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writes:im 23 with 2 kids. i got with my new boyfriend just over a year ago. he as 2 kids he was grate at 1st but i feel like he's babysitter now as he is never in and when he is in he on the laptop. he dosnt help me do owt or look after any of the kids. am i been used ??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): Not just used but taken advantage of. 4 kids at the age of 23 is quite a handful of resposibility for one person, especially when two of them aren't even yours! He needs to know that you're seriously pissed off at his lack of responsibility, especially where the kids are concerned.
Tell him to shape up or ship out - and take his kids with him. That should concentrate his mind. In fact, I think I'd dump him anyway unless there's a very rapid drastic improvement in his attitude.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (5 August 2009):
 You need to give him a big wake up call. Tell him how you feel and if he shows any understanding then allocate him regular jobs that are his responsibility and keep him to them otherwise the pattern for the future for you will be the same as it is now.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (5 August 2009):
 You should talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. Ask him to help around the house. Set up a chore chart where everyone is assigned responsibilities.
If he doesn't start picking up the slack, look for a new boyfriend.
Good luck.
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