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writes:Hi everyone,There is this guy who I dated for around 3 months but then we got separated (one of the reasons being that he didn't want anything serious at that time, basically he wanted something similar to fwb type of relationship, which I didn't want). All of this was more than 2 years ago. Before dating we got closer as friends. But then once we stopped dating, we didn't really interact much. Throughout all those 2 years, we only met 4 times, but all in group settings (we have a lot of common friends), and maybe texted a few times when he texted me (I stopped initiating contact with him).Now I moved to another state for school last month and didn't say anything to him. He realized that I already moved from my facebook page and posted on my timeline saying it's a bummer that there was no goodbye and that he has good memories with me, wishes me good luck and that we'll see each other soon. This sounded to me that he wanted to be friends which I don't mind, because he was an interesting person to talk to and I already do not have any feelings for him, so I can be friends with him. Yesterday, he messaged me on facebook and it turned out he needed help with one of his classes and he knew I know the subject really well, and I like to help others if I can. So we talked on skype, went over the problems, at the same time caught up with what's happening in each others lives. I needed him to share his screen so I could see what he was doing in his homework. He shared his screen and all of a sudden a picture of him in his underwear popped up which made me super surprised. He started showing me all of his half naked pictures and saying that he is working out and building muscle strength and he is taking the pictures to see his progress. It was funny to me. We were never intimate when we were dating (I don't like taking things fast) and now out of nowhere he just decided to show me his pictures. We were done with our skype conversation and we agreed that if he has more questions about the class, I'll help him, and I jokingly said that he can show more pictures. Then right after we hang up, he texted me asking how much he can show in the pictures so I don't get disturbed. I asked him why he wanted to show me his pictures. And he said because he is working out and wants to see his progress, and would like to share it with someone he trusts and cares about (me? haha). I don't mind him sharing his pictures (I don't really care), I told him I don't want any explicit pictures, if he wants to share his pictures I am ok, but no nudity or anything like that since we are friends, I don't want things to get weird.The reason he is going to share his pics both makes and doesn't make sense to me. I don't understand why he wanted to share them with me. I am sure he would have closer people to share the pictures with. Any ideas? Thanks and sorry for a long post :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2015): He sent the first without warning, that to me is exhibitionist behaviour, he basically flashed you, is that someone you want to talk to?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2015): He explained that he is keeping photos of his progress as he works out. You set limits on the types of pictures you'd accept him to share with you. How do you show off your muscles and muscle definition fully-clothed? He trusts you and you're female. A female friend would appreciate references to his body differently from his male friends. He needs a female opinion for inspiration. You view them as half naked. If that bothers you, suggest he wear a bathing suit or shorts instead of his underwear. Or, just ask him stop sharing the pictures altogether.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (9 September 2015):
 maybe he feels like to share with his mates would leave him open to ridicule or being labeled at being full of himself? It's a bit easier to show off a bit with someone he feels comfortable. OR he could see it as a way to get you interested in a little flirty action. As long as he respects your request with no nudies and you happy to indulge him then where's the harm in that ?
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