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Archived questions from: September, 2015 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

Can we make this work? Is it a healthy or a toxic relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3377 days ago

30 September 2015 (F) - This relationship has me so confused that I can no longer think straight as the reality of what’s going on. I met my boyfriend about 3 years ago on an online dating website. We are both in our mid 20’s. We met each other after a week and he moved in ...

Am I doing the right thing by moving to live with him in his home?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3377 days ago

30 September 2015 (F) - Dear cupid, I'm 33, boyfriend is 30 and I have been in a long distance relationship for the last 6 months. We spend the weekends together. The travel has become quite difficult and we would like to move the relationship forward and test we work...

He made a racist remark. How should I respond? I think reporting him will make things worse for me.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3374 days ago

30 September 2015 (F) - Hi all, I'm a 16 year old female that has just started college and is having some issues. I am on a male dominated course and I know a boy on their from my old school. We got on really well at school but now we're at college he's trying everythi...

Why do I put up with this? We both like jazz. But why do I stay?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3361 days ago

30 September 2015 (F) - Hey everyone, here's my dumb question. I have been with my boyfriend for almost four years. In that time we have had our ups and downs. I have never asked him for sexual fidelity, which means that he is pretty open with me and doesn't feel like he ...

When we travel my wife of 21 years changes and becomes easily offended when on vacations. What's the solution to this problem?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3367 days ago

30 September 2015 (M) - I'm tired of traveling with my wife of 21 years who will ruin a trip by becoming over sensitive and easily offended by any little thing. Otherwise, she is a rough and tumble type that jokes around a lot and a lot of fun to be with. But on vacat...

How much do you have in common with your husband/fiancé/boyfriend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3377 days ago

29 September 2015 (F) - When I started dating my fiancé he told me all about the activities he did with his last girlfriend, such as them jogging together, bicycling and going to a concert. He told me the concert turned into a magical night for the both of them. The ...

I am finally getting on with my life after a bad relatsionhip, but have concerns about the change in myself in increased low tolerance levels.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3377 days ago

29 September 2015 (F) - Dear all, this is not a relationship question, but it kind of is as it is to do with freinds and people. Please can you help me get some insight into this. Thank you in advance. I have recently come out of a bad relationship with a guy,( well abou...

Should I be this worried about how success may change him and us and our future ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3377 days ago

29 September 2015 (F) - Hi, i have a serious problem, that has been bothering me for a long time now. My fiance and i are super close and always have been since we met. One of the most beautiful things that i have found about us, is the simplicity and groundedness o...

Is it too dangerous for me to be delivering pizza?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3378 days ago

29 September 2015 (F) - This isn't a relationship question but I would like the honest opinions if the people here on dearcupid. I am a 20 year old girl and a college student. I have been hired as a part time pizza delivery driver for a local pizza place. At fi...

I'm still dealing with the emotional trauma from a past rape but my boyfriend hasn't been understanding. Should I leave?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3378 days ago

27 September 2015 (F) - 2 years ago I was raped and recently I received a lot of compensation for what happened to me. I left my job I was in after I was raped as I worked in a Pawnbrokers and I had a lot of regular customers who were men, lots of them would try flirting ...

Am I going crazy? Or is he being overly possessive?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3381 days ago

26 September 2015 (F) - Dear aunts and uncles, Here's a background on my relationship: I've been with my boyfriend for a year now. Currently we are having a long distance relationship (it has been ongoing for half a year and I have made plans to move over to his coun...

My mother has many issues, but despite this I don't want her to live with me, due to her chosen lifestyle. What can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3382 days ago

24 September 2015 (F) - About a week ago I came on here to ask a question. I apologize that I can't find it but I will explain it again. I have an emotionally abusive mother on drugs who unfortunately does not work or take care of herself. She had 2 weeks to move ou...

My daughter spent most of her inheritance from her grandfather on silly things and is now asking me for money to cover her education. Should I tell her how I feel about the situation?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3382 days ago

24 September 2015 (F) - Around February of this year, my 20 year old daughter got about 20k from her grand father when he passed away. Now our family doesn't really come from a wealthy background, so when she got this money I was very happy for her and tried to encoura...

My husband is upset at me because of my advice about a desperately needed vehicle for work transportation. Is he in the right?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3383 days ago

24 September 2015 (F) - Dear aunts and uncles, This might seem very trivial but i've been feeling stressed out and feel upset about it. Now my husband lost his car recently, i've lost mine a few months back to a bad accident. He's been looking for a job activly and even...

I want to do things right, this time, with this intriguing girl, and not mess things up. What do I need to do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3384 days ago

23 September 2015 (M) - So, today we were in English class and we discussed as an excersie the new Maze Runner film. A couple of classes ago she had asked me a lot of questions (i'm the only boy at the classroom) and we seem kinda have the same interests. We talked a...

Is it his ex he wants or me? He does treat me well

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3384 days ago

23 September 2015 (F) - Ive been with my partner for over a year now hes lovely with me treats me is nice to me compliments me..and we are moving in togerher the only thing is he has a nasty ex...who has stopped him seeing his daughter....I recently found browser history ...

My insurance does not help with skin removal surgery after weight loss! I'm upset and unhappy with my body! Anyone have advice for me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3384 days ago

22 September 2015 (F) - I'm hoping someone has been through something like this and can help me out. I am a 28 y/o woman who has been severely obese since early teenage years. It wasn't until I was 25 that I had gastric bypass and have lost 250 pounds putting me now a...

Did I ask for a salary that was too high? Is there a way to negotiate back in their favor? How would I word my letter to them?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3385 days ago

22 September 2015 (M) - hey guys, recently I applied for a job. I got shortlisted in pre screening, but after filling up the final screening form, I got a mail saying that my candidature will not be proceeded further. In my form, I have mentioned quite high salary pack...

I don't have a college degree, is this why I'm not being hired?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3386 days ago

21 September 2015 (F) - This isn't a relationship question but I could use some advice. I was laid off from my job of 4 years almost a year ago and since then have had no luck finding a new job. I believe I have a great resume, I have put in applications both on...

What exactly are morals?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3384 days ago

21 September 2015 (F) - What exactly are morals? I would define morals as standards set by society. Are morals flexible? I am very guarded about my sexual side. I have often read about people who give advice on this forum saying keeping your body till marriage is outdated. ...

Why would my young chatty, sweet coworker turn on me and complain to my senior about me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3387 days ago

20 September 2015 (M) - Hi, I really can't understand this girl. I met her through my work and we seemed to get in and chat away even about things that didn't link to the work I was doing for her. She's young, attractive and always chatty and sweet. Recently she c...

Should I try to re-connect with this guy? I did enjoy talking to him.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3386 days ago

20 September 2015 (F) - Hello cupids, I met a guy this year in august at a friends friend birthday party. I just came out of a relationship almost a month before. I was standing by the water enjoying the cool breeze when a guy walked up to me. He's not really my type phy...

I've lost the passion for activities I used to love. Also considering losing my virginity before marriage. Is this normal?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3386 days ago

20 September 2015 (F) - At what age is self discovery complete?. I thought I knew what I wanted in life completely at 18, but right now, my decisions seem to be fluctuating. I wanted to keep my body, my virginity for my husband but right now if I am okay with whom I a...

What are my options while my husband treats me with such contempt, by telling me ''if you don't like it, move out''?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3386 days ago

20 September 2015 (F) - Hi, my husband and I have been married for 35yr's. The problem is if I ask him to flush the toilet,or rinse the sink after he brushes teeth he tells me if I don't like it move out. Always telling how to drive,we are both retired and disabled and he ...

Why do guys give the promiscuous flirty girls so much attention?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3387 days ago

20 September 2015 (F) - Do guys usually like the flirty and promiscuous type of girls? I need some advice because I hate to say I'm a little jealous of this girl I know who gets so much attention from my guy friends and just a lot of guys in general. She sleeps around wi...

He wants to break up so is saying I was not a virgin!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3388 days ago

19 September 2015 (F) - I m 21 year old...i have lost my virginity to one i loved...he was my first but even then he feels that my vagina was bit loose and he could penetrate easily(but i was virgin and had a lot of pain n even he couldnt penetrate so easily)..now he has ...

Can you face the thought of your partner dying without being upset?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3388 days ago

18 September 2015 (F) - My partner will die unless he has an operation for his heart which he doesnt want to undergo.If i mention it he just dismisses it out of hand and as i know time is short i find it very stressful.It also feels rather like being permanently and ...

Should I just stop wasting my time with a guy who is so like my father? Neither my father nor my Bf have much patience.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3389 days ago

18 September 2015 (F) - I have been dating someone for the last 3 months, and he painfully reminds me my father. They have one thing in common, it's the way they conduct all the conversations. My father has no patience listening to something that he thinks is not imp...

How to make an anonymous compliment without being creepy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3388 days ago

17 September 2015 (M) - Is there a way for a man to pay an anonymous compliment to a woman without it freaking her out or making him seem creepy? (Like for instance by e-mail?) Thanks! (BTW I don't mean something lame like 'oh my gawd u r so hot!!' LOL) ...

Is there is a point of no return with regards to personal failures and disappointing lifestyles?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3390 days ago

17 September 2015 (M) - I am ill disciplined and have no ambition. I am the source and creator of all my current misery. However, I would like to change myself. I have been able to work myself into a "better" version of myself but my problem now is that I am afraid that it ...

I miss him and I'm not happy with my classes and schedule! Please help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3392 days ago

16 September 2015 (F) - So at the end of July I went through a breakup... The guy and I broke up because of the fact that we were going to different highschools... So this year I get my schedule and go to a school that I hardly know anyone in and am not very happy with ...

Boyfriend admitted that he's attracted to another woman but says it ends there and has no feelings for her. Do I believe him?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 3390 days ago

15 September 2015 (F) - My boyfriend (not sure what to call him right now) have been dating for over a year now. We have had our ups and downs but have a lot of love for each other. I just broke up with him last week because I found out that 8 months ago he had a crush o...

Am I stretching it too much by not taking recommendations?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3392 days ago

14 September 2015 (F) - Hello dear cupids, I am 24 yr old girl. I have completed my masters degree in life sciences. But after many trials and interviews I am still unemployed for 2 years. I don't want to take references and recommendations as I believe in my own ability. ...

I am absolutely dreading going to the mutual friend's wedding because my ex will be there with the other woman. I feel like the loser and she will be gloating and all over him :(

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3392 days ago

14 September 2015 (F) - Dear Cupids I was seeing a man for a few months and we were getting on really well and his behaviour towards me showed that he was really interested and keen. He said that I was fun, interesting, and pretty, and we had some wonderful times ...

Should we end the marriage rather than try save it for the sake of our daughter

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3392 days ago

14 September 2015 (F) - I did it. I have finally confronted my husband to let him know how unhappy I am in our marriage. We argue about silly things. Mainly most recently due to our toddler growing up and how different we deal with her been corrected. For a long time when ...

Does this not seem like a very strange interaction and departure?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3393 days ago

14 September 2015 (F) - My now ex-Gen. Manager left our place of business under suspicious circumstances. The business had been growing. and getting better since he opened it. Great staff and management team. Award wining company. Anyway, since the day he hired me, he has ...

If she loved me then why would she have a baby with a man she no longer cared for?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3393 days ago

13 September 2015 (M) - I worked closely with a female supervisor at my office. Very quickly we both fell in love. But she was married to a co-worker, who I got on with quite well. It was difficult because it was a small office and I'd just started there and knew if things ...

How do I address his questions, with answers, when he is sober?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3395 days ago

12 September 2015 (F) - So I have been on about 8 to 9 dates with this guy I have been recently seeing..he usually is not a drinker but this time when he was out with his friends to a party he invited me but I did not go he got drunk..and he sent me a text saying "how much ...

Kicking myself for a missed opportunity

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3395 days ago

11 September 2015 (F) - Help. I just turned 40, so in affect I'm now 'middle aged'. I'm not one for dating or looking for dates much - I just take life as it comes. Recently however, I have been kicking myself for turning down a gorgeous guy who was chatting me up online. ...

I learned his native language but I feel underappreciated for my efforts! How do I broach this subject with him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3397 days ago

10 September 2015 (F) - My partner of over a year was born and raised outside the UK, and moved here for work. He is perfectly fluent in English, and we have no problems communicating in it. He took me to meet his friends and family in his home country, saying that I ...

Who should I go to for mental health treatment, counselors or psychologists?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3397 days ago

10 September 2015 (F) - Hello , First thanks for reading my post. I am interested to know about mental issue treatment. I cant go over my past. One of my family member hurt me badly in past I cant get over this. I cant move on. Which doctor I have to go to help me t...

Boyfriend and I broke up and now I'm lost, scared, no family to turn to and financially not very well off. Where do I go from here?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3398 days ago

10 September 2015 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years and living together for the last 7 years. I have my own job and helped pay what I could but we lived in his house that he owns. He took over his fathers business about a year after I moved in and started m...

Why does he want to send me his half-naked pictures?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3398 days ago

9 September 2015 (F) - Hi everyone, There is this guy who I dated for around 3 months but then we got separated (one of the reasons being that he didn't want anything serious at that time, basically he wanted something similar to fwb type of relationship, wh...

How can I forgive myself for not doing the right thing?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3398 days ago

8 September 2015 (M) - When I was sixteen I left a school dance early and walked up on a guy I knew holding a shotgun on another guy I knew. I walked by and pretended like I didn't see anything. The dance let out and the boy with the gun got in his truck and left. ...

How do I support a friend who just lost a parent?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3401 days ago

6 September 2015 (F) - My friend just messaged me saying she wasn't ready for a phone call but that her dad had just died from a sudden heart attack and that she just wanted to let me know. So I replied, offering my sympathies and that if she wanted company I'd come...

Does he just want sex or could we be friends?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3402 days ago

5 September 2015 (F) - So I've asked similar questions, but now there's more to it. So I lost my virginity to a guy who was a co-worker, at the time when I lost my virginity we were no longer co-workers because i had quit due to some family issues. I don't think it m...

My ex cheated, lied and even slapped my face once. How do I stop wanting to go back to him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3396 days ago

3 September 2015 (F) - dear cupids, really i need help. i am now overly happy, excited, and boosted with energy. what did i do? i simply watched some videos of my ex-boyfriend, in his car, in his house, mostly with his family members. my heart is just racing with...

My ex wife completely messed my life up. How do I move on from something like this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3404 days ago

3 September 2015 (M) - I am a 28 year old male who was married to a woman for the last 5 years and have a 3 year old son with her. I found out she was cheating for over a year with my best friend that Ive known since elementary school. I was upset but tried my best to...

Why did he encourage me to move all this way and bring all my things with me, but now he wants me to leave? What can I do? I feel stuck and penniless.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3404 days ago

2 September 2015 (F) - am so confused, I need some good opinions. So, I have been with my now xboyfriend for over two years. I am from SC and him PA. We have moved back and forth together for awhile but it never works out from bad luck and the fact that we break up all ...

If your partner cheated, would you want to know?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3398 days ago

2 September 2015 (F) - I've been on this site for a while and I'm horrified at the number if times cheaters have been told to keep quiet about the affair or the kiss 'to spare the partner's feelings'. If my partner cheated on me I would want to know. If he cheated and t...