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writes:I have fallen in love with my best friends son who is 21 i am 39 we have had a little contact sexually but nothing is happening i am married and he has a girl friend. i can't get him out of my head, we have not had full sex at all but I dream of him all the time its so hard when I'm at my friends house and he doesn't always speak to me what can i do its killing me pleas help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2017): The blatant English errors make this hard to believe it was written by an adult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): When you say you have had a little contact sexually, can you elaborate a little, please?
However, I think that as you are married, you should keep each other at arms length, at least for a while until you are certain that this younger man is right for you.
Do bear in mind that he has a girlfriend and he may be perfecttly happy with her for all you know!
I am in a similar position, I am 22 and have been seeing a 49 year old woman, although we are open with each other, by that I mean, people we know, know we are dating and are generally fine with it!
Keep us posted!
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reader, LauraWindy +, writes (10 September 2009):
First of all, I strickly support the fact that you shouldn't cheat while you're in a relationship, let alone when you're married. He also has a girlfriend. Do you think it's fair to your husband and the guy's girlfriend? Of course it isn't.
Personally, I think your case is more passion than it's love. Maybe your attraction to him has to do more with physical things rather than something deeper that could be considered to be love. Don't let that ruin your marriage and his relationship. You must always keep in mind, that even if "age doesn't matter", being with a 22 year old boy that has his whole life ahead of him isn't something to joke about. You wouldn't want destroying your marriage over something temporary that could harm the lot of you. Do you have children? Think of just how they would feel if it were for you to start dating an 22 year old boy behind your husband's and their back.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (10 September 2009):
 Maybe turning 40 is a little too much to face at the moment and this experience makes you feel young and attractive again, it is a diversion to the impending reality. Its obsessive nature is also a good indicator of you fear of turning over the big one. Its so encompasing that its all you can think of.... and blocks all you'd prefer not to think of.
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reader, hernandez  +, writes (10 September 2009):
 I think u need to move on..First of all he is to young for you. This is not healthy. You need to put some space between you and your best friend.I would stay away from her house and meet her out or have her come to your house when you get together.The boy has his whole life ahead of him and he don't need the confusion of a 39 year old woman messing it up. I have a 22 year old son and I would not want that for him.Stay with your husband.
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