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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello cupids, I met a guy this year in august at a friends friend birthday party. I just came out of a relationship almost a month before. I was standing by the water enjoying the cool breeze when a guy walked up to me. He's not really my type physically and doesn't know how to hold a conversation but I still talked to him. In fact, it made me confident as he seemed shy to talk. We stood sometimes for almost 15 minutes without uttering a word to each other. It wasn't even up to an hour, in the dark, he asked me to be his girlfriend without even seeing my face properly. I then told him as a 27 year old man, you do not know what you want. I was so bored gave him my contact and left.We've seen each other twice after that day. And he seemed so quiet as usual, has a decent lifestyle according to what I have seen. We recently started talking on bbm and seem not to have much to say to each other. I wouldn't say there is any chemistry but I believe he is someone that can be tailored to my taste. He has a lot of work to be done on him. I was always the on instigating our conversation(being a good conversationalist) and calling. I know you might all say clearly he's not into me and all. The point is I am neither but I want us to be friends. I deleted him from my bbm and he has gone incognito. Probably hurt. I want to call him. He was the first guy approaching me after a year of miserable dating with my ex and that makes me want to keep him as a friend and he helped me twice when I was stranded(with his car). I am thinking of sending a text to him saying 'I hope you finally know what you want'. Should I or should I not? I really want to talk to him.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 September 2015):
 I don't think so. He wants you to be his girlfriend while you just friend zoned him. He's not a conversationalist but that doesn't mean he doesn't know what he wants. How can you say you enjoyed the conversations but was bored with him? You are not into him, but you don't want to lose contact and the attention either.
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