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writes:I have been dating a guy for a month. I feel worried that I am just someone he is dating for the moment (and I am getting very deep feelings for him). He never tells me how he feels about me--like if he loves me, or even if he just cares about me. He does text me every day and calls several times throughout the week. We just see each other on Friday and Saturday nights.Do you think it's just a given that he does care for me since he texts and calls? He said when he married his wife (he has been divorced for a year), they got engaged after two months and then married after nine months.What do you think? I don't want to bring it up that I care for him (and feel like I love him already). I am afraid that it would scare him off.The other thing is that I feel a real connection with him. I am just hoping that he feels that connection too. I'm just afraid that he doesn't feel the same.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (26 August 2009):
 Sweetie, sounds like this guy wants to take things slow... sounds like he does like you and wants to be with you but perhaps because of what he went thru with his ex, he is a bit hesitant to move too quickly.Dont be too needy or clingy as he might decide to run.. rather keep things going as they are...Honeygirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): Well since his marriage didn't work out, he's probably thinking it's a better idea to take things a lot slower this time! You see each other friday and sat nights, so he's obviously not dating anyone else, which I think is a big enough step for only being a month into dating. If I was dating a guy who was as keen as yours, I'd be feeling smothered already! To me it sounds like he likes you a lot, but wisely wants to take things a little slow. I think it could quite likely scare him off if you start dropping hints about loving him already, since he's only been divorced for a year. If I were you I'd keep getting to know him for a few more months at least before starting to talk about feeling a strong connection. My guy was quite recently out of a long term relationship when we got together and I noticed he would back off slightly after I dropped hints about caring for him etc, so I left it till he felt comfortable and started chasing after a commitment from me. It took over 6 months but I think it's a much better way to go about it with a guy who's maybe still working through some past issues or doesn't want to rush into anything.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (26 August 2009):
 If you push this he will run, you are expecting too much. Be patient.
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