Partner's comments about sex with his ex make me feel insecure
Q. I have been with my partner for five years. When we first met he was not long split up with his girlfriend and although I thought he was over her he was still in love with her. After we first had sex he said that it was not as good with me as with ...
A. 15 March 2011: Why is everyone dancing around with this. Why would you want to stay with someone who doesn't think you are the greatest person ever. 'Spoilt by her body" give yourself a break on this one, anyone who makes statements that make you feel worthless ... (read in full...)
I had an affair with a womanizer then gave his wife my email and password to show her the proof
Q. Hello, This is just a follow up of what I have written earlier. I got involved with a 68 yrs old man thru internet online and he is married. He is a womanizer, but still I loved him and even learned to love his imperfections. Up front I told him...
A. 1 December 2009: how could you have a relatio ship with a married man and think he has taken advantagr of you. You are must as responsible for having and maintaining the relationship, how can you not accept respinsibility as well, yoy knew what you were doing. He ... (read in full...)
I got my friend's wife pregnant, now he's coming home from military duty!!!
Q. Ok, so i have a problem, I'm in a huge dilemna. I've been sleeping with my friends wife who is at the moment in iraq. (He's a soldier) he comes back in 1 week. They've only been married for about a year, right before he got deployed they got ...
A. 21 November 2009: I wouldn't worry about being around the child as it grows up I'd be worried about staying alive when he finds out. ... (read in full...)
Can girls feel you cum inside of them?
Q. I have a weird question. I hooked up with this girl for the first time (without a condom, stupid I know) and she rode me for a few minutes and came on my penis. After she finished cumming she asked me if I had cum inside of her and I was puzzled ...
A. 25 September 2009: Generally no, but your response can tell them when you have come.... (read in full...)
Shall I go and talk to him even if he's a jerk and a liar?
Q. What is happening ? I and my boyfriend we are together since 2 years , recently I noticed that he became different person , he changed , like he doesn’t want me , if I hug him he said I hate hugging If I want sex , he said I hate sex , if I wanna ...
A. 25 September 2009: You have already made up your mind by moving out. His message to you is clear through facebook, how much more suffering do you need to go through before you understand this. Move on, this is the time. ... (read in full...)
I don't want him to notice or talk about big boobs, mines are small!
Q. ok so im 18...and I wear a 34 A.. im beautiful yes but im so self concious.. I wish I at least had a B. my mom had smaller boobs than me all the way up til she was 30 then she got a boob job but i hate wen my boyfriend is around his friends they all ...
A. 11 September 2009: What's wrong with a 34A I think they are great, can't see the problems from my perspective. Look, its just the image created by advertisers that screw people up, yesterday thin was in now bigger big boobs are better then some women have them cut ... (read in full...)
My friend keeps hitting on my boyfriend!
Q. ive been going out with this boy 4 atleast a month now and my mate has a boyfriend in a diffrent school and she just flirts with my boyfriend alot and me and my b.f talk on msn and he says he doesnt like her shes a dog and stuff but it really p...
A. 11 September 2009: Just tell her she is pissing you off and to back off if she still wants you to be her friend.... (read in full...)
Divorced and remarried, but I am still in love with my ex-husband
Q. I was married for 30 yrs. We divorced, and I remarried almost a year later. He has not. The problem is we still love each other, and I dont think I love my new husband like I do my first husband. I dont think it is fair to keep this marrige going ...
A. 11 September 2009: Pain and joy from a past so long shared cannot be erased easily and for some (probably most) is imbedded deeply into their consciousness. It isn't easy to live with someone that long and forget it all in the blink of an eye, and 1-2 years isn't long ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend's son!
Q. I have fallen in love with my best friends son who is 21 i am 39 we have had a little contact sexually but nothing is happening i am married and he has a girl friend. i can't get him out of my head, we have not had full sex at all but I dream of him ...
A. 10 September 2009: Maybe turning 40 is a little too much to face at the moment and this experience makes you feel young and attractive again, it is a diversion to the impending reality. Its obsessive nature is also a good indicator of you fear of turning over the big ... (read in full...)
He said we need a break, but I found a used condom...
Q. I don't even know where to begin. My boyfriend told me today that we need a break. It completely blindsided me. As far as I knew we were fine, even sleeping together not even two days prior. Today, though, I found a used condom in his garbage that ...
A. 10 September 2009: He is having sex elsewhere and feeling guilty about how you feel so keeping in contact with you makes him feel less guilty. Cut all communication with him and you will find a very different response. ... (read in full...)
Does downloading 50 gb of porn equate to the use of a vibe?
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 25 years old. We've been dating for around 2.5 years. Things are far from perfect, mostly concerning him and other women, and also my own insecurities. Anyhow, recently, the issue with us has been that of porn. In rece...
A. 10 September 2009: I'm not a woman so you won't get that perspective but I can tell you that downloading that much porn is like having a very serious alcoholic in the relationship. He is making the comparison with the vibrator because that is all he has to work with, ... (read in full...)
My situation is a little confusing...
Q. My situation is a little confusing. I met this guy 4 months ago. We like each other a lot. There is a serious possibility of a long term relationship, but no verbal commitment till date. He seems to genuinely care for me and I do too. But, I ...
A. 10 September 2009: He may be inquisitive but thats still not a good sign. You will probably get a reasonable answer if you ask him about it. Still ask him anyway and watch his response then monitor him eg continue to check the computer every so often, if it becomes ... (read in full...)
Each time my boyfriend goes away on a business trip I find condoms in his bag, and we don't even use them!
Q. My boyfriend of 6 years went on a business trip last weekend. When he came back, I found a receipt for condoms. We don't use condoms. He says he was the one responsible for till slips for the team. but, why would someone try and claim condoms from ...
A. 8 September 2009: He's lying. Surprised he didn't make a greater effort to cover up, must mean something??... (read in full...)
I'm so guilty that I cheated on my husband. Should I tell him?
Q. A few days ago, I slept with a male friend while my husband was out of town visiting relatives. It only happened, once, i swear, and I did not intend for it to happen. I didn't set out looking to cheat, it's something that just happened. We'd had a ...
A. 8 September 2009: You don't need to say anything. You know you made a mistake and its over and you have learned from it, in fact it may help you to love your husband even more. Unexpected life experiences can do that sometimes. Leave it as it is and move on to an ... (read in full...)
Was I right to break my girlfriend's ex's leg and jaw because he used to hit her and cheat on her?
Q. look im a 15 year old kick boxer. i been with this girl ever since elementry i really like her. I broke her ex boy friends jaw and leg because he cheated on her and he hit her a couple of times. am I right or wrong....
A. 31 August 2009: All she will now see in you is violent and out of control. He should have you busted. Many relationships are messy at times and need to be sorted out by them. If someone else thinks you treated a woman badly...in their eyes will it be ok if they low ... (read in full...)
He threw me out because I don't agree with him all the time
Q. My boyfriend kicked me out of our home on sunday, leaving me heart broken and homeless. his reasons were basically to cut a long story short that i react differently to him in situations and this frustrates him, im a very emotional person. I have ...
A. 27 August 2009: It doesn't matter if he is playing with your head or not, why would your want to stay with such a horrible person, your life is worth more than that. Find someone who wants to hold you until you fall asleep and is still staring at you when you wake ... (read in full...)
Once a cheat always a cheat? Can you be faithful to "the one"?
Q. I have cheated in the past but then I thought I had met the "one" and I could never do it to them. People say once a cheat always a cheat I don't believe this. Does anyone think that once you have messed someone around its simply because they are...
A. 27 August 2009: That is such a silly saying, whoever said it was a a bitter and angry person.... (read in full...)
I'm 38, she's 19 and she wants a relationship.
Q. I am 38 years old and have recently been getting quite close with a very very beautiful 19 year old work colleague ( I am not her boss ).She is very mature, and works part time as a fashion model. She has told me she wants a relationship. We haven't ...
A. 27 August 2009: She asked you so go for it, not every male who has a relationship with a younger woman is a dirty old man, and you certainly don't seem to be.... (read in full...)
Found emails he sent to another woman. Did he cheat or not?
Q. i found out that my husband had some kind of relationship with another woman (don't know how far it went). He assures me that nothing happened, but the emails that he sent her, the words he told her sounded like he was either in love or had a huge ...
A. 27 August 2009: He could have been having a 'non sexual fling' like having fun and being cheeky without actually doing it. Its sort of like an option to an affair. ... (read in full...)
I found out she cheated on me a year ago!
Q. My partner and I have been together for four and a half years. Since the middle of our sophomore year of college. We started at the same graduate school last year and I'm planning on finishing with my Master's in Education while she wants to go on ...
A. 27 August 2009: Your lucky she cheated on you, it helped her realise she made a mistake and it brought her closer to you and created a closer relationship,... (read in full...)
Was the waitress hitting on me?
Q. I was at a waterfront restaurant with my friend and our waitress gave us food and all and there was another hot girl painting kids faces for some reason idk and the waitress asked while looking at me if we would like to get our faces painted I said ...
A. 27 August 2009: You would have found out if you got your face painted with her, the rest now is guess work.... (read in full...)
I hear my dad masturbating and it's really bothering me!
Q. Hi, i am a 14 year old female and i have a big problem! my dad keeps constantly masturbating and its really bothering me! he gets up at the middle of the night to turn on the TV and masturbate and its really disturbing! like the noises he make!! ...
A. 27 August 2009: Just tell him that you can hear strange noises from the tv room if he could lower the tv. That should embarass him in a non threatening way and modify his behaviour. ... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex to to stop playing with my emotions?
Q. My ex bf publically humiliated me through facebook. He wrote a message so everyone, all his friends etc, could see, making fun of me and putting me down because of my values, such as not drinking, wanting to wait for sex etc. Why would he want to ...
A. 27 August 2009: Why are you wasting your time with this guy? Why would you put yourself through this. He can only play with your emotions if you give them to him to do so. You need to pull yourself together and move on. ... (read in full...)
I think I'm just his date for the moment
Q. I have been dating a guy for a month. I feel worried that I am just someone he is dating for the moment (and I am getting very deep feelings for him). He never tells me how he feels about me--like if he loves me, or even if he just cares about me. ...
A. 26 August 2009: If you push this he will run, you are expecting too much. Be patient.... (read in full...)
Will this older man take me seriously in the future?
Q. I'm almost 17 years old and he's almost 35. This Fall will mark the third year of my feelings for him. After I was no longer his student he was okay w/ seeing me/chatting for a few hours online/public places, and I always had 1 friend w/ me, when ...
A. 26 August 2009: You will never have the same relationship.He got caught out, you might as well walk away because he won't allow you in now anyway.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't last long enough
Q. help my boyfriend cums too soon. we have tried everything to slowing down to less foreplay he cums in less than 4 mins no joke. any ideas on how to help me? thanks...
A. 21 August 2009: Just get a spray/gel called lignocane about 9% strength should do it, use it with a condom to start then without when he is ready/. Should sort the problem quickly and give him more confidence and better control. If he doesn't use a condom he may ... (read in full...)
I'm in a new relationship and worried I may have gotten an STD! I don't want this to ruin things!
Q. I recently became involved in a relationship with the most incredible woman and things have been going very well. However, lat week I began not feeling so well downstairs and became concerned that I might have contracted and STD. I have held off ...
A. 18 August 2009: Wait and see tomorrow before doing anything, your anxiety is leading you to panic.... (read in full...)
Should I continue to confide in my sister?
Q. I think my sister has seriously thought about killing my husband. My husband is not a good person, and the more i confide in her, i think it just makes her angerier, and if he was gone it really would be better for me and the children. He isn't ...
A. 18 August 2009: If you let her know you have an exit plan she will find it easier to listen to you without being so angry.... (read in full...)
He seems insensitive - should I dump him?
Q. Hi - I have been with my boyfriend 3 years but I am worrying we are just not compatible because every now and then he says the most insensitive things. Just one example which plays on my mind and still upsets me was before Xmas my 92 year old ...
A. 18 August 2009: He is just selfish, self centred and uncaring. When you challenge him I'm sure he can't understand what the fuss is about. Unless you want a life time of this behaviour it would be best for you to cancel your ticket and close your ears to his ... (read in full...)
Will women be put off by man who's only had one sexual partner?
Q. Hi, Im wondering do women think its a turn off if aguy who is in his early 30s has had only one sexual partner in the past. It was a long term relationship that didnt work out and I now wonder if women will be put off by it? Thanks....
A. 18 August 2009: Most will love it, its a bit like an artist having a blank canvas to work with, who knows what beauty they can create.... (read in full...)
I feel like he's playing me, should I let him go?
Q. Should I stop dating this guy? Here's my story, I am single parent of three. I own my own house, have a career, and make a good amount of money. The guy I'm dating has no kids, and makes way less than I do. He currently is staying with me due to g...
A. 13 August 2009: Its not whether you should go but how fast you can get him out of the house.... (read in full...)
Am I obliged to look after my mother when she abused me as a child?
Q. So, Do I have any obligation to take care of my aged Mother who was abusive to me? I very rarely have migraines now, but I had them regularly in my childhood and teenage years and later, whenever my parents came to visit. My mother was probably...
A. 13 August 2009: You have a simple choice you can live with the guilt of not looking after her or live through the pain and suffering your mother will inflict on you. if you look after your mother you can be absolutely sure she will live to a very old age so she ... (read in full...)
Why will she no longer let me cum in her mouth?
Q. hello there, i find myself getting a little frustrated/resentful these days and have gone to counselling and been very open about the matter with my fiance. now i understand this topic may sound offensive or degrading to some women/men on h...
A. 6 August 2009: For some guys a blow job is simply the best sexual experience ever. For those who don't understand just think of the very best sex possible for you something that really does turn you on and then for whatever realise find that you will never be able ... (read in full...)
Our marriage fell apart, now he's seeing another woman after 3 weeks! How could he move on so quick? And what did his silence mean?
Q. My husband asked for a divorce after 7 years because I put my children (from a previous marriage) before him. Three weeks later he is dating another woman. For closure I needed to know how he could move on so fast and just act like I never existed. ...
A. 6 August 2009: The silence means that he agrees with you, that you loved him more then he loved you, no relationship has two people loving each other to the same capacity it's just not possible, so one will always love the other more. The other bit about the other ... (read in full...)
I just found out that my boyfriend slept with my mom!
Q. This may sound a little sick and twisted and that's cause it is. My boyfriend was my brothers best friend growing up (he's 10 yrs older than me). He's been a friend of the family for years. We have been together going on 4 yrs (no kids or talks ...
A. 5 August 2009: You can't expect your mother to reveal something like that to you, why would she take the chance of ruining her relationship with you by doing that. He is a dope for mentioning it and quite frankly would be the kind of thing to do to end a ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's using me since he's from another country?
Q. My boyfriend is 14 years younger, I'm 47, maybe playing a game with me... A week ago he asked me to marry him, what was really making me very happy, as he is a dream come true to me, but when he saw I changed my status on facebook, he got mad ,tha...
A. 5 August 2009: Strange thing to be upset about you'd think he would want to scream it from the roof tops. He is up to something and wants to do it without anyone knowing. Is it an internet relationship, is he here as a visitor, is he looking for a green card Need ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does nothing to help! Am I being used?
Q. im 23 with 2 kids. i got with my new boyfriend just over a year ago. he as 2 kids he was grate at 1st but i feel like he's babysitter now as he is never in and when he is in he on the laptop. he dosnt help me do owt or look after any of the kids. am ...
A. 5 August 2009: You need to give him a big wake up call. Tell him how you feel and if he shows any understanding then allocate him regular jobs that are his responsibility and keep him to them otherwise the pattern for the future for you will be the same as it is ... (read in full...)
Will he ever give me a second chance?
Q. I was seeing a guy very seriously who had been single for many years...(18) and we were talking marriage, etc and I got nervous and just broke it off...NOW, I'm beating myself up for it.....I thought I was doing what was right by my kids, but didn't ...
A. 5 August 2009: If you do anything more you will look like you are begging which won't look good. If he changes his mind he'll call you can't do anything more for now.... (read in full...)
Went to a massage parlor- how do I tell my wife about this?
Q. About a week ago I had a massage and didn't know it was a brothel until it was too late. I generally a massage every 4 weeks at a reputable place but recently they were not available so I went to one that was advertised near my home. I checked it ...
A. 5 August 2009: Thanks for the advice, I hope you are both right or you could get another post, hope not.... (read in full...)
If I keep going out with him without feeling a connection, am I leading him on?
Q. I met this man and he is a nice person and I open really slowly so I usually need to spend lots of time with someone before I'm really into that person. He's a nice man, polite and seems to be very into me( calls me often, texts me, keeps asking me ...
A. 5 August 2009: He is too complex, too much hard work, dishonest, disrespectful to your wishes and acts as if nothing is wrong, I'd catch a fast moving train in the opposite direction.... (read in full...)
If I keep going out with him without feeling a connection, am I leading him on?
Q. I met this man and he is a nice person and I open really slowly so I usually need to spend lots of time with someone before I'm really into that person. He's a nice man, polite and seems to be very into me( calls me often, texts me, keeps asking me ...
A. 13 July 2009: If he doesn't laugh with you or understand you, has nothing in common with you and you can't communicate with him then why do you think you should be spending time with him. Put him out of his suffering and let him go.
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