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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Okay so I need some help, I am driving my self crazy. I have no friends, I really want some. But I feel as though I will never have a true friend. I am VERY shy at first until I get comfertable with people. Which takes a good long time, and when I do I usually scare people away. I Mostly have a problem with other females, because every female I have been friends with end up hurting me. The last female friend Lied and told my dad my boyfriend was beating me. When he would never hurt me.And this had been my best friend for 10 years, who did this to me. And the females who I do talk to once in a blue moon Avoid me as much as possible. They see me at the store and literally run in the other direction......And with anyone Im not shy aroundI get really talkative and dont think before I speak and I cant help it, I think I scare people at how blunt I can be or how negitave I get. Yes I am Bi-Polar. And yes I have been to a Therapist, But none of it seemed to help its hard for me to admit how I feel to anyone. Im to the point where the only person I have to talk to is my boyfriend. And Im teriffied I am going to scare him off, Im surpised after almost two years hes still with me. The only reason I can think of is he has known me for almost 12 years he knew what I was like. But I feel that now hes the only person I have Im getting a bit obsessive with him. And I Dont want this, I would love to have someone to spend time with other then him. But Noone wants to be around me. And I dont know what to do, Ive never trusted people,or cared for them much. But I need to do something.
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reader, Weramazing  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 That's great news I'm happy thing are getting better. :0) all the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advise.....I have made a few friends..and am quite happy to have them
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reader, Weramazing +, writes (11 March 2010):
Hi
maybe you should join some classes in your area where you can meet other girls I'm sure there are lots of different classes at different times to suit you.
As for the other girls who avoid you they sound pretty immature to me.
I can imagine you must feel clingy to your boyfriend as you only really have him but make sure you have space from eachother and both you and him get time to yourselves. Even if you find a new hobby something you can do in your time even if it is on your own. I love having time to myself watching movies or Reading.
I know you said you are bi-polar but make sure you don't label yourself as this and when you meet people be yourself and the real people worth being around will like you for you.
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