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writes:I'm single and the past year of my life I've spent "having fun." I figured I'm young no use in tying myself down. But now my views ave changed. You see there is this guy and we have known each other for a couple of years. He is best friends with my guy cousin that is my room mate. He stays over the house all the time. The other day he was waiting on my cousin to come home and we were alone. We fooled around a bit. We have fooled around before but never slept together. The problem is he has a girlfriend. This is not the first time he has cheated on his girlfriend with me. I know it's bad on my part but he doesn't want to be with her. He is always fighting with her. They never do anything and he would rather hang out with me than her. What does this mean?
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (2 January 2011):
 Good news :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe hung out last night and we talked about us and I told him that if he didn't dump her that what ever we had was over and today I find out (by his girlfriends best friend) that he dumped her. I called him after I found out and he came over. We are now dating.
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reader, wee_neko +, writes (31 December 2010):
Clearly you're getting played. Not complicated. If he preferred you that much more, he would just dump her. And if it's not the first time he's cheated on her with you, chances are it's not the first time he's cheated, and he'll eventually find someone else to cheat on his gf with.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (31 December 2010):
"he doesn't want to be with her. "
And yet he's still with her... ergo... you're the one getting played in this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010): It means that you are enjoying helping someone cheat on someone else.
Don't be to pleased with yourself. What goes around comes around eventually...
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reader, Merilee  +, writes (31 December 2010):
Honestly, I think hes playing you.
You say that he says he doesnt want to be with her, but the reality is that he is with her. This on its own says so so much.
You say that you fool around, well, obviously the girlfriend isnt there to fool around with .. so youll do, and your willing, so, hey, why not.
Sorry sweetie, but you are just a toy to him.
I think you are reading way to much into what you guys do together every now and then, and the things he tells you. Id bet alot of money, that if you slept with him, hed be done with you, as the chase is over, youve been conquered, and he will still be with his girlfriend.
I think you need to wisen up to the ways of the teenaged boys and stop believing everything they tell you, and start watching what they actualy do.
Sorry to be so harsh, but your post kinda blamed the girlfriend, while you made excuses for yourself and the cheating guy. So I answered quite bluntly to your impending situation, which will end with your heart being broken if you put anymore of yourself into this scenario.
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