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36-40,
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writes:I've got a problem which makes me cry every day. Couple of months ago I wanted to clean my boyfriend's mailbox he always complains about how many letters he has, but unfortunately i discovered emails from his ex. She said she still loves him and want to meet. I now they did, cos next emails said so. Well, I thought that maybe it was once, and that's it, so I carried on without much worrying. He proposed to me and I said yes and was over the moon with happiness. But something had changed between us. I couldn't help it and logged on to his facebook. I felt awful doing it. I found she invited him as a fried, and sent him a message asking to talk to him, and he said, "It is hard to talk to you and not to want to have sex with you, but I think I'll manage though". It broke my heart. I told him, that I saw his mailbox, but didn't have enough courage to tell about facebook. I asked about that woman, and he said, she's over forty and bothers him from time to time, but it means nothing to him. Obviously I didn't believe, otherwise, he wouldn't say things to her like that. I am so stressed because of this situation, I'm trying to move on, to trust him, but he broke my heart completely, and I know, that that woman is desperate to get him back. I don't have strength to fight her. The worst thing is, that I really don't know, what she has what I'm lacking of. I'm young, pretty, I like having fun in bed. My fiancé doesn't want to make love to me. I'm tired with asking. I think he loves her, but carry on being with me, because his family and friends wouldn't accept older lady. I can't believe he's telling me he love's me! I wish he would ended us up, so I wouldn't be in such a pain. I don't think about marriage at all, unless, I'll be 100% sure, the other woman is gone with a wind. What should I do? Help me , please!
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reader, Kenj +, writes (8 March 2010):
 Hes still flirting with her, and it's common for ex's to do for a while, but it should fizzle out.
He may have proposed to you a little early. Give him the benefit of the doubt for a while, let him prove himself to you and regain your trust.
If he hasnt changed within say 6 months then it maybe time to find someone who appreciates you more.
Dont set a date for your wedding and just see how things go, relationships take time, you have that time your still young.
Try to put this out of your mind for now as it will hold you back from even trying at your relationship with him.
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reader, Weramazing +, writes (8 March 2010):
 Time to go. Leave now. Don't wait around in the hope that he will fall in love with you and not want anyone else because it isn't going to happen. He is not in love with you. He is selfish and doesn't care if he hurts you.
Don't waste anymore of your time move on he is not for you and you are worth more.
He has meesed up and doesn't deserve you. Good luck.
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