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*tacii:)
writes:Why cant i get pregnant? I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 29. We are trying for a baby and have been for the past year. I am healthy and i know we are both fertile as i have got pregnant twice before however i was only 14 the first time so i had a abortion and the second time i had a misscarridge 4 months ago(the doctor did some tests and have said this was just one of them things nothing caused it.) I have read loads of tips of the internet but still havent sucseeded in getting pregnant. Me and my boyfriend really want to start a family together. What else can help me get pregnant. I have read that taking folic acid, eating healthy, exercising regurarly, and checked when my most fertile bit of the month is but non of this seems to have worked. Please help?
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reader, Stacii:) +, writes (5 October 2010):
Stacii:) is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your advice however i know people think i am to young to start a family but i am ready and i have thought about it a lot. thanks anyway x
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reader, Enzian  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 You are still young - and in my oppinion a little to young to be starting a family.
But anyway, there are a lot of women trying hard for a baby. And it happens very often, that they have to wait a year or two. Also misscarriage are quite often, people only don't talk about it. I also know a couple trying over 5 years and now they have a wonderful daughter! And you know what? She got pregnant at the time, she accepted, it's never going to happen! So I would tell you, be patient and don't worry! The doctor said you are ok. So I'm sure you will be - and in case of something is wrong, as I said, you are still young and there is plenty of time to get some treatement after about 3 years of trying (This is the time doctors wait in my country until they treat you, they say, its very normal to wait that long).
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Well really if you have been to your doctor following the miscarriage and have told them you are trying to get pregnant again, they should have done all the relevant checks to make sure you are all ok and there is no problems following the miscarriage.
If the doctor has said everything is ok - then you just have to be patient. The doctor wont see you about infertility until you have been trying to have a child for at least 1 year, and it has only been 4 months since you have miscarried so I dont think a doctor would see you until you have allowed sufficient time to pass before you claim you "cant" get pregnant. Getting pregnant can take time, you just have to learn to wait.
You have to allow for that fact that you are so very young so a lot of health risks come with trying to have a child at your age - your body simply is not designed to have a child when you are barely out of childhood yourself. Here are just a few of the typical risks of teenage pregnancies:
- Teenage mothers are less likely to gain adequate weight during their pregnancy, leading to low birthweight. Low birthweight is associated with several infant and childhood disorders and a higher rate of infant mortality. Low-birthweight babies are more likely to have organs that are not fully developed, which can result in complications, such as bleeding in the brain, respiratory distress syndrome, and intestinal problems.
-Pelvic bones do not reach their maximum size until about the age of 18; therefore, the pelvis of the teenage mother may not have grown enough to allow vaginal delivery of a normal-size baby. For this reason, the incidence of cesarean section is higher in teenage mothers -- a baby that can be delivered vaginally when the mother is 20 is often too large to have been delivered vaginally when she was 14 years old.
-Babies born to teenage mothers are more likely to die in the first year of life compared with babies born to mothers older than 20 years of age. Since the teenage mother is less likely to eat correctly during pregnancy, her baby often has a low birth weight (less than 51/2 pounds), making it more likely the baby will become ill.
-Compared with mothers in older age groups, teenage mothers are at greater risk of having medical complications. Because the teenage mother is more likely to receive little or no prenatal care, she often becomes anemic and is more likely to develop preeclampsia, a severe condition associated with high blood pressure.
- Vitamin deficiencies are more common, and the teenage mother's weight gain is likely to be inadequate. Since the teenage mother is still growing herself, she needs to eat properly not only for her own growth but for normal growth of the fetus.
I am not going to tell you that you should not have a child, that you are wrong for doing this, that you are too young etc etc because if you have an ounce of common sense I am sure deep down you will know this too.
You are not physically ready for a child, you are not mentally ready for a child, you are not married therefore there is no stable family ready to bring the child up properly....etc. The list could go on and on, but I'm sure you are already aware of why teenagers should not be having kids.
But I get the feeling you are going to keep on trying anyway, so in that case be very aware of all the risks to yourself and the baby by being a teenage mother, and just be patient as getting pregnant can take a while.
I hope this helps!
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reader, wee_neko  +, writes (28 September 2010):
You're a little young to be starting a family fyi.
But to address your concern, the abortion may have caused some damage or something. I'm no doctor, but I've heard its possible. Having an abortion during your growing years definitely sounds like it could have some negative repercussions on your uterus.
Take a break from trying to have a baby. Possibly the stress of focusing on trying to get preggers is preventing it from happening.
Or maybe some divine spirit is trying to prevent you from tying yourself to someone who is nearly twice your age.
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