hsi amte is still available x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2009): Your ex is a selfish jerk who will push you as far as he can before getting into full-blown rape territory. (And that's just what you already know about.)
You know this. You say this out loud. It will be your own fault if you get raped or pushed past your limits in the future. I agree that this guy has the responsibility not to do this stuff, but he has already demonstrated very clearly to you that he will do it anyway. So it's your problem to walk away now.
Either you respect yourself or you don't. Your choice. I think if you stay with him then you are staying with him becuase you want to be abused, plain and simple. He is not offering you anything that you can't get from another guy except probable abuse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2009): you should dump him again. he clearly doesnt respect you as he doesnt listen to you when you tell him to slow down. it looks like all he wants is sex. definetely get rid of him. considering the other guy, he seems like a nice guy and as you like him you should talk to him and maybe you can have a relationship together. im sure he will understand and i would have thought he still likes you as feelings dont go away quickly. but the first step is to dump this 'ex' of yours.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 October 2009):
You can dump him again. He's not listening, so what's the point? He has to respect you and he's not. So move on from him. As for the other guy, if you like him that much, talk to him again. Maybe he still likes you. But give it time. But certainly dump your boyfriend. He's not listening.
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