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writes:I recently became involved in a relationship with the most incredible woman and things have been going very well. However, lat week I began not feeling so well downstairs and became concerned that I might have contracted and STD. I have held off voicing my concerns to her until imy blood test results come back to avoid causing any unnecessary drama, but results come back tomorrow and I'm a nervous wreck about what to say if they come back positive. FYI: I have not cheated on her, and had not had unprotected sex for about a year before I had met her. When we 1st became intimate, she assured me that she had been recently tested and didn't have anything. I'm also sure that she hasn't cheated. We both care about each other very much, I'm very worried about to drama and mistrust that this could potentially bring into our relatively new relationhip should it turn out I have something. Anyone ever been in a situation like this before? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): I'm the guy who originally posted.
So the tests came back negative. The urologist told me it was pretty much just regular acute inflamation. Thanks for the advice guys. I was getting really worried there for a second. Not telling her was never really an option had it turned out that I had something. Whoever said "tell her now" I'm glad I didn't follow ur advise and call her while she was visiting family overseas to worry her about nothing.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (18 August 2009):
 If the results do come back positive then you just need to tell her what you have told all of us. Explain that you havent had unprotected sex for a year, that you have no been unfaithful etc. And when you do get your results (if they are positive) then ask for an explanation from your doctor - get a good medical reason why it hasnt shown up for a year (or something along those lines). If you get a full medical explanation from the doctor then you can just repeat that to your girlfriend and she wont have any reason to doubt you.
The most important thing is that you have got tested and are being responsible. By the sounds of it you guys have a great relationship so I am sure she will be ok with it, she might be a little shocked at first but if you really like someone then something like this can be forgiven quite easily. Think about how you would feel if it were the other way around - I'm sure you would be a bit surprised but you trust her so you would take her word and just forget about it.
The chances are that it might be something else going on down there if you havent had unprotected sex for over a year, STD's dont normally lay dormant with no symptoms for that long! Just remember to stay positive, and if worse comes to worse just be honest and have a sound bit of medical knowledge to back you up!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (18 August 2009):
 Wait and see tomorrow before doing anything, your anxiety is leading you to panic.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (18 August 2009):
 Tell her now! Look up on Google about STD too.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (18 August 2009):
 You have to be honest with her regardless. If you are positive for am STD, then its your duty to tell her. You can repair a relationship, but not if you put her health in danger. This one is on you and if you hold this back and you have something, that is as bad as using a weapon on her.
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