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writes:My ex bf publically humiliated me through facebook. He wrote a message so everyone, all his friends etc, could see, making fun of me and putting me down because of my values, such as not drinking, wanting to wait for sex etc. Why would he want to hurt me like this? I feel so angry and confused right now. I feel like he is playing with my emotions. He then tells me how he still cares about me so much. How can he say that? what sort of game is he playing? He makes me feel bad for being who I am. Im sure his friends think hes a great tough guy now after reading him put me down on facebook. His friends would always think its funny for guys to bash their gfs etc...thats the type of guys he hung around, and i guess my bf wasnt much better. Although he never physically hurt me, i guess i was lucky because it could of happened, maybe just didnt get to that point yet.He makes me feel bad for being who i am, like as if there is something to be ashamed of and wrong about it. Should i say something to him, or message him or ignore it? Hes also been calling me really early in the morning/late at night and setting his phone to private so i cant see the number, and when i pick up, he will hang up. Im 99% sure its him. Why is he playing with my emotions like this? How can i get him to stop?
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reader, Your friend +, writes (27 August 2009):
 Why are you wasting your time with this guy? Why would you put yourself through this. He can only play with your emotions if you give them to him to do so. You need to pull yourself together and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): He is trying to make himself feel better now that you're not together in front of his friends. If you broke up with him, then it's about him being better off without you anyway because you were "no fun" according to their immature standards. If he broke up with you then it's pretty similar as a dumb blokey explanation of why, warranting congratulations from his friends because now he can go out and get sex. He has no idea what he wants, hence the mixed messages. You're very lucky to be out of this relationship by the sounds of it. I think you should ignore the facebook stuff, turn your phone off at night while you're asleep so you don't get woken up and don't answer any private number calls for at least a couple of weeks so he loses interest.
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reader, Lillydoll90  +, writes (27 August 2009):
Baby duck is right.
You are wastin your time with him. Letting go is very very hard but is the best thing to do some time..what if he does that again? Facebook can be updated in seconds...I know you is true you shouldn't feel anything because he is being a a$$hole but really no one wants be anyones idea of a joke. So get out of the situation before you become a permanent fix for his ridicolous idea of humor
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reader, devastated2008 +, writes (27 August 2009):
 I am so sorry that your ex has done this to you. It is definitely about him and not you. You should feel proud of your morals and high standards, don't let his abuse change anything about you.
Are you a Christian or are you just making excellent choices? Either way, I would advise that you continue to take the highroad. Don't respond in kind just continue being you... don't be him.
The friends and others who read his facebook may make fun of you... but secretly they admire you and don't have the guts to do what you do. If you just smile and go on with life and don't let it stress you, it will just go away soon.
If you're a Christian, pray for him... but do not take him back. Good luck.
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