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writes: am so confused, I need some good opinions. So, I have been with my now xboyfriend for over two years. I am from SC and him PA. We have moved back and forth together for awhile but it never works out from bad luck and the fact that we break up all the time. Well about 5 weeks ago he moved my son and me back up to PA. Then 2 weeks later he broke up with me and said I have to leave. I have no money to leave since I haven't been able to hold down a steady job for long due to all the moving. I also don't have a car because he had me return mine I was buying and he said I could have one if his trucks(which he took back when he broke up with me). So he told me he will pay me to leave, but it has been 3 weeks and he won't give me the money. I feel like a prisoner. What is he doing to me? Why did he bring my son, me and all my stuff up just to do this?
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reader, mary31atlantic +, writes (3 September 2015):
mary31atlantic is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank yal both. My head feels like exploding with whys? To have people to get advice from makes all the difference in the world. Yesterday afternoon my family in SC called and said they will get me home in 2 weeks. So I told him and now he is trying to keep me. It is control and I think there is some kind of strange mind torture he must enjoy. Now he knows I have control he turns into the sweet man again. But yal are right I must really go and never look back. Just know he is not going to give up easy. I wanted to add a little bit of a strange fact about our relationship. When I met him he was Amish. So women are supposed to do as they are told with no question. He just takes his upraising to a whole new cruel level. Once again thank yal both, hope I can really leave.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 September 2015):
 If you are afraid, contact a local woman's shelter and see if you and your child can stay there till you get your money together to get home... forget taking any of your stuff.. .just get you and child on a bus and get home.
it should be around 100 dollars one way to get home.
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reader, babalou  +, writes (3 September 2015):
 I can't really give you financial advice, but as Honeypie said, it's about control. This needs to be over after this because someone who loves you wouldn't put you in this situation. You have a child and can't risk putting yourself in this situation again, whether it's with this same man or another that's breaking up with you and taking you back over and over again and making things complicated and stressful for you. This doesn't sound like it's going to work and doesn't sound like it was meant to work. the problem seems to be that you two can't live with each other.
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reader, mary31atlantic +, writes (3 September 2015):
mary31atlantic is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy family is very worried and they want to help but they need a few months to get the money together. I wish I had something to sell, but no I don't. I always thought he was very controlling but I didn't know it would ever come to this. He has my life in his hands. I know alot of people have it way worse, but I never imagined I would be in a situation like this. I am scared and secluded from my family. I am afraid I might not ever get out of here
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 September 2015):
 I forgot to add, if you have things you can sell - do a yard sale. Anything to get home.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 September 2015):
Control is the first thing that popped into my head. He wants total control.
Do you have any kind of family who can help you out?
I would get out of there asap. And when you DO get out, cut him off totally.
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