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writes: I'm 19 years old and have been in 2 serious relationships. I have never had an orgasm although I really enjoy sex with my boyfriend. Is there anything I can do? Don't want to have to fake it anymore.
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reader, cheeky_minx1987 +, writes (3 October 2005):
experiment with yourself...dont freak out i no this sounds weird but this way you will find out what you really like and sometimes the guy likes to no what you want and then when hes doing the right thing and your telling him how much you like he feels good about himself too!! :D
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reader, smitty0421 +, writes (3 October 2005):
Penetration orgasms are harder to get than clitoral orgasms, and often better (based on who you ask). Try different postions to stimulate the G-Spot. The G-Spot is usually located 2-3 inches on the upper wall inside the vagina. Doggy Style is a very good G-Spot stimulator as it generally lets the penis stimulate the g-spot. Also, being on top and letting your partner rock your hips back and forth is also a good g-spot stimulator. Try different things and see what pleases you. Don't be afraid to tell your partner what you like and don't like. You have to teach men, we are not experts of pleasing women like some of us may think. =0)
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (3 October 2005):
 Many women fake orgasms for reasons such as allowing the man to think they are having a good time and to arouse the him too.
You need to be a little more selfish. Discover on your own what really turns you on. Use masturbation to seek out your arousal spots. This way, with your partner, you will be able to guide him to the areas that give you the most pleasure.
Try out using a vibrator to experiment too. Many women have found they are able to orgasm through using one and if that is the case, you could use it while making love with your partner or ask him to use it on you while guiding him as to what you like.
It is well documented that many women do not orgasm during intercourse but there are ways around this physiological disadvantage. For example, if you are on top, you or he could touch your clitoris to bring you to climax while he is inside you and you could also experiment with other positions to achieve the same goal.
Try out positions that allow for deeper penetration or whereby he can rub himself against your clitoris while he is inside you.
Extend foreplay so that you are extremely aroused prior to intercourse. Occasionally, if the timing is right, you could be tipped into orgasm becase you are so aroused and just at the very edge before intercourse.
Work out what really turns you on and use you discoveries within your love-making.
Faking orgasms will mean that your man will believe you are satisfied when you aren't really and though you do enjoy sex (which many women who don't experience orgasms with their partners often do) you can gain nore pleasure by being honest and guiding your partner to find ways that will enable you to really enjoy sex.
Good luck.
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (3 October 2005):
He probably knows about you faking it!
The main goal in sex for a bloke is to give a girl an orgasm, so if you faking it, he probably gives up (as he may think you already have got one), and thats why you dont reach orgasm.
Dont worry, you are normal! Not many women get an orgasm from sexual intercourse alone, many require foreplay prior to being able to reach one.
The things you can do are:
* Masturbation / Mutual Masturbation
* Get him to do foreplay with you 10-30 mins before hand
* Get him to use his tongue down there! Most women enjoy this and its the most common way to get an orgasm after masturbation
* Try a different position
* Try Anal
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2005): The man has to play his part in bringing a woman to an orgasm. A woman takes alot longer to get ready than a man. Make sure he shows time and patience in this area. Woman have certain pleasure spots and based on them areas alone most woman can orgasm even without intercourse with a man.
A good idea is to have your man give you a rub down, then place you on your back with your legs seperated. (you can use a blindfold at this time) then your parnter starts by kissing you all over while spreading your legs apart.
If he will take atleast 30 minutes getting you ready, hitting the pleasure spots, before intercourse you will get there.
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