A
female
age
30-35,
*ai Mai
writes:Dear cupid, Well last week, i went to ma boyfriends house spent the whole week with him, and everything was going well until this one day . I was on his laptop, lookin for music to play, so im going to google and it shows the follwing web sites you mainly get on the most and it had tinychat.com as one of em. Remind you he has a web cam, i went to it and his profile popped up, no pic but i knew it was his cause he use this name " xransomex" for everything. So some girl messaged him saying are you a guy or girl and i said guy because obviously she doesn't know cause he has no pic. I was just shaking . So he came in the room asking what im doing so i exit it off quickly and confronted him like i never got on there. So he got on his laptop and i asked him what is tiny chat, he said he dnt know, knowing that he is lieing. I said go to it, he showed me then exit off withing 10 seconds, he said idk its a virus i cant be on it too long. (Wow) I was on it for a koo min ladies. So he lied about that. To make the long story short i ask him and told hom that he's lieing and he just talking to me calmy cause he know im right. I knew this was something that was gonna be on ma mind, especially making this behind ma back. He said okay i made it for me and ma cousin, cause he live far and he told me to make one, i said ok well you know im mad cause u made it without telling me and he know how i feel about that, and he;s the same way as if i did it.Okayy long story short, ever since i been back home (oh and to remind you i live in Los angeles and he lives in hemet really far.) Im home thinking, got sad a few times like i feel like he wanna talk to someone else. So today i got on and made one just to see when has he been on, remind you this happend a week ago. I went to his tinychat page this morning he been on yesterday, i questioned him and he said its not mines ( He lied) I told him it is yours obviously u dnt remember what u said when i was at your house. So we are arguing on the phone, and then i just calmed down and told him, i dnt want us lieing to eachother, i dnt want you to hurt me and im scared of gettin hurt, im tryna change myself around and do good by you and by you making this chat does not help it at all. Long story short i hung up with him, just being hurt and sad. A few hrs go by something just told me to get on and see if he s on and he was on right after i talk to him about not doing nothing behind my back. I cussed him out bad. What do i supppose to do, how should i act towards him, how do i suppose to feel. Someone help me please. He just sound so calm with it, he thinks im stupid . I usually would let ma emotions take over me and break up with him, but i dnt wanna give up so easily. Cupid help me please .
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reader, Weramazing  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Hi I'm sorry but I don't agree with fatherly advice, you are not being controlling he is lying to you and as a result you are unhappy with him.
I would not call that controlling at all! If he had nothing to hide then he shouldn't lie.
Listen unless you want to become a paranoid controlling girl leave him you don't trust him and now he has given you reason not to trust him. Don't make this any longer then it needs to be.
You are young don't waste your time with him dump him and work on yourself and your confidence so if a guy ever treats you badly lies you have the strength to leave without doubting your decision. You are more then this.
It's up to you to change your life you can either stay and be unhappy and paranoid
Or
leave and be free Of him and his lies with a fresh start for yourself to become a confident happy strong young lady.
and soon meet someone who loves, appreciates and respects you enough not to lie, hurt or disrespect you.
I know what I would choose. Good luck. :0)
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 What exactly is tiny chat? Is it a dating site, a social friendly site, ... a chat room about little people, ...chat where you can only add really small sentences or use little words, ....
I think the context of the site needs to be clear coz there is nothing wrong with him having a harmless chat to whoever if that is all he is doing ...
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Having that degree of control over another person in a long distance relationship is just not practical. I am a bit shocked at your need to control every second of his life. In my opinion, you don't have a relationship of trust with him. Without that relationship of trust, you should not be expecting him to be that exclusive with you. It feels as if you are expecting a 3 month old relationship to behave like a three year old relationship. I don't think you will have much success with any relationship if you expect all your guys to not talk to any other people.
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