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Why does sex seem to kill my relationships?

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Question - (28 December 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 28 December 2009)
A female Puerto Rico age 41-50, *oviesBrknHeart writes:

I really enjoy sex but not promiscuously... only with someone I really care about.. problem is that when I am with someone I care about and that side of me comes out.. things seem to take a turn for the worse in my relationships.. kinda like they lose respect or most recently stop the going out , pda...etc... Why does this happen?

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A female reader, LoviesBrknHeart Puerto Rico +, writes (28 December 2009):

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maybe then there isn't anything to fix about myself... maybe all the guys I've dated and the few I got to business with are the problem... hmm.. no self improvement needed in this category I guess ...rite?

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A female reader, LoviesBrknHeart Puerto Rico +, writes (28 December 2009):

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Im not drop dead gorgeous ... but I have been told my personality is awesome... I get along with 99 percent of people I meet (one percent being in a comatose state)... and theres plenty of canyons in this noggin being explored til this day ... personality is not the issue... trust n believe lol and the being bad at sex? sex varies all the time, some days are toe curling others are not so much ,that happens to everyone tho... Last relationship our sex life was like trapeze circus a midst a tender love story... even had an elephant *hint hint* lol... I don't know why this happens but I appreciate all this advice ..its wonderful Thank u all

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A male reader, LazyGuy Netherlands +, writes (28 December 2009):

LazyGuy agony auntI can think of two reasons.

A: You are not very good at it.

B: You are dating guys who only want sex and worse, can get it easily. After all, if a guy only wanted sex from you but had to work hard at it, he would hardly let it fall apart so easily.

So, either you get to be a lot better at it, or change the type of guy you date.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009):

Stop giving it up too quickly. Guys enjoy the wait and the chase. Leave/Show something to be desired for a while. Good luck!

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A female reader, LoviesBrknHeart Puerto Rico +, writes (28 December 2009):

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well... it goes from him wooing me to fewer calls to "im busy" until it ends all together ... to be frank about it, I had to end my last relationship because I started feeling like a bootycall rather then a girlfriend... he started out calling me everyday wanting to see me spend time and all that good stuff to only calling me at nite.. granted we both work 2nd shift but he couldn't seem to find time during the day to pick up the phone anymore and say "hey"...and when I tried talking to him about it and our future his answers were so different from what they were in the beginning thus the breakup.. this has happened to me almost everytime I pursued a relationship with someone... and all signs point to the sex... its like they get what they want and give up... and here I am again alone with no one to explore and have a great time with..(sigh)

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