Does no sex = no relationship?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together 10 years. She is 47, I am 36. When we first met (as is usual) we had sex frequently. Within a year of my moving in, sex became less frequent and slightly painful for her. She went to her doctor and I was...
A. 20 April 2010: Hi Firstly can I just say you sound like a really decent top guy. I don't think you are a 'git' for maybe considering whether or not you could stay in a relationship without sex after all YOU ARE HUMAN it's totally normal to think that. I don... (read in full...)
Bi-Polar and struggling to make friends.....
Q. Okay so I need some help, I am driving my self crazy. I have no friends, I really want some. But I feel as though I will never have a true friend. I am VERY shy at first until I get comfertable with people. Which takes a good long time, and when I ...
A. 19 April 2010: That's great news I'm happy thing are getting better. :0) all the best. ... (read in full...)
Does he really want to be with me? Am I wasting my time and breathe?
Q. Dear cupid, Well last week, i went to ma boyfriends house spent the whole week with him, and everything was going well until this one day . I was on his laptop, lookin for music to play, so im going to google and it shows the follwing web sit...
A. 15 April 2010: Hi I'm sorry but I don't agree with fatherly advice, you are not being controlling he is lying to you and as a result you are unhappy with him.
I would not call that controlling at all! If he had nothing to hide then he shouldn't lie.
Listen ... (read in full...)
I feel like I have lost the most important part of my life, my future with her, which was once so certain...
Q. My now ex-girlfriend and I broke up after an amazing 3 year relationship, our first real relationship for both of us. She broke up with me because she wanted to experience the world and be single now, so that she didn't have doubts about settling ...
A. 18 March 2010: Probably it forever and you will meet someone even more amazing. It's something you have to do or you can stay in this same position. It's up to you how things turn out.... (read in full...)
I feel like I have lost the most important part of my life, my future with her, which was once so certain...
Q. My now ex-girlfriend and I broke up after an amazing 3 year relationship, our first real relationship for both of us. She broke up with me because she wanted to experience the world and be single now, so that she didn't have doubts about settling ...
A. 18 March 2010: Hi
what she is doing is wrong and the best thing for you to do is walk away from her, heal and move on with your life.
How she could want to be seeing other guys but have you waiting for her is beyond me.
I respect that she was honest with... (read in full...)
I gave him my number 2 weeks ago but he still has not called! How can I get to know him more without making things uncomfortable?
Q. I've been an assistant manager at the same store for about 5 years now. Recently, a new pharmacist started at my store. I almost immediately felt chemistry between us. We definitely flirt, but keep it very innocent since it is work. Even some other ...
A. 11 March 2010: The reason he hasn't called is because he's not that interested. I'm sorry but that is the truth. You didn't do anything wrong giving him your number but if you continue to try and get with him that would not be a good thing to do and you could end ... (read in full...)
Bi-Polar and struggling to make friends.....
Q. Okay so I need some help, I am driving my self crazy. I have no friends, I really want some. But I feel as though I will never have a true friend. I am VERY shy at first until I get comfertable with people. Which takes a good long time, and when I ...
A. 11 March 2010: Hi
maybe you should join some classes in your area where you can meet other girls I'm sure there are lots of different classes at different times to suit you.
As for the other girls who avoid you they sound pretty immature to me.
I can ima... (read in full...)
I want to leave my marriage to pursue another as I am NOT happy...
Q. My husband was unfaithful to me when I was pregnant nearly 8 years ago and right up until I found out when my child was a toddler. We worked through things, have amazing sex now, he genuinely cannot get enough of me, I am early 40's but I have ...
A. 10 March 2010: Hi
I think you are facing two issues here
1) whether to leave your husband and get a divorce
and
2) whether or not to act on your feelings with this other man
let's talk about 1 first. I think you are totally right to leave your husb... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mother and risk my whole family finding out what happened?
Q. Hi there Aunts and Uncles. This is is something that has been playing on my mind for a long time. I'm remaining anonymous due to the topic. I was molested by my cousin as a child. The earliest incident I remember was when I was 4. My cousin was 25...
A. 10 March 2010: You need to tell your mum and speak to your cousin. He could do this to other children if you do not speak against him next time he could even
kill. If that happened you would regret not having spoken out. Your family will get over it but you will... (read in full...)
My partner cheated and I could do with some advice
Q. I feel it might help me to write on this forum to ask for advice. I have been with my current partner for almost 6 years and we have a 14 months old girl when I discovered she cheated on me. We are not married as both did not want to, but have be...
A. 10 March 2010: Hi
firstly you sound like a really nice guy. I'm rea sorry to hear about what happened.
Going on what you have written it's over between you and her. It is so sad and difficut to let go of what you planned and saw as your 'future' but the... (read in full...)
I don't understand why he wants this break, its so out of the blue!
Q. My bf of a year and a half get along great, we never fight and are always really happy together. Our families get along and his family loves me and my family loves him. When I say we never fight... we never, ever, fight. People thing we have a model ...
A. 10 March 2010: Hi
Whatever you do make sure you give him his space as calling him or trying to see him will make him run or feel trapped.
He may only need a little time who knows give him up to two weeks of space if he comes back to you in that time ask him... (read in full...)
He's great in lots of ways, but he's dull and argumentative too
Q. I have a fiancé whose main points are he doesn't snore, do porn, watch cricket or sports fanatically, tries hard to be attentive, doesn’t womanise or socialise with the boys as he prefers to be with me, doesn’t gamble or waste money, drinks ...
A. 10 March 2010: hi No one is perfect and everyone has things that need to be worked on. Despite your complaint he sounds live a very decent man I think lots of women wish there partner had the qualities he has. You need to have a calm talk with him addressing... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has another girlfriend
Q. I'm really in a very confusing situation I have been seeing this guy for almost two years off and on we were dating, we broke up, he met someone else moved in with her, things didn't work out and came back to my town! the whole time I waited ...
A. 9 March 2010: You need to wake up! I'm sorry but this is crazy. Do you want to share your partner? What is this?!
Open your eyes and leave him now. Not only is he taking advantage of you but he is making a fool of you infront of all of the people who are clos... (read in full...)
Text mania!!!
Q. hi all at dear cupid this is the second time i wrote on hear and its still about the same guy, ok well like said before meet this guy october he sent me a random txt getting on great stoped talking mid november, every now and then i t...
A. 9 March 2010: You need to leave it. He doesn't seem to really like you as he doesn't seem bothered to reply or keep in contact as much as he should. If he liked you then you would have met by now not still be texting and that is the bottom line.
Please please r... (read in full...)
What goes on in her head???
Q. Ok so the story is: We’re both 37 and, if you include the last year, have been together for 4 years. Both previously married – no children. We moved in together after about 8 months but in April of 2009 Michelle decided that she ‘had’ to leave me. ...
A. 9 March 2010: What's going on in her head is not important, you can see her actions and you are clearly not happy with them.
Seems to me that she picks you up and drops you when she feels like it. The relationship seems like a joke to her and she doesn't seem... (read in full...)
My question is, all things considered, is this relationship even worth trying to save?
Q. I'm so confused on what to do anymore. Over a year ago, I found pictures of my boyfriends ex hidden on our computer. Provocative pictures. This was after 3 years of being lied to on and off about her. I flipped out, we fought a lot, and after a few ...
A. 9 March 2010: Hi
I think You already know it's over. I think The only thing keeping you is the financial side of things and whether you could support yourself and the children. The answer is you can.
Everyone is different some people can deal with and forget t... (read in full...)
My fiance's ex....
Q. I've got a problem which makes me cry every day. Couple of months ago I wanted to clean my boyfriend's mailbox he always complains about how many letters he has, but unfortunately i discovered emails from his ex. She said she still loves him and ...
A. 8 March 2010: Time to go. Leave now. Don't wait around in the hope that he will fall in love with you and not want anyone else because it isn't going to happen. He is not in love with you. He is selfish and doesn't care if he hurts you.
Don't waste anymore of y... (read in full...)
How to get over a COLOSSAL breakup?
Q. I really need advice on how to get over a COLOSSAL breakup. I am 21 years old, and I just broke up with my fiancee who I have been dating for 8 years. We started dating in high school, and our relationship all through high school and college was ...
A. 8 March 2010: Firstly can I say how amazing you are and what an inspiration you are to other girls reading your question.
You are independent and intelligent good for you for not letting your goals and ambitions slide despite your very tough, exhausting rela... (read in full...)
She says she wants a threesome. Fantasy or reality?
Q. Well, I don't have any clue where to begin on this.. I've never really been in this situation before and I apologize ahead of time for typos and my bad sentence structure and for the long speech. My girlfriend and I have dated for just over 2 years ...
A. 8 March 2010: Don't do it. There are already trust issues in this relationship and this will just make things worse. To be honest with you it's time you put your foot down and told her what you will and won't accept aswell as what you want and don't want. Ri... (read in full...)
I need help to move on
Q. How do I move on? I just got out of a 3 plus years of realtionship and i need to find a way to get over him... It got messy towards the end and I found out he was cheating... I need a way to get on with my life but i am really struggling with ...
A. 8 March 2010: Hi,
firstly I think you should have a think about what you would like to do. Do you want to go back to study? If so what course interests you or do you want to get a new job in something? As you are young and single you have so many fun exci... (read in full...)
He's a control freak, a fault finder and has anger issues... Should I stay in the marriage for the sake of my son?
Q. I've been married for almost 5 years now. We rushed into things and got married right away. I've regretted it almost every day since. He's a control freak, a fault finder, and has some anger issues (but he doesn't hit me). He's never happy. Ever. I ...
A. 8 March 2010: Have you ever spoken to him? It sounds like you have no love for him anymore so maybe working on things together is no longer an option. As for worrying about your son the best thing you can do is be a happy loving mum. Right now being with this man ... (read in full...)
Moved in with him, together a year, he wants a break, have nowhere to go to give him space, don't want to lose him?
Q. my boyfriend and i will be celebrating our one year anniversary in about a week, maybe. basically i'm from mass, he's from nh, we met through a mutual friend i met in college last winter. we started dating months after little sleepovers, parties,...
A. 6 March 2010: Why is he being jealous? What happened talk to eachother seems like Boone is communicating properly. Maybe you need to calmly tell eachother everything you are unhappy with even write it down if you need to then discuss it and see if you can change ... (read in full...)
I can't stand her jealousy...
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for a year and a half, and we are happy. Unfortunately, there is one thing that I really can't stand, and that is her jealousy. I'm 20 years old and have been offered to be a tutor for my college, and here is ...
A. 5 March 2010: Whatever you do do not chase after her. Either she will realise you are not chasing her and will come to her senses and change or she will
not come back and continue to be a stubborn and controlling type of girl. Move on you are so much more then... (read in full...)
I can't stand her jealousy...
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for a year and a half, and we are happy. Unfortunately, there is one thing that I really can't stand, and that is her jealousy. I'm 20 years old and have been offered to be a tutor for my college, and here is ...
A. 4 March 2010: Don't leave her over this. Talk to her tell her that this is not how you want your relationship to be, there is absolutly nothing wrong with you wanting to tutor, good for you. However she is very insecure, reassure she has nothing to worry about bu... (read in full...)
Moved in with him, together a year, he wants a break, have nowhere to go to give him space, don't want to lose him?
Q. my boyfriend and i will be celebrating our one year anniversary in about a week, maybe. basically i'm from mass, he's from nh, we met through a mutual friend i met in college last winter. we started dating months after little sleepovers, parties,...
A. 4 March 2010: Thank you I hope the advice helps. P you might like to read he's just not that into you the original book and why men love bitches as they have helped me in the past. I don't agree with everything written but it kind of helps make you strong a... (read in full...)
Moved in with him, together a year, he wants a break, have nowhere to go to give him space, don't want to lose him?
Q. my boyfriend and i will be celebrating our one year anniversary in about a week, maybe. basically i'm from mass, he's from nh, we met through a mutual friend i met in college last winter. we started dating months after little sleepovers, parties,...
A. 4 March 2010: Give him space still even if it's just for the weekend. Just tell him you want him to have a think about what he wAnts as you don't want to be in this same situation again. That way he knows you are not desperate for him and realises that you don't ... (read in full...)
Is it right to rub up against women in clubs when you are in a relationship?
Q. Hi, I wonder if you can help. I'm not sure I know how to interact with women in clubs. I'm in a relationship and have been for the past few months, and when I go out with my friends, we all get really drunk and then I watch as they rub up agai...
A. 4 March 2010: Stay as you are, you are totally right to think the way you do. if a guy done that to me in a club he would definitely be embarrasses by my reaction. Also you have a girlfriend and it would be disrespectful to her if you done that I'm sure you ... (read in full...)
My friend's step mother is being abused and she and I have been kissing
Q. Okay this is a hard and kind of confussing situation for me and will take some time to explain... About 5 to 6 months ago i started to hang out with a good friend of mine alit more over at his house(just to let you know im 19). Right off the bat i ...
A. 4 March 2010: Please don't do anything stupid. He has no right in treating her like this but she has to make the decision to leave him all you can do is support her.
If you really feel like something has to be done call the police and tell them everything, that... (read in full...)
I think she is cheating while I am at work
Q. Hi , I have been engaged to my girlfriend for 8 months and am getting married next year. I work in a job which means 3 nights a week i have to work overnight and my fiancee still lives with our parents although we are moving into our first house ...
A. 4 March 2010: You do not deserve any of this. It is obvious there is something going on from the texts and that she has crossed the line.
I think it's time you confront her but before you do have a think about what you want out of the conversation. Answers? How ... (read in full...)
I don't think its fair to stay in a relationship with her if I'm not in love with her or feel close.
Q. I have been married for 12 years. For about the last 2 years I have felt more as if I married my sister. I love my wife, but I'm not in love with her. I dont feel close to her and I don't like to be intimate with her. Since I have been out of ...
A. 4 March 2010: Clap clap clap! Chloeapple has it spot on amazing advice please take it. ... (read in full...)
Thinking of giving up relationships.
Q. How can a woman stay off relationships forever? I'm considering that route. I'm really young at 21 to make such a decision, but I don't know. I'm attracted to men, both sexually and romantically. No attraction to women whatsoever. But there are ...
A. 4 March 2010: You know what not all guys are like that take a look at this site and some of the replies from men re porn and men looking at other women and you'll see for yourself.
As for you I don't think right now you should get into a relationship as you n... (read in full...)
Moved in with him, together a year, he wants a break, have nowhere to go to give him space, don't want to lose him?
Q. my boyfriend and i will be celebrating our one year anniversary in about a week, maybe. basically i'm from mass, he's from nh, we met through a mutual friend i met in college last winter. we started dating months after little sleepovers, parties,...
A. 4 March 2010: Big mistake don't text your guy friend who your man is obviously uncomfortable with re your relationship! How would you feel if he was texting a girl friend who he had described as gorgeous, caring and one of the best girls he knows. Sorry hunny but ... (read in full...)
Just got married, flirtatious friend of wife, I think I want to have sex with her, what should I do??
Q. Help, i got married last year and i love my wife to bits. The problum is when we go out with her friends one of them flirts with me all night. At first i didnt mind but now i really want to have sex with her. I dont know if its because i know i cant ...
A. 4 March 2010: The only thing you should be considering is whether you should have got married or not as for the other woman don't even think such crap! How would you like for your wife to have sex with one of your friends?......
You need to wake up to real... (read in full...)
My husband divorced me and is dating someone 13 years younger.
Q. i had been happily married for fifteen years with three children when my husband told me out of the blue he didnt love me any more. he moved out sold the family car for a sportier one and started making friends with younger women. he has been gone ...
A. 3 March 2010: Well give him his divorce and move on. Don't worry if he is rude to you he has nothing to do with you anymore apart from being the father to your children. As for the children have a think about what would be best for them and how you are going ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend, but I want to experience other relationships. What should I do?
Q. I'm 22 years old. My boyfriend and I have been together for a nearly 2 years. We'll call him 'Steve'. I do love him, and I enjoy being with him. My problem is that lately I've been feeling like I want to experience other relationships. S...
A. 3 March 2010: Hi
I think that most people our age who have only been in one relationship feel like this. Is your boyfriend kind, caring, faithful and loving? If yes then please do NOT act on these feelings. It is so hard to find a person that ticks all of thos... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my husband likes a woman at work
Q. Im worried that my husband likes a women at work. he drives a truck at a company and she works in the office, he always says that the girls are fat and unattractive because I do ask who works in the office and if any of those girls talk to him and ...
A. 3 March 2010: I have no idea whether he has any thing to do with this woman or not. He may like her or may not even look at her who knows?
However I think you have some insecurity and confidence issues I don't know whether your husband lying about porn has made... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't want us to move in together...and other more complicated topics
Q. Dear internet friends I have a feeling this questions gonna sound all disjointed and chaotic but here it goes: I've been dating this woman for about 2 years, she's 36 and I'm 33. Initially things were wonderful because I had no expectat...
A. 3 March 2010: Hi, I think you should sit down and make a note of the things you want to discuss with her. Ask her if she would ever want to move in and if so what is stopping her now? Also ask about kids whether she wants them or not?you can't change her mind on ... (read in full...)
Since I told him I like him I haven't heard from him...please help me, I love him
Q. i am an english girl, one night my friend sed we was goin out wiv her friend so i sed ok lets go as we never had any plans for that night. so her friend came and it turnt out to be a kurdish man, i was shocked because i had never even spoke to a ...
A. 24 February 2010: Hunny please don't waste your time. The fact that he said it was not his problem if you were pregnant says it all. Leave him to be how he is and you will one day find someone who will treat you better. ... (read in full...)
I still can't accept the fact my ex left me for someone else!
Q. In know the reason why I can't get over my ex is that he preoccupies my mind. I have tried to to do other stuff, meet people, went on a vacation and spent cash on shopping. But when I am about to sleep and when I wake up, I feel so depressed to ...
A. 24 February 2010: Isn't it time that you let go of this loser who treated you like this? I know it is tough and you are trying to. Maybe you need to make a list of all the things he did that hurt you on a piece of paper then look at them and destroy it. Just think ... (read in full...)
Since I told him I like him I haven't heard from him...please help me, I love him
Q. i am an english girl, one night my friend sed we was goin out wiv her friend so i sed ok lets go as we never had any plans for that night. so her friend came and it turnt out to be a kurdish man, i was shocked because i had never even spoke to a ...
A. 24 February 2010:
The reason he has stopped texting you is because he doesn't feel the same about you he was happy to have his fun but doesn't want you to be more then his fun.
Move on from him unless you want to be his bit on the side and nothing else.
Try... (read in full...)
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