I'm feeling low and lost, so I masturbate... I can't stop!
Q. I need help, I can't stop masturbating every day, sometimes a few times daily. I'm single and hate it. I've been depressed and I can feel myself slipping back down again as I've just lost my job and so I have nothing. I feel so low and stuck in...
A. 13 October 2005: Its natural to masturbate and alot of men are in the same shoes as you, as it makes them feel better for a little while.
You need to get advice about beign depressed, onced you have sorted that out and have got a gf then you wont do that so often... (read in full...)
Why do women find "bad boys" so attractive?
Q. This is a question aimed at women (however, men are just as welcome to reply) Why do girls choose the bad boys? I mean why do you pick those that treat you like shit and play/cheat on you then those that respect and are honest to you? One th...
A. 11 October 2005: Woah! thanks for the replies... But whats the stereotype about that those that treat women properly are fat and ugly, and the ones that treat women crap are good looking?? I'm talking about people who are "good" not DESPERATE men who are cli... (read in full...)
Orgasm questions...
Q. Is there a difference bewteen an orgasm and a climax? What about if you can't get an orgasm vaginally? And is it true that anal sex is dangerous? ...
A. 10 October 2005: "Climax is the top most point of an orgasmic experience"
They sorta the same thing, they are used interchangably.... (read in full...)
Is it time to dump my boyfriend?
Q. I cant deal with my boyfriend anymore. He always thinks I'm doing something wrong and picks out things wrong with me and won't let me have male friends, which isnt fair. Do you think I should get rid of him? ...
A. 10 October 2005: Yes, you have doubts about him and you want to dump him however you want to make sure you doing the right thing...
...do what you feel so yeah get rid of him!... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to understand that I only want her?
Q. I've been with my current girlfriend for the last 5 and a half years. Throughout these last few years she has been very jealous of my female friends. Over the years she must of accused me of having affairs or being attracted to almost all of them. ...
A. 10 October 2005: too many doubts for a serious relationship, she doesnt trust you one bit.... (read in full...)
We met, we clicked, we talked, we cuddled. Then I ran into him a few days later and... nothing!
Q. Hey there ^_^ Please please please please help me out with this problem if you can as I have been boring my flatmates with this for a looong time. OK, I think I know what a lot of you will say but I'm going to tell you guys anyway. Right....
A. 10 October 2005: I only get 100 points then... :(
You sound proper kewl
Oh damn, i dno wot 2 say, im sure someone else can help
you occupied alot of my day, and it beats reading a book! :)
I take it you have a mobile number, just didnt want to give ... (read in full...)
He told me so many sweet things about our future, but now he avoids me
Q. I've been dating this guy for about 8 months. I thought everything was going good until he dumped me. He told me so many things like marrying me and having kids with me... after a while, I believed him. It was less heartbreaking when he said he ...
A. 10 October 2005: he seems to be a lying joker...... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to tell me everything... and I mean everything!
Q. When my boyfriend and I were first going out, he told me A LOT of personal stuff about himself like how he had an HIV test (results were NEGATIVE) and he had a stuttering problem sometimes and he had two things on his testicles that he was going to ...
A. 10 October 2005: Stop being a bitch, these things are very PERSONAL things to tell someone, he TRUSTS you alot and you should be grateful.
Its a shame, i feel sorry for him when you start to cheat on him or whatever, he deserves better, you seem just to doubt an... (read in full...)
Neither of us have a lot of money, so why do I have to pay for our entertainment?
Q. My bf and I don't have well-paying jobs at the moment and sometimes I get angry or frustrated when he expects me to pay for our outings--I just feel like guys have the privilege to enjoy a girl's company and should at least make the effort to pay ...
A. 10 October 2005: get rid of him
get rid of the sexist stereotype that guys SHOULD and MUST pay for BOTH - you should pay for your own, he is not showing you any RESPECT by expectign you to help him out, go TALK to HIM... (read in full...)
Do I have to fondle my boyfriend, if I let him touch me intimately?
Q. If my bf (I hate to be so graphic) fingers me, would I have to touch him in return? Wouldn't he expect that if I were to let him touch me?...
A. 8 October 2005: Do what you feel is right, if you dont naturally want to do nothing back then its probably not best to allow him to do it.... (read in full...)
My guy won't introduce me to his folks. Is it because I'm black?
Q. Hello, I'm 20 yrs old black beauty. Been a serious relationship with this guy who is asian. My problem is ever time I ask to speak to his folks he never wants me to. He keeps promising me that he will do an intro. Well I know his mum and him are ...
A. 5 October 2005: NO its not because you are BLACK!
It seems you have so many insecurities anout yourself.
He probably is just embarrassed or as he hates his mum and his mum hates him he probably just protecting you and not bringing you into a potential argume... (read in full...)
Don't want to rush, but don't want to miss my chance with this girl, either...
Q. I met a girl and I'm falling for her, problem is that I just got out a long relationship. I'm sure she's into me and she is what I've learned from my past that I want to have in my life. I'm worried about her talking with others and then I will lose ...
A. 5 October 2005: The three point success to Bill Gates (Worlds richest man if you didnt know)
* 1. Being there at the right TIME
* 2. Having the VISION
* 3. (the most important), taking ACTION!
Who cares if you just got out of a long relationsh... (read in full...)
Am I too dependant on the man I love?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend David for 5 1/2 years. We are high school sweethearts and soul mates. I feel like this is rather pathetic that I am bothering someone else with my problems but I need help. Like I said, David and I love each other. We ...
A. 5 October 2005: Well, you have got him wrong and need to move on, he doesnt want you, if he was that nice he wouldnt hang up when you start crying.
You would have to talk but i dont think he any longer feels the same about you and probably is seeing someone ... (read in full...)
Rejected one time and I don't feel like I can ask my partner for sex ever again...
Q. I have a problem. I can never bring myself to ask my partner for sex. He has mentioned this to me as well. I did once a few years ago and he rejected me. It was really hard to ask but after that incident I feel I could never ask again. What's wrong ...
A. 4 October 2005: dw, my biggest fear is being Rejected. Ok, its got nout to do with asking for sex, but consider yourself lucky, a few things that really bother me:
* im scared to socialise with strangers incase im rejected
* my friends are all long term friends... (read in full...)
When I masturbate, I have no problems, but when it comes to sex, I can't get hard...
Q. Hi. I am a gay man recently out and every time I meet a guy and engage in sex I can't get hard. I have no problem masturbating on my own, in fact I love it. Can you help me please?...
A. 4 October 2005: Confidence lack makes the problem alot worse, surely, it doesnt totally matter, aslong as the other guy can get hard?
It will take a while for you to get use to it and then u wont have any problems.... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with thinking about someone other than my partner when I'm pleasing myself?
Q. I need to know if it is normal for me to have sexual fantasies about men other than my fiance. When I am alone, and *ahem* pleasing myself, I sometimes think of someone other than my fiance. It's not someone I know well or see all the time. I don't ...
A. 4 October 2005: idc what anyone says, whether a male or female does it, it is unfaithful, however, it isnt cheating and it is perfectly natural and almost everyone does it.
Opening your mouth about it WILL cause problems and can dent TRUST.
If my gf said... (read in full...)
I've found evidence that my girlfriend is playing up with someone else, but how do I bring it up?
Q. I have recently receieved information from a mutual friend of my girlfriend of 4 years and I. He told me that a friend of his was bragging about hooking up with my girlfriend and how he was going to visit her at her college and have sex with her. He ...
A. 4 October 2005: She CHEATING on YOU, it makes NO DIFFERENCE if she has DONE it BEFORE or NOT! IT DOESNT MAKE IT ANY BETTER!
Then the usual cheating girlfriend approach of flipping the script so-2-speak by saying about that photo which is just of a mate...t... (read in full...)
My ex isn't interested in having another go with our relationship, but he still wants the sex!
Q. We still have sex! Me and my ex partner split up about 3 weeks ago now, and he said that he wanted us to remain friends as we have to children together. We sleep in seperate rooms but we have started having sex again recently. Just as I thought thi...
A. 4 October 2005: He is a bastard (excuse my french), he dont want a relationship with you, and is using the children for an excuse to get sex!
he doesnt want to be with you, he werent raping you, you wanted sex too, you are really fucked up emotionally - are you ... (read in full...)
Is he flirting with me, or just making conversation?
Q. An older guy that I me through work has made statements like " we can have any relationship we want " and " I'm 44...you're 34 .....we are on the same wavelength ..". Is he purely interested , or only flirting? Don't want to read the signals ...
A. 4 October 2005: Sorry, but he sounds a loser!
I wouldnt disagree with pops and xixi, however, i think the Doctor has hit the nail on the head, he is just after sex.... (read in full...)
I'm 16, male, and can't get another fella out of my mind...
Q. I recently did a work placement nearby and whilst there I saw this one guy and now I cant get him out of my head. I'm always thinking about him. I am only just turning 16, male and am confused. I want to know what it is so I can get on with life ...
A. 4 October 2005: Could be.
Are you "gay" or would classify yourself as "gay" and you simply want to know whether you are in love or not? Or are you confused with your sexuality?
I'm sure someone else can shread some light on this subject.
... (read in full...)
Never watched porn, so the mechanics of actual sex are a mystery to me!
Q. Hi. I have a problem, me and my girlfriend are both 18 and it's long-term (I'm a virgin, she's not). As I never really watched pornography or anything like that when I was younger, I'm really unaware of how to pleasure a woman. I've learnt to play ...
A. 4 October 2005: Well, this is a very common problem, without me advertising places, i think watching porn is the best way besides actually "doing it" to learn how its properly done, obviously, watching porn is #1 and doing it is #2 if you are a virgin. YOU SHOULD ... (read in full...)
We never have time to talk or see each other any more. Is it time to move on?
Q. Hey there, me and my gf have been going out for about 2 years now, after we left school she has gone to 6th form and we never have time for each other and it's making me depressed. I really really miss her and she misses me but i dont know if i can ...
A. 4 October 2005: I take it you are both lesbian or did you pick female instead of male?
Anyway, this is irrelevant...
You should start to move on, ok there are people you cant get over however much you try BUT its a natural fault that your relationship det... (read in full...)
Since I discovered my girl once slept with someone I know, I can't get the image out of my head!
Q. I'm with a girl I really really love, really deeply. But in a conversation when we was talking about our past sex lives I found out she had slept with somebody I know. It has begun to really bug me, to the point sometimes I don't look at her the ...
A. 4 October 2005: You have doubts, insecurities... and that mean you dont trust, and relationships are built on trust, so get the hell out! It isn't going to work.
You dont have deep love mate, you are having infatuations (a "crush") and since this insecuri... (read in full...)
One day after I lost my virginity to him, he's spreading rumours about me. I feel awful...
Q. Dear Cupid, I am only 16 years old and I just lost my virginity to this guy I am really into. Our relationship has been very on and off for the past year and we aren't even really dating right now. Some of our mutual friends are calling me a slut n...
A. 3 October 2005: I stand by the good advice given by the others.
A few points though:
"Our relationship has been very on and off for the past year"
Sex, should be an act between a male and a female (or same sex if they are gay/lesbian) who love ea... (read in full...)
I didn't ask the girl out. Now I think I've lost her friendship, too!
Q. Needing to find a way to redeem myself I work with a girl who I developed a strong liking for. Despite several opportunities to ask her out I kept clamming up because I kept thinking that she may not feel the same way and didn’t want to spoil th...
A. 3 October 2005: Be honest!
Telling your feelings: Its the hardest thing in the world to do!
tell her your feelings and be understandable, ok, you dont want this, but say you now have someone else who should treat you better and emphasize the fact and say tha... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and I think I'm a lesbian...
Q. I am only 15 and I think I am a lesi. I have slept with one guy and it just felt wrong. I keep looking at naked womon on the internet. What should I do?...
A. 3 October 2005: Why cant 15 yr olds be lesbian?
Are they too young to be gay?
Is there a law that you need to be over 18 to be gay/a lesbian?
It could be confusion with sexuality, but then again alot of middle-aged people have the same problem, when they ... (read in full...)
He freaked when I wanted to have a chat about what was up with our relationship...
Q. I met this great guy about 2 months ago and we starting seeing each other. It was going extremely well, he kept saying he liked me a lot and we got on famously, but then he was a bit distant as well sometimes. Because of the mixed signals, I decide...
A. 3 October 2005: What pops said.
... (read in full...)
He broke it off with me without even trying to fix what was wrong...
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 2 years and recently engaged and then dumped. He says he doesn't want a relationship as too many things were missing, although he loves me. I have explained to him that I behaved in the way I did to protect myself. I ...
A. 3 October 2005: In these situations it normally because he cheated on you and now he has left for someone else because the other female put her foot down saying that he will lose her and that she will tell you (therefore, he would lose both of you)...there is ... (read in full...)
I wouldn't know how to act around a boyfriend!
Q. I'm 15. I really like this boy at school but I don't know whether I should go out with him and I'm nervous because I've never had a boyfriend before. I wouldn't know how to react with although I know I have feelings for him. Please help me!!...
A. 3 October 2005: Dont think that there is a way to act to have and to keep a boyfriend.
I understand that as its a new area for you, you are going to naturally worry, BUT just be YOURSELF.
Now the only reason why he wouldnt want you is if he finds that you a... (read in full...)
Can I get my ex back from his pregnant girlfriend?
Q. I really like my ex boyfriend still, but the problem is now he has met someone else and she has fallen pregnant. He says he likes her but gives me signals he likes me too. I still really miss him. I just don't know what to do. I want him back....
A. 3 October 2005: i understand you like him, but you need to move on, he cant like you as much as he did, and theres that selfish element, shes pregnant and he is likely to be the father...the CHILD NEEDS A FATHER THATS ALWAYS THERE!! Your ex needs to stay with that ... (read in full...)
Why is this bloke winking at me? Is he interested?
Q. Is it normal for men to wink at you or are they trying to catch your eye because they fancy you? There is a bloke I see around from time to time and each time he sees me he always winks at me. He's a good looking guy but I wouldn't want to make an ...
A. 3 October 2005: Interested? Sounds a player to me!
Well, hes not seriously interested but if you play him two you both could have some fun together, but i cant see no serious relationship coming out of it.
I have never heard of it before, a bloke winking to... (read in full...)
Tired of faking orgasms. How do I have one with my boyfriend for real?
Q. I'm 19 years old and have been in 2 serious relationships. I have never had an orgasm although I really enjoy sex with my boyfriend. Is there anything I can do? Don't want to have to fake it anymore....
A. 3 October 2005: He probably knows about you faking it!
The main goal in sex for a bloke is to give a girl an orgasm, so if you faking it, he probably gives up (as he may think you already have got one), and thats why you dont reach orgasm.
Dont worry, y... (read in full...)
Do I stay in my bad relationship, or make a break and hope the love is as strong as I think it is with my online woman?
Q. I have been in a bad relationship for 14 years and about 4 months ago I fell in love with a girl online that lives in another country. About 3 weeks ago the online girl was diagnosed with ovarian cancer...I had been contemplating staying in my bad ...
A. 3 October 2005: REGARDLESS...wot the f**k you still doing in a bad relationship for 14 years?
You should break up, and take that online girl as a pinch of salt (like harshbutfair said). if the online girl doesnt turn out to be who she says she is then at least yo... (read in full...)
I keep losing my erection halfway through sex!
Q. I'm 19 years old. I can get an erection on my own perfectly, and with girls sometimes too through oral sex, or just teasing. But sometimes when I'm having sex I lose my erection half way through it. It happens a lot of times and it's really a...
A. 3 October 2005: FIRSTLY... Stay cool, stress can make men have problems getting an erection.
SECONDLY... This isn't anything to be ashamed of, many male porn stars (small percentage) lose theirs half way through and they are shagging one of the sexiest females ... (read in full...)
I've got his phone number. Can someone help me with advice on how to ask him out?
Q. I'm interested in a guy who works temp. for the same company I work for. For the past few weeks we've made small talk. He just recently told me that he was losing his job, so I offered to help get him another and exchanged phone numbers. Well, I ...
A. 2 October 2005: What anonymous says! Now dont tart up but wear less then you would normally otherwise do like dont wear jumper/cardigan/coat or if you do wear a very small thin one so if you say you are cold then he would believe you. What i would say is, make... (read in full...)
Sex gives me uncomfortable flashbacks of finding myself pregnant!
Q. I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant by a man who I’d been seeing for 9 months. He said that he would wait until I was ready before we had sex but one night on my birthday he took me out to a club, he got me drunk and took advantage of me. I ...
A. 2 October 2005: Almost makes me cry reading that and im glad you are marrying that bloke he sounds a diamond! Accepting another child as your own isn't easy. I'm also glad that you decided not to kill the baby by getting it aborted/terminated, it couldnt have ... (read in full...)
The man I'm dating seems to have had an ample sexual history...
Q. I have been seeng somone for a few months who seems to care about me but he has been telling me things about his past that I am finding it impossible to digest. He married his first wife at 22 and at 34 had an affair with her sister who came to ...
A. 2 October 2005: lol, i understand why you got doubts but for you to date and even still consider this person, you must think so similar to him and be a good match. You are a FEMALE yet you think its OK for a PERSON to ORGANISE BROTHELS? Did you know? 89... (read in full...)
Three in a bed and we were all drunk. I swear I thought it was my boyfriend touching me!
Q. I have done a really bad thing and I just don't know what to do! The other night my Boyfriend of 4 and a half years and myself stayed with one of our very close male friends. We shared his bed, which we have done before. I was in the middle. We w...
A. 27 September 2005: "You're a very loyal girlfriend and should be commended for that!!"
How is she loyal when she keeping secrets from him?
But part from that generally i agree with "I Dont Lie" (doesn't lie just distorts the truth abit sometimes)... (read in full...)
Three in a bed and we were all drunk. I swear I thought it was my boyfriend touching me!
Q. I have done a really bad thing and I just don't know what to do! The other night my Boyfriend of 4 and a half years and myself stayed with one of our very close male friends. We shared his bed, which we have done before. I was in the middle. We w...
A. 27 September 2005: You never cheated, you didnt want him touching you therefore its a sexual assault, if you keep it from your boyfriend he may find out and think you cheated which you didnt, you should tell him!
Then again its your fault, i understand why you woul... (read in full...)
The kiss didn't change anything, she says, but I feel like being more than friends!
Q. I need some help. Here is my situation. Two weeks ago, I met a girl, and she's amazing. We have a lot in common, and we became fast friends. She keeps making all these gestures that she likes me more than a friend, but I don't know. I'm going...
A. 27 September 2005: If i was in the situation, i personally would say that i want to be more then friends and if she doesnt i wouldnt want to be just mates...
It seems bad but maybe she says just as friends because shes frightened to speak her feelings and lose you... (read in full...)
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