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Archived questions from: December, 2009 (see latest in Faded love category)

Faded love: Help and advice

My boyfriend wants to split the cost of a big ticket item with me, but I don't think I'll be with him that long!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - so my boyfriend wants to get a ps3 (he lives with me)he wants us to split the cost to get it. the thing is i do not want to since i do not think i will be with him for that long. he thinks everything is going great but i am just not that happy wi...

He isn't giving me enough attention and now he wants space! What now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I've been dating this guy for 5 months. Really nice person. But the thing is that he doesn't seem to put in effort to make me happy. I told him that he isn't giving me enough attention. He could be gaming, watching video or chatting with hi...

Should I make one last effort to commit to him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5468 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I was about to split up with my bf and child's father but xmas he has been making an effort. I had been so unhappy - hardly saw him. Did not introduce me to his family etc. Well there is still away to go. He asked me if I loved him and I could ...

In love with my sister-in-law and afraid of losing her...

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5457 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - i was alone with my wife's sister march of 2008. we were alone at a place where she used to live. i was and still am really in love with her, and i am pretty sure she feels the same about me. we were alone in her kitchen i froze. i could have stood ...

Being friends with your best friend's girlfriend...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5471 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - Sorry this is so long: So my best friend dumped his old girlfriend for a new girl. In my circle of friends both of them were big parts of the group. The new girl is not very welcome in the group now and my best friend has pretty much burned bridges ...

Why does sex seem to kill my relationships?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5472 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - I really enjoy sex but not promiscuously... only with someone I really care about.. problem is that when I am with someone I care about and that side of me comes out.. things seem to take a turn for the worse in my relationships.. kinda like they ...

I'm not sexually attracted to my boyfriend, and I like the new guy, or is it just a crush?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - I have been together with my boyfriend for just over a year now. Its been great - we've never argued, had any problems and we've got on really well. There's just a few personal issues I have. Firstly, we haven't yet had sex. In fact, we haven't ...

Bored?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - Have been married 3 times. Its always me that is intaga ted the split. I have dated married guys for longer than any of my marriages have lasted. Been alone for 6 months. Someone stayed over last night and I couldn't wait for him to go. This is ...

He's ignoring me and breaking my heart! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - I've known this guy for three weeks we were together for two weeks solid and then I left to go home. he said he would call me. he didn't and just left for his sister in min but he didn't say he was leaving but since he's been gone I've text him alot ...

How do I get my life back to the happy times that it once was?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5474 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - I have been married for a long time~ my husbands job kept him away for the first 15 yrs, and he changed, never wanting to hold my hand, touch me, kiss me and even went as far as to say I was getting fat and that he doesnt like fat women. That was 5 ...

How can I stop being clingy and possessive?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

25 December 2009 (M) - i have been with this girl since 2 years...she has always been very excited and caring to me since the beginning....we dated for 6 months and broke off and again dated and broke off for some reason ...even though we are(perhaps were) the bestest ...

She drives me nuts - after two years I don't know if it's going to get better or worse!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5476 days ago

24 December 2009 (M) - i need some advice.... my significant other drives me nuts. she micromanages me and doesnt get how it would irritate a man. if I am cleaning the stove and I press to hard to put the electric stove into its place, she'll jump forward in my...

I did nothing while we were on a break, but now he says it's over because he thinks I cheated!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I broke up on Saturday over a heated argument, he went out that night and mingled with other females and enjoyed hiself according to my friends. He also reactivated his facebook account, which is something that we got rid of because ...

I need help making sense of the events, which caused our break up, help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5478 days ago

22 December 2009 (M) - My g\f (now ex) was not jealous, possessive, aggressive and didn’t mind me seeing friends\family but was so controlling in other ways, especially domestically. I couldn’t wash up properly, clean properly, make the bed, i was clumsy, a grot etc. If ...

I can't do this anymore... I'm obsessed with his ex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5478 days ago

22 December 2009 (F) - I'm losing grip, and I'm losing my mind... I've written on here before, but I'm still suffering. Things got better, and now they're falling back into a place that is haunting me, and it's a place that I can't escape. I am 20 years old (almost 21),...

Am I being led on or what?

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21 December 2009 (F) - im really not understanding if im just being led on or what?.. well my sons father and i were together for two years living together and so on.. after our son was born things began to fall apart.. i left him in july .. shortly after he tried to ...

Why is he cooling off?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

21 December 2009 (F) - We've been dating for 4 months. He used to pay a lot of attention but now it's different. He talks more to his friends and replies my messages really slow. He doesn't put in effort into our relationship. He never gave me gifts. And we don't go to ...

Should I stay with him out of obligation?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5480 days ago

21 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is in the Army. We have been together on and off for about two years. I love him with all my heart. I am still rather young and in high school still. I dont want to make himsound bad but he has not been faithful to me. I could never ...

How do I deal with a boring relationship?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5480 days ago

20 December 2009 (F) - Dear cupid, My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now and I'm starting to get bored with our relationship! He NEVER leaves the house not even to go to our friends which live across the street. He thinks that you need money to do ...

Is my wife trying to push me away?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5480 days ago

20 December 2009 (M) - Me and my wife have been together for almost 10 years now. We have four kids together. She is a stay at home mom and i usually work at least 5 days a week.. I know she gets tired. In the last 5 months she only had sex with me once. During it she ...

What can I do to win her back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5481 days ago

20 December 2009 (M) - About 2 years ago I met an amazing girl at the hospital where I work. Both of us 23 and in nursing school. After working together for a couple months we began to develop a friendship at work and then outside of work when she asked me to hang out ...

I love him but we want different things, please help?

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19 December 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i have recently broken up after 3 years of being together. we still love each other very much and are completely attracted to each other. the problem was that we didn't actually have what i consider a real relationship. when we g...

My husband does not look at me 'nice'...What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5482 days ago

18 December 2009 (F) - My husband does not look at me 'nice'...Does not touch me...Does not want to do things with me. No intimacy. He tries, but he just 'cant' keep denying ,that he is not into me... Now I heard, most marriages after 20 years goes steal..Is this true? ...

Can someone take what I've just posted and make sense of it all?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5468 days ago

18 December 2009 (M) - Is it possible, once a women says she doesnt feel in love with you anymore, to ever feel in love with you again? the relationship was rocky for the last year, I got to comfortable, and didnt really pay much attention to her, as we rarely talked, she ...

Since she fell pregnant, my girlfriend has lost her allure

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

17 December 2009 (M) - Hi My girlfiend is 6 months pregnant and i dont feel attracted to her anymore. Before she got pregnant, we hardly ever had sex and on the one occasion we did she got pregnant (she said she was on the pill) When we first started dating sh...

Engaged! Finally! and now he is cooling off!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5240 days ago

17 December 2009 (F) - Engaged after five years and now he is treating me like a room mate. Here it is... It's his way or no way! It feels like he doesnt want to get married. He is saying that i dont do enough around the house when it seems that is all i do. Im not ...

Stay with him in an open relationship until I meet other men, or stay single and just enjoy being a mom?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

17 December 2009 (F) - I have a little scenario that I'm wondering if I should move one for good but I feel like I dont want to have to start all over and get to know the person. I've been with this guy for over 4 long years hes been abusive in the past so far he hasn't ...

We spend way too much time together... I don't know if I love him any more.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

16 December 2009 (F) - I'm 16. My boyfriend lives with my parents and I. Well they hate him and think I can do way way better, I'm so confused and don't know what to do. We spend way too much time together and I'm not so sure if I still love him. What do I do??...

Is love enough when everything else in the relationship is crumbling?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

16 December 2009 (M) - Hello all, I have been with my Fiance for 3 and 1/2 yrs. I don't know what to do. She has 3 children from a previous relationship, (that I love so much) but I am trying to leave them out of this equation, because I cannot stay w/someone just for ...

I feel trapped in this relationship! No way out of this box!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5484 days ago

16 December 2009 (F) - I am in a 4 year relationship. I wouldn't call it an abusive relationship but my friends do. He is very over protective over me but somtimes it feels good 2 kno somone cares so much. We'v had good times aswel as bad. Last year, September,he left me, ...

My boyfriend has changed so much in two weeks. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5481 days ago

16 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of over two years has changed so much in the past 2 weeks .. Hes become so distant that i never see him anymore .. We get in stupid little fights over nothing then he goes crazy calling me a slapper and a bitch .. I love him so much ...

Am I correct in thinking he used his son as an excuse to cancel our wedding?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

16 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend asked me to marry him a few weeks after his son left for Afghanistan for 1 year. Two days before our wedding he told me we had to wait for another year. He could not get married without his son being present. I was in total shock ...

Please help! How can I revive my troubled marriage?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - How do I save my marriage and make my husband fall in love with me again? the romance is gone :( ? how do i put the spark back into my marriage? I feel like my husband and I are growing further and further away every day..we argue about everythi...

What can I do to get out of this marriage????

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

15 December 2009 (F) - I've been with my husband 15 years and married for 11.. I have no feelings for him at all anymore and as i think honestly i dont think i ever really Loved him as a wife should love her husband... i married him when i was 31... out of 11 years i ...

Engaged but having second thoughts!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5478 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - should i get married? i have been in a relationship for almost 5 years, and have been engaged for 8 months. I have lived in apartment with him for about 41/2 years... and things have been good... except for the last couple months. We are supposed to ...

Help!!! Falling out of love...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5487 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over 5 years. I am in love with him. The thing is, i dont want to love him any more. I tried to break up with him numerous times but it doesnt work. How do you fall out of love?...

I regret having my son because he ties me to this relationship! Should I leave or am I just bored?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5486 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - I have lived with my boyfirend for three years and we have a 2 year old son together. My elder son of 17 also lives with us. I have two grown-up daughters who live away. Although I do still have strong feelings towards my partner I realise we are ...

My boyfriend says he's tired of me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

12 December 2009 (F) - I don't know what to do. My boyfriend says he's tired of me. He says he doesn't know if he wants to break up or not. Our latest fight was about my insecurity... I have terrible insecurities about my body, and he knows, and he added some "hot" girls ...

What happened to us? Are my actions in the past to blame for his actions now?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5483 days ago

11 December 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend are real happy together most of the times but ever since he’s gotten off probation he’s been a whole different person. We’ve been going out for a year and the whole time we have been going out he’s been on probation for a crime ...

I've lost all trust in him. What do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

11 December 2009 (F) - I am 26 and have just married the love of my life in May. It has not been a happy marraige. I've lost all trust in him. Just before we got married, I took a loan to buy a car, a month later I find out, that he took the money from my account....

I've lost that loving feeling

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

11 December 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, My husband and I have been married now for close to 17 years. We have three children. For the past 5 years my husband and I have been through a lot of financial stress. During that time he used a lot of profane language,(even a...

I was in love with him, until he fell in love with me...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I'm really confused at the moment. I really liked this guy, I kept thinking about him all the time. Then he told me he liked me and asked me to be his girlfriend. I said no. I have no idea why, but as soon as he started to like me, I completey ...

I lose interest in my lovers. How can I curb this pattern?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I have a couple of questions and am interesting in knowing how others feel about his topic. 1. Why do people who've been together for a number of years fall out of love? What causes this? 2. What can I do to prevent this? I fear it has become a ...

We broke up, but I miss him, what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5491 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - I broke up with my ex a year ago in a bit of a hasty decision. I think I still have feelings for him but I'm not interested in a relationship or anything serious as I'm in college. But I miss just talking to him and wanted to get back in touch with ...

I know I don't love him but should I sacrifice my happiness?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4305 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, I hope that someone out there might have some helpful advice... I have been married for about 4 yrs and have a 5 yr old son from a previous relationship that went sour...My husband has been my sons father since he was 8 months old they ...

Has she fallen OUT of love with me???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5492 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - A little backstory first. I've been dating this girl for 1 year and 4 months. Before we started dating we worked together and I was her boss. It began innocent enough, neither showing any interest in each other but over time I developed a huge crush ...

Boredom? Midlife crisis or just plain immature?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5492 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Hello, I have been in this relationship for almost 6 year. We live together and get along perfectly fine. Until last week when he announced he wants to break up because he feels "tied down". He says he stills loves me but he misses the "...

Is the reason why I cheat on my boyfriend because I don't love him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5492 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - So heres the deal. im not writing this to have people criticise my situation or anything, I already know its wrong what I'm doing. I'm just looking for someone who may have gone through the same sort of deal. Ive been with my boyfriend 4 year...

I want her back, but my ex-fiance is seeing other men. What should I do?

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8 December 2009 (M) - Actually i ve broke up with my fiancee for 5 months and i came back to see her after this 5 months and she is being honest with me that she is seeing another guy now and this guy seems like a very nice guy but the problem here is she still lo...

I dreamed of a boy I no longer have a crush on. What does it mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5493 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - What does this dream mean? It starts out Dylan(the guy I used to crush on who's a year older than me) was in my house and I was in the backyard walking to school. I see him and decide sinse my parents aren't home I will just skip school and hang...