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writes:I think my sister has seriously thought about killing my husband. My husband is not a good person, and the more i confide in her, i think it just makes her angerier, and if he was gone it really would be better for me and the children. He isn't phsyical with me and the children, but it seems anything else if fair game in his eyes. he cheats, he lies, and steals. He is emotionally abusive and neglectful. Should I just not confide in her anymore? I have working on getting out, but it takes time and planning. I know my sister loves me and is sick and tired of the way he treats me, but should I shield her from the really dark parts of the marriage? I do not have too many people to talk to about it.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (18 August 2009):
 you should talk to your husband about your concerns not your sister shel make things harder for you to deal with although she may be looking out for you at the same time because she cares it could put more unecessary stress on your plate.if things are that bad arrange to go stay with a friend or a relative until you get yourself sorted and leave your husband a letter stating your reasons for leaving
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (18 August 2009):
 If you let her know you have an exit plan she will find it easier to listen to you without being so angry.
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reader, rcn +, writes (18 August 2009):
 If you're working on getting out, I wouldn't confide in her. She kills him, you leave, then you'd be out of a sister. I know what you mean by strategic planning. My ex was not all there mentally, due to a major behavior disorder. I had to plan. Did hour upon hour of research on how I could without causing harm to my kids. Lucky we had none together.
Don't procrastinate long in finding out how to get out. The longer you stay the longer you're exposing your kids to the mental abuse. I hope everything works out for you. It's hard making a change, but I'll tell you when I did relief was all I felt. Take care.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (18 August 2009):
 If you seriously think she would kill him, then perhaps you shouldnt tell her. He sounds awfull, so make plans to get away as soon as you can. Your sister wont be much help to you in prison will she?
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (18 August 2009):
 You could get an account and talk to people on cupid, maybe you shouldnt tell your sister to mutch killing your husband will make things worse not better he may not be around but neither will you think of your children.
you need to get your self out if its that bad, start preparing. ignore your husband if hes not hurting you or the children physically let him be focus on you. get your fairs and accounts in order so you can break free of this guy document his abuse record it dont let him catch you, you may need to figth for custody and his behavior will work against him solid proof is better then he said she said.
be smart play the game and youll come out a winner. good luck. dont klllll himmmm.
awww I just noticed your age your really young you need to get out soon and start over you can do it God can help
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