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I did nothing while we were on a break, but now he says it's over because he thinks I cheated!

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Question - (23 December 2009) 7 Answers - (Newest, 26 December 2009)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend and I broke up on Saturday over a heated argument, he went out that night and mingled with other females and enjoyed hiself according to my friends. He also reactivated his facebook account, which is something that we got rid of because it put a strain on our relationship.We didnt communicate until monday and it was via txt because I wanted to talk things over with him. He was really acting shady he keep telling me to wait he was still with his friends and that he wasnt ready yet, i was fine wit it because i didnt want to seem like i was pressing him. An old friend called me and invited me over to listen to some music that him and his band members made so I went over and there were other people there including one of my boyfriends more recently good friends. Nothing at all sexual went on because it was more or a get together rather than a one on one. But of course this mutual friend went back to my boyfriend rather x boyfriend because i beleive that we broke up on Sat and told him that i talk to this old friend. Which is bogus to me. When my boyfriend heard this he had a field day calling me everything in the book including telling me that i had sex with my friend, and many more things. He also told me that though we were on a break it was really over at this point and that i played him good. I honestly did nothing with my frienda, i didnt even hug him. I dont no what to do? Or say.... At some points I cry because i feel like i have lost the love of my life. But is he really worth it because he took there word over mine. Please Help! I miss him but I think I can do without his childish ways when it comes to this situation.

PS... He has cheated on me in the past, but I have forgiven him and we moved on from that. Just last week he was asking me if I would ever leave him seriously and it seems that he left me...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009):

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Thanks for all your help even though I said I wouldn't talk to him of course I did, and the funny thing is he has a whole different attitude now he wants to work things out slowly. Still don't no what to do but I'm taking it slow.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (24 December 2009):

person12345 agony auntWhat an @$$!!!! The only reason he's accusing you of cheating (it wasn't if you were on a break) is because he probably did the same. Classic cheating behavior. This guy is clearly a jerk. You should move on to someone more deserving.

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A male reader, Frank B Kermit Canada +, writes (23 December 2009):

Frank B Kermit agony auntHe wanted to break up with you already...he just wanted to blame you for it.

-Frank

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (23 December 2009):

No, it's not wrong. I guess you're just annoyed and want to get back at him. Be strong, and move on.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009):

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Thanks to everyone!! Im going to try to not talk to him for a couple days to get over him. Is it wrong that I wish I had actually did something for all this to be going on?

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (23 December 2009):

You were on a break, so it wouldn't have been cheating anyway. He's played you. That good news is that it means you can do better than him. so forget about him, move on and find Mr Right instead.

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A female reader, Mintkiss United States +, writes (23 December 2009):

Mintkiss agony auntI know you might not like my answer, but you should dump him. First of all, he should believe you if you tell him that you didn't cheat on him. What's a relationship without trust? If he's cheated on you before and you forgave him he should realize that you are serious with him and you wouldn't do the same.

The Facebook thing is a sign that he's intentionally trying to get on your nerves. I mean, if you two decided to cancel your account because it troubled your relationship, don't you think he's trying to do something by retrieving it?

You seem like a really nice girl.. this guy has really gotten to you. You deserve better than his judgments and his little tricks to annoy you. It's really hard to let people go, I understand how you feel COMPLETELY. You should really try moving on. He's trying to get your tied around his finger.

Good luck! Let me know how it goes?

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