I do want to be with him but there's no trust due to her getting pregnant and him leaving me again.
Q. Please dont judge! I need advice! My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. We broke up for about 2 months from April-June last year and he started talking to this girl, I always believed in if you love something let it ...
A. 25 January 2011: I'm sure he's got is positive points, but getting tossed into jail for breaking into his baby mama's place probably outweighs the positive. He sounds like he turned to her for help, recieved none, then turned to you as a backup support system.
T... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but he prefers me.
Q. I'm single and the past year of my life I've spent "having fun." I figured I'm young no use in tying myself down. But now my views ave changed. You see there is this guy and we have known each other for a couple of years. He is best friends with my ...
A. 31 December 2010: Clearly you're getting played. Not complicated. If he preferred you that much more, he would just dump her. And if it's not the first time he's cheated on her with you, chances are it's not the first time he's cheated, and he'll eventually find ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is sending her boss inappropriate emails!
Q. I just learned that my girlfriend had a boss and they sent personal e-mails back and forth to one another such as Hey Sexy and Hey Handsome. In fact, her boss mentioned in an e-mail that he missed her to baby and signed it by saying xoxo, hugs. She ...
A. 2 December 2010: "Hey sexy" and "Hey handsome" is not appropriate business language in any way. If they don't already have a sexual relationship, they're moving toward it.... (read in full...)
I found out the guy I was dating was a registered sex offender
Q. HI. I just started dating this guy, when I found out that He was a registered sex offender. I found out through his ex mother in law that I happened to work with. When he was 15 he sexually molested his sister over a time frame of about 3 months.. ...
A. 2 December 2010: This is just a train wreck. I got up to where you were molested by your foster brother and did not bother to read further. You're basically dating the guy who molested you. Move on to a guy with less baggage. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend thinks if we move into together I should pay double his rent because he has a car!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend now for 8 months, i am 27 and he is 28, and he is very sweet and kind and very caring. Recently, well today I was discussing perhaps moving in together in the future. I am living with a roommate and he is living with ...
A. 4 October 2010: Tell him you'd rather bus it than pay for a car that's not yours. If it's still not clear that this request was a little wtf, then explain it slowly in small words.
If he WANTS to drive you, then he can drive you. You don't NEED him to driv... (read in full...)
Is online flirting considered cheating?
Q. Is ONLINE flirting considered cheating? My boyfriend gave me his Facebook password, and I check his messages (he doesnt know) and he's always flirting with this girl, he even asked her to be his sideline girlfriend, she said no but they still ...
A. 4 October 2010: Do YOU consider it cheating?
Because that's what matters.
Personally, I'd cut the cord. I've been there and I've cut the cord.
Gay up his facebook page and break up with him, sounds like a d-bag. Or maybe wait til the anniversary,... (read in full...)
How to deal with a friendship/FWB gone wrong?
Q. I never thought this would be me. I never thought I would be in this type of situation, ever. Especially not with someone who I thought was my bestfriend. Me and my "bestfriend" had sort of a fwb thing going on while he had a girlfriend. This...
A. 4 October 2010: forget him. Why were you sexting him when you knew he had a girlfriend? You had to know that if it did go anywhere, that would just mean you were the other woman and that meant that he was just as likely to cheat on YOU as any other girl.
D... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity but I don't have a boyfriend! What should I do?
Q. I'm nearly 15 and I really want to give up my virginity but I don't have a boyfriend or know anyone that would want to have sex with me. What should I do?...
A. 4 October 2010: Wait til you find someone you like enough to date, then wait til you guys are ready for sex - don't pounce on him.
It hurt like a bitch for me so it's not something I'd tell you to be all psyched for now. You might want to wait until your body gets... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 4 October 2010: I'm not in the group that says you should stop watching porn. If you know it's something she'd be pissed about though, you might not want to lie to her about it and get her pissed to the nth power.
Or maybe, JUST MAYBE, you should date someone who ... (read in full...)
I am tempted to cheat on my boyfriend!
Q. First of all this is a gay relationship, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 9 months, and we are living with eachother, I am currently going to college and he is working. I love him with all my heart! We make eachother laugh about anything...
A. 29 September 2010: Explain your situation to him (minus the being tempted to cheat part), and tell him that you often want to feel the way you make him feel.
Perhaps suggest the use of some toys? If he's not big enough to top you proper like then maybe a subs... (read in full...)
Spousal Verbal Abuse?
Q. What is the advise out there to a woman who is married to a verbally abusive man? When anything goes wrong (flat tire, freezer not working, sports team lost?) it's because I'm a f-ing bitch. He shouts it over and over at me in front of our ...
A. 29 September 2010: You should definitely split, cite spousal abuse as the reason, and take him for all you can get. Surely that means you can continue your "affluent lifestyle" for some time, which would assuage your mom's worries.
Abuse is abuse and it can be used... (read in full...)
He disrespects me, should I leave him?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 9 yrs and have 2 children. We've had many issues in the past with his dishonesty and our sexless marriage. I am the one who always wanted sex, but after a few years of not getting it, I became numb and pretty ...
A. 29 September 2010: The "He wasn't thinking" sends up red flags in my mind.
MY cheating ex said he "wasn't thinking" when I caught him in lesser, but still damning lies and deceptions.
Just food for thought.... (read in full...)
Kids having sex!
Q. OK lately I see a lot of questions here where children from the age of 14-16,17 years think that they are old enough to have sex. They don't understand anything about it. They think that they are ready. There are even parents who agree with the idea ...
A. 28 September 2010: @ Jimrich
"At eleven years old, I understood enough to know that I WANTED IT!"
So at the age of 11 you're saying you completely understood what a life-changing event it could be. Because you could potentially impregnate your partner, get... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 28 September 2010: I'm not about to read all the comments, they're rather long.
I personally don't discuss the kind of porn I enjoy with my bf, and he doesn't discuss his preferences with me. We acknowledge that the other does look at porn and we leave it at that... (read in full...)
Ugly duckling
Q. heyy well im 13 gunna be 14 years old and well i feel sooo ugly. ive always been the "ugly duckling" i was always teased about my hair and weight.. my friends say im ugly and wen my family say im pretty i think theyre on sumthing.. i fear i will ...
A. 28 September 2010: If your friends say you're ugly, you need to sneak some laxatives into their drinks or something. That is not cool by any means.
Believe your family members. Ignore dumbass guys your age. Dump any friends who are calling you ugly.
If you stil... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my sister-in-law's brother and everyone in my family is against it!
Q. hey, i am 17 and i am HEAD OVER HEELS in love with this guy thats 24 and he tells me that he is MADLY in love with me but....my ENTIRE family is against him he is my brothers wifes brother and omg he is amazing...he has a gf that is a couple months ...
A. 28 September 2010: You're 17. You're not in love. Seriously, ask him to get you a vibrator and cut all ties. It'll have less drama and you'll get what you want.
Sorry to be callous, but unless you want to end up getting your butt whupped (by his gf, your fath... (read in full...)
Why wont he give me oral sex?
Q. Well, here's the problem. I have been with the same guy for 8 years...he's my first. we have literally done everything together and lately he hasnt been recipricating the favor....I give him oral sex regularly without question and he asks for it. I ...
A. 28 September 2010: Straight up tell him you don't think it's fair that you give him head if he doesn't reciprocate. If he has some sort of excuse try to work it out with him, but definitely make it clear that you are stopping all oral til he gets over his "dislike".... (read in full...)
Trouble getting pregnant
Q. Why cant i get pregnant? I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 29. We are trying for a baby and have been for the past year. I am healthy and i know we are both fertile as i have got pregnant twice before however i was only 14 the first time so i had a aborti...
A. 28 September 2010: You're a little young to be starting a family fyi.
But to address your concern, the abortion may have caused some damage or something. I'm no doctor, but I've heard its possible. Having an abortion during your growing years definitely sounds like... (read in full...)
Blood after sex?
Q. Hi. So I haven't had sex in over five months nor have I penetrated myself during that time. I just had sex with my new boyfriend and after the second time there was some bleeding. Not just a little blood, it kinda kept coming for awhile, like my ...
A. 29 August 2010: Well I am by no means virginal so I'm not sure my hymen being the issue is possible. Unless it grows back? I didn't think it did....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says its normal for men to cheat
Q. I always caught my boyfriend of 7 years cheating on me. I think he cheated on me 6 times or more. We already have a baby and I thought that he would change. Every time he is caught cheating he always says sorry and promises that he won't do it ...
A. 15 August 2010: I think after seven years of being cheated on you know the answer to your question.
I can't say whether or not its normal for men to cheat. Regardless, you do not need to take that. You should not have to go through such emotional upheaval on a... (read in full...)
Agreed to an open relationship but hate the idea
Q. I really need some help with my relationship.. im so depressed now//? i love this guy.. i love him a lot.. i would take a bullet for him.. we've been dating for like a month now, and he told me last week that he wants to keep our relationship...
A. 14 August 2010: As difficult as it is, you should just cut it off. You probably want to try to keep him in your life some way, but getting over him will not be possible unless you have a nice long break from him to meet other guys who ARE ready for some level of ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my sister I saw her husband with a hooker?
Q. I picked up a hooker and took her to a motel. When we were done I was taking here back to where I picked her up. A door opened just a couple doors down as I passed by with her and it was my brother in law with a hooker of his own. He just ...
A. 11 August 2010: Think of all the lovely STDs floating around that your sister could unwittingly catch. If she doesn't happen to have an understanding with her husband as you have with your wife then she probably should know.
She probably won't want to know thou... (read in full...)
What steps should I take to find out if my boyfriend had sex with his ex?
Q. how can i find out if my boyfriend had sex with his ex? One saturday me and him argued about some girls on his friends list online, he got mad and decided to ignore me all night. Three days later his ex arrives just to tell me that she spend the ...
A. 11 August 2010: They probably had sex. Why would he bother owning up to it? There's really nothing you can do short of asking the ex to produce a video of it. And you really don't want to see that I'm sure.
Also, if you were arguing about the girls on his f... (read in full...)
Is Internet hook up with older guy safe?!
Q. [Mod Note: OP's own title] Hi, I'm 17 and from the uk. I've known a guy for a year and a half off the Internet. He is older than me (46) and I'm going to meet him soon, he's driving up to where I live and were meeting in a hotel. My friend knows an...
A. 11 August 2010: No, its not. If you think for a moment it is, then you should put this question to whatever parent or guardian you have.
Assuming you're meeting him to have sex (Since that's the ONLY reason he/you would request to meet there instead of say the ... (read in full...)
I'm too shallow to overcome her sexual past
Q. My girlfriend of 9 months has slept with lots of partners and i am finding it hard getting over it. I am 20 and she is 18. She has slept with 9 people before me. Her first was when she was 14, she's slept with someone who was 21 when she was 15,...
A. 2 August 2010: Perhaps what you should do is figure out why exactly this number of hers bothers you so much. Not to sound insulting, but is it because its significantly more than yours? Do you feel that maybe your pride is hurt that she has been with more than ... (read in full...)
Help, I'm so confused about my sexuality...
Q. I've always liked girls but the last three years or so I've had nuthin but bad luck with them.... I was telling one of my brother's gay friends about my problems and he said that I might be gay or bi........ so i did soem work and im not sure and ...
A. 31 July 2010: It sounds like someone threw a bunch of information at you that confused the crap out of you.
You can make your own decision on what your sexuality is when the time comes.
Some questions you may want to ask yourself: do you find classmat... (read in full...)
Sex should feel good at some point right...?
Q. Here is my story... Well, I lost my virginity fairly late compared to others that I know. I was 20. Before that, I never was so into the idea of sex or felt that I needed it. I know this may be a taboo topic but if I wanted to pleasure myself,...
A. 31 July 2010: I second what fishdish is saying. Especially the peeing after sex part! Also, I hear cranberry juice is good for keeping UTI's away.
Definitely talk to your doctor! If you're nervous enough from your own internet diagnosis, its time to talk to y... (read in full...)
Girlfriend flirts online -can I still trust her?
Q. Me and my girlfriend broke up for 10 days then got back together. A few months later, I found messages from a sexual conversation she was having with a guy online. When I confronted her, she said she was just talking trash and that it happened while ...
A. 31 July 2010: As someone who has experienced an almost identical situation, she wasn't just flirting. Even if she didn't intend to meet up with them to take it further than flirting, she still intended to meet them. She probably has met them.
I say end it, but ... (read in full...)
Any idea what this might be, before I visit the gyno
Q. I am going to the gyno tomorrow but I want to maybe get an idea of what this is? I have this itch and pressure in my vagina and it gets worse when I have to pee. There is no pain or burning. My boyfriend and I have not had sex for a while so there...
A. 5 March 2010: It may still be a yeast infection, they don't always have to be the same. It may just be a milder yeast infection. Doctor will be best for this though, try not to worry too much.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend flirts and pretends to be single online. Should I dump him?
Q. I recently discovered my boyfriend has a networking account on which he behaves as if he were a single guy. He flirts, he apparently texts, and his status when I checked was "looking for random hookups". I called him somewhat hysterically and ...
A. 4 March 2010: Thank you for your advice...it turned out there was a lot more stuff he was hiding.
I'm in the process of trying to break up with him...he's been begging me not to break it off...but six months of online emotional infidelity is pretty much unfo... (read in full...)
My b/f says it's the baby or him
Q. Hi I am 14 wks pregnant and been in my relationship with my boyfriend for 8 years and we have a 5 year old son together. My boyfriend is not happy about this pregnancy and says he doesnt want anymore kids and is forcing me to choose between him and ...
A. 1 March 2010: While I'm pro abortion in theory, in practice it is often devastating for the mother. if your boyfriend hasn't considered the psychological and physical distress he's trying to force on you, you may want to rethink the relationship. Also, while I'... (read in full...)
I need a reason to call her! Help!
Q. So, im in 9th grade, me and my crush are getting along great, flirting alot and stuff, i just got her number today, and i really want to call her, the problem is i have no reason to. We have no homework, we arent actually girlfriend and boyfriend ...
A. 1 September 2009: Seen any interesting movies lately? Call her about that. Ditto for interesting books/whatever. Mebbe the movie convo could lead into a date tho. Good luck, call her!... (read in full...)
Brother molested me
Q. when i was 5 years old my parents went out for a couple of hours so my oldest brother who is 14 was baby sitting me and my 6 year old brother, we were all in my parents room watching tv and my oldest brother told my younger brother to go down stairs ...
A. 9 July 2009: He can be arrested. Very easily. While there are some elaborate ways of catching him in the act, you should probably tell someone close to you, someone you trust. Your mother would probably be a good bet.
In the mean time, I suggest you pick... (read in full...)
I'm married, she's married, we're both unhappy and have an affair, should we keep it going?
Q. Hi I'm a 36 y.o man unhappily married with two beautiful girls ages 10 and 6. My lover, whom I met 9 months ago is also married she's 33 and has a teenage boy. My marriage has been on the rocks since about 3 years ago. thanks to my wife's me first ...
A. 9 July 2009: You shouldn't leave your marriage for another woman. If you genuinely feel you could never possibly fix things between you and your wife, you should leave it though. Have you tried fixing things? How do you think your daughters would feel knowing ... (read in full...)
I'm hot, so why doesn't anyone like me?
Q. hey ! right well i just dont get it i mean i havent had one boyfrind in my whole life and i am 15! when i tell people that i havent had one boyfreind and i havent even kissed a boy they are realy shocked! becouse they say i am stunning! ...
A. 9 July 2009: Dude, I'm pretty good lookin from what other people tell me and I didn't date anyone until I was 18. Relax. Maybe try asking a guy you like out if you need a bf that badly.
Good luck :)... (read in full...)
I feel so guilty, but should I be?!
Q. My boyfriend and I are constantly arguing. Lately, we have been arguing infront of all of our friends. This is very unusual for us, because usually if we have something to say to one another - we take it somewhere else, but lately I have been blow...
A. 9 July 2009: It sounds like a bad situation that will only get worse. You should probably get out before it does so, but your arguing doesn't seem unreasonable. True, you probably shouldn't do it in front of other people, but he probably shouldn't be doing the ... (read in full...)
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