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writes: I am only 15 and I think I am a lesi. I have slept with one guy and it just felt wrong. I keep looking at naked womon on the internet. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2005): dear one, first of all, most of the answers posted here are from men who are trying to dissuade you. only you know in your heart what you want. sexuality is more fluid, passing, changing than most people think.. just because you have feelings for a member of one sex does not mean you are forever locked into being quarantined into a group for life. whoever turns you on.. turns you on. just be true to yourself. don't let your ultimate desires rest on the shoulders of those who choose for you. take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2005): I think you should try to figure out your sexuality. You should experiment if you think it is necessary to find out if you do like women. If you think it still feels wrong, then, it was probably just the guy you slept with. Maybe he forced it onto you when you really didn't want to. Or maybe you had sex just to have sex even if it wasn't someone you care about.
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (3 October 2005):
Why cant 15 yr olds be lesbian?
Are they too young to be gay?
Is there a law that you need to be over 18 to be gay/a lesbian?
It could be confusion with sexuality, but then again alot of middle-aged people have the same problem, when they find out actually they might be bi or even gay.
You probably are a Lesbian, dont feel ashamed though! Theres nothing wrong with it!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (3 October 2005):
 You don't have to "do" anything. Like the other posters suggested, you could just be confused about your sexuality, or you might also be a late bloomer in terms of your sexual orientation.
Age 15 isn't too soon to realise you're a lesbian, for those young women who know it "in their bones", and have always known about their sexuality. But for young women like you, who don't really have a strong feeling either way, then you're probably worrying too soon.
Popular media (TV, music, videos) will give you the impression that every 13- and 14- or 15-year-old on the planet is having sex with every other one, and that if you're not in on that, then something's wrong with you. But that's just wrong. A large majority of girls and women are not sexually active at your age - with anyone! - either because they don't want to be, or choose not to be.
Sleeping with one guy and having it *not* rock your world (welcome to the club!) hardly means that you're necessarily a lesbian. You may be unconsciously looking at photos of women because some part of your mind thinks you "should", since you haven't so far been attracted to guys.
I'd suggest that you not be too quick to slap a label on yourself, until you feel sure that label fits. If you're a lesbian and happy about it, then it's no one's business but your own, and you have every reason to be happy with your orientation. But deciding that you're 'probably' a lesbian, just because you had a singular bad experience with a young man is being a bit too hasty.
After all, until you're actually involved with another person (male or female), who really cares what you call yourself?
Wait and see what types of people you're attracted to as the next couple of years roll on. And in the meantime, don't sleep with anyone unless you really, really have profound, long-term feelings for them. Anything else and you'll be setting yourself up for disappointment and hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2005): Do you think that you are really a lesiban. Think about the choices that you are making.Did you ever make out with a woman yet. You need to know what is wrong. Don't look at naked women on the internet anymore. Either your dealing with hetro or homo. Just do wants best for you. Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2005): I think you might be Bisexual or maybe just wondering and confused, you are young dont jump to concluions just wait till ur older and see if u like it with girls, its nothing 2 be ashamed of alot of girls get confused
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