I feel he wants something different but knows he can't have it so he settles with me. Why? Because of his porn-watching...
Q. I recently caught my husband masturbating to porn....since then I simply cannot bring myself to want to be intimate with him...I feel undesirable and cant help but notice all of the women looked about 15-20yrs younger than me (im in my 40s) and none ...
A. 5 September 2008: Lots of people (or one person?) have been writing in about porn lately. I understand that it can hurt a woman’s ego to know their man likes looking at porn stars or whatever. But can you honestly say you have never looked at a handsome man, on the ... (read in full...)
Faced with the dilemma of abandoning my 30 year marriage or losing the lost (and found) love I yearned for so much!
Q. I love my lover so much but find it so difficult to leave my wife and daughter. Two years ago, over 30 years on, the love of my life contacted me. I always felt it only was a matter of time before we were in touch again. Since then we have formed a...
A. 5 September 2008: It seems you have already mentally checked out of the marriage, so if you don't love your wife I would say leave. But that doesn't mean that things will work out with your mistress. Sometimes in a situation like this, we have built that other ... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty for "messing" with a guy who has a girlfriend?
Q. should I feel guilty about messing with a guy who has a girl??? but they are not married????...
A. 2 September 2008: Yes. But he should feel even guiltier. I know some people would say it is his entire fault, but the truth is, it takes two. I think it's a good sign that you feel guilty-it shows you have a conscience.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend of four years that I cheated?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and cheated on him a few months ago. I love him dearly and cant stand the thought of loosing him over such a stupid mistake. We are now talking about finding a house as an investment property and ...
A. 27 August 2008: Thank you for the feedback! I know what you are going through with wondering what it would be like to date other people. It's a natural thing to wonder about. I know for me, I needed more life experiences to be happy with my choice of a partner. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend of four years that I cheated?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and cheated on him a few months ago. I love him dearly and cant stand the thought of loosing him over such a stupid mistake. We are now talking about finding a house as an investment property and ...
A. 26 August 2008: It's not necessarily a selfish thing if she told her boyfriend the truth.
If I was cheated on I would want to know for several reasons. First, if there is a problem in the relationship that may have lead to the cheating, then both people n... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend of four years that I cheated?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and cheated on him a few months ago. I love him dearly and cant stand the thought of loosing him over such a stupid mistake. We are now talking about finding a house as an investment property and ...
A. 26 August 2008: Just try to think about what you would want if the situation was reversed. I think telling him would be the right thing to do. It was a mistake, and I think you are truly sorry, and many couples can work through these kinds of things. But any ... (read in full...)
Why won't he tell anyone about me even though we are having sex?
Q. hey, well this is slightly embarressing i'm 16 years old, and am sleeping with a guy who's 21. he treats me so well and well yeah, you get the jist. we started getting together when i was 15, and he didnt want me to tell anyone because of the a...
A. 15 August 2008: I'm really sorry, but you should break it off with this guy. This is exactly why people don't approve of relationships like this! He's using you and you're too young and naive to know it. :-( Age doesn't matter if those involved are 20 and 25, ... (read in full...)
I'm scared I'm pregnant and don't know anyone old enough to buy the morning after pill.
Q. I'm Stephanie, I'm 13 and I've had sex about 2 days ago and that was my first time ever. I'm afraid I might be pregnant and I don't know anyone legal age besides family to buy me the morning after pill!!!! help please!...
A. 15 August 2008: If you don't know anyone who can get it for you, and you can't walk to a free clinic to get it, I'm afraid you will need to tell your family. They may be angry you are having sex, but I'm sure your family cares about you and hopefully they will ... (read in full...)
We are both 16, and all we want to do is cuddle in my bed, my parents absolutely won't allow it, how do I get them to understand that we are not going to have sex, we only want to hold each other?
Q. im 16 and my gf is the same we want to cuddle in my bed but my parents wont even let her set foot in my room do u have any advice on how i can convince them dat we will jus be cudlin and not goin to have sex...
A. 14 August 2008: I don't think there is much you can do. It seems your parents are being responsible. I wasn't allowed to even have a boy in my room! So don't feel so bad about it, you will be able to do what you want when you move out.
Also, by understa... (read in full...)
I want to sleep with my boss
Q. I fancy my boss like crazy and i WANT to sleep with him, even though hes married and got kids? how do i get him 2 want me too? how shall i act? dress? make up? perfume? hair? ...
A. 14 August 2008: It seems you are not thinking clearly. This sight is not about how to have affairs, break up marriages, etc. What you are trying to do is wrong and weather you know it or not, it will have consequences for ALL involved!
Thank about it this way... (read in full...)
I have to make a choice between my boyfriend and my education.
Q. i went out with my boyfriend 2 years ago, then we got back together last year, its great because although we hadn't seen each other in the two years we were apart, we just got the spark straight back and it was like we hadn't even seperated. i'm ...
A. 7 August 2008: If he truly cared for you, he would encourage you to go to college. Someone who cares deeply for you will not try to hold you back from achieving things in life! I'm not saying he's a bad person, but I would never try to hold someone back from ... (read in full...)
What is the secret of a happy life?
Q. i still not feeling beter. i always worry about silly things.i don't find joyful life still now even if i got a job.what is the secreat of life?...
A. 7 August 2008: Being happy has much to do about you attitude. Try your best to think positive, even though that might not feel natural to you at first. Maybe read some 'self help' books. I read a book called 'Don't Sweat the Small Stuff' (because I also let the ... (read in full...)
He's very distant and won't help me sort out our marriage, his only response is "I don't know!"
Q. one month after our one year anniversary, my husband told me that he had been thinking about a divorce. I kind of knew it was coming, since we haven't had sex in over two months, he stays gone out of town for work more often, and when he does come ...
A. 7 August 2008: You are going to need his cooperation in order to make this marriage work! Him saying he still loves you is a good sign. Do you think he would be open to marriage counceling? I think that would probably be the best thing because it can help the ... (read in full...)
How do I communicate to the my new guy that I need more time to reach climax?
Q. I have a question about how to approach an issue - I recently started dating this guy that I'm not sure if I like or not, but I want to give him a chance. The problem is that it usually takes about 30 or so minutes for me to climax. My previ...
A. 5 August 2008: Well, like lexilou said, it would be pretty difficult for a guy to have sex for 30 mins, but you need to talk to him about the other things he can do to help you to climax. It's odd that he hasn't asked you about what you like, etc, but then you ... (read in full...)
Love my boyfriend, yet feel like I need time away to party and meet others, BUT what if he finds someone else in the meantime?
Q. Hi All. i just need some help. i am 19, and for the last 3 years i have been in a relationship with a WONDERFUL man who i love to pieces. lately i feel like i want to go out and meet new people and just have fun and be 'single' i have been in this ...
A. 4 August 2008: I was in a similar situation as you when I was around 21. I had been with a guy for 4 years, and even though he was not my first boyfriend, he was my first love and the first guy I ever slept with. He was about 2 years older, so not much older. I ... (read in full...)
Does anyone want to quit smoking with me? We can do it!!
Q. Goodbye nasty cigarettes, hello brighter future : ) I know I'm not exactly posing a question here but today I decided to kick the habit. I have only been smoking a year, I am in college and for whatever reason I gave into the smoking peer pre...
A. 30 July 2008: My former roommate quit smoking by using the nicotine patch, but I have another friend that just quit cold turkey. The most important factor is your will power! Also, I know when my roommate first was trying to quit, she stayed away from bars ... (read in full...)
Silly things lead to my boyfriend to distrust me, can I hope that he changes? I have always been truthful.
Q. I am divorce have an 8 years daughter, after my marriage I stayed single for almost 4 years, then I met my boyfriend online 3 years ago, eventually he moved in with me because I did not want to get married again. The first year was so happy I though ...
A. 29 July 2008: I don't think that this guy will change, but if you really really wanted to work it out you could try couples counseling. I think you should leave, but if you want to work things out with him, let him know that he needs to get to the bottom of why ... (read in full...)
I have boyfriends, but find myself looking at women too. Is this normal?
Q. im really confused. am i straight?! i this normal? im 16 and since i was 13 i have had boyfriends, in real i think boys are very attractive, i always comment on cute guys i see or if im out with my friends and i see someone i like, which is pretty ...
A. 28 July 2008: I can't say weather or not you are bisexual, but I would guess that you are not because you say you have a hard time imagining being in a relationship with a girl. I will tell you that I am strait and I like to look at other women too, especially ... (read in full...)
Why do women like "bad boys", and why do so many people cheat?
Q. Just wanted to know people theory's why there are so many in relationships who cheat? Can you really love someone and cheat on them? What is it with women and the whole "bad boy" image? It seems the better you treat a woman the worse they treat...
A. 28 July 2008: Some women like the mystery or excitement of these kinds of men and some women want to 'tame' them or 'fix' them somehow. I know it sounds so silly! But I think that as most women get older, they often mature enough to stop trying to chase the ... (read in full...)
Broke up with an abusive boyfriend - how do I get my life back?
Q. Hiya, Im 19 years old and I have just split up with my boyfriend today. I love him so much but he hits me he has left me with so many bruises and he has kicked me round the head today and pushed me off a tree. He has also been txting other girls, ...
A. 25 July 2008: I agree with the previous post. I would also like to suggest that you get in touch with an old friend. Maybe they would accept you back in their life. Old friends can sometimes be very forgiving, especially considering what you have gone through. ... (read in full...)
My wife is threatening divorce over a picture on my phone!!
Q. i broke my phone a couple of months ago and bought a used one from a friend who always has a surplus. my wife searched my phone yesterday to see if i was doing anything wrong - which i wasnt - but she found a picture of a naked girl on the phone. we ...
A. 7 July 2008: Maybe you guys could try marriage counceling if this is a re-occuring issue? Even if you get past this fight, it seems that she has major trust issues and this will go on forever if the 2 of you can't work it out together.... (read in full...)
My wife had an abortion before we met, now I don't want her.
Q. How to address this situation. I have been married for 23 years and very happily. We have 2 boys and they are now adults. I received an email from a site that revealed someone looking of my wife of 23 years. It turns out that the person is an ex ...
A. 7 July 2008: Get over the fact that your wife had a life before you came along. You have been married for 23 years, and because of a mistake she made 23 YEARS AGO!!!(as a teen?) you don't know if you want to be with her? Don't throw away 23 happy years because ... (read in full...)
I was scared of commitment, now I want him but I'm scared he is playing with me.
Q. Theres this guy im into. Lets call him x. we started hooking up last year, but ended things because i was scared of commitment. then x started hooking up with lots of girls and being a huge player. recently i told him that i still have feelings for ...
A. 7 July 2008: I think X already gave you your answer.
"cant be in a relationship now, coz he doesnt wana hurt me"
"he knows that if we get together now he will screw it up"
"he needs to change himself first"
He just isn't ready now. I think the best t... (read in full...)
Given my sentence, can I expect my girlfriend to wait for me (she is pregnant)?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for just over a year now - I'm 20 and she's 19. We have been good together over the past year and I want things to continue. I am going to court and am due to be sentenced for assault. I have a record so have been tol...
A. 7 July 2008: Her family was right about you so far... But the good news is that you can change your ways. When you get out of jail, you can step up and take care of the baby and be there for both of them. Since she has stayed with you this long maybe she will ... (read in full...)
Could I get pregnant by having sex during my period?
Q. i want to know, if i have my period and i have sex with it, could i get pregnant?...
A. 7 July 2008: Yes. It isn't as likely, but it can happen. Also, condoms are the best thing to use anyway, unless you are in a committed, long-term relationship, you just never know. People can have an STD and not even know it.... (read in full...)
I am in an open, long-distance relationship which I've screwed up!
Q. I've been seeing this guy and we've been long distance since September. We've decided to remain in an open relationship until I go back to his city at the end of May. I broke up with him about 6 weeks ago because it was too hard to handle but that ...
A. 23 April 2008: Wait, I want to correct myself, condoms offer protection from STDs but not 100% protection, especially for woman. You can easily get HPV even with a condom for example. ... (read in full...)
I am in an open, long-distance relationship which I've screwed up!
Q. I've been seeing this guy and we've been long distance since September. We've decided to remain in an open relationship until I go back to his city at the end of May. I broke up with him about 6 weeks ago because it was too hard to handle but that ...
A. 23 April 2008: First I would like to let you know that you did the right thing by not having sex with him. Condoms do not protect you from STD's. Also, this guy isn't treating you very well, he should be trying to make things up to you! He talked you into an ... (read in full...)
Is this long distance relationship worth all the effort? I'm new to this.
Q. Hi, i've just started redating my ex boyfriend again. Things are going okay and I'm happy enough- except for the fact he lives 130 miles away. We've been dating for two months and already the distance is tiring me out. we see each other every ...
A. 22 April 2008: I'm in a long distance relationship now, we are about a 4 and 1/2 hour drive away from each other and we have been seeing each other on weekends for 2 years. We try to take turns making the drive (but since his parents live near me, he makes the ... (read in full...)
I guess I just accept the fact I will die a virgin. Why do you people lie about penis size? It's cruel!
Q. okay... so i was reading about some size questions because i was overweight and only 5.1 inches, so then decided to lose weight, but i only gain .3 inches, and i kept on reading about the "not the size of the boat, motion of the ocean stuff..." blah ...
A. 22 April 2008: I think you are already putting too much pressure on yourself! Look, you can still pleasure a girl even if you are 3.3 inches (the G Spot is just inside the opening of the vagina, towards the front of the body) Another option is oral sex, most ... (read in full...)
His immaturity is hurtful! How can we get past the PAST?!
Q. Ugh, I broke up with my BF again! We have issues because he dislikes my past with a passion, he can't quite understand why would I have had one night stands in the pasts and not feel like a whore afterwards. I lied about an incident too, bu...
A. 22 April 2008: First, I would like to let you know that your past is in your past and he has no right to throw it in your face when the two of you argue. But if you cheated on him in the past and he can't get over that, that is a whole new situation. He needs to ... (read in full...)
I know I need to walk away but I'm In love with a married man
Q. I have been seeing this man.. who if truth be told is married. I have been seeing him for almost two months now. When I first started seeing him it was just for sex. I told him prior to us being together that there were rules so that I didn't become ...
A. 22 April 2008: I totally agree with A Cappella that "if he cheats with you he will cheat on you". And just keep telling yourself that in these kinds of situations, 99% of the time the married person does not leave their spouse for the other woman. It may be ... (read in full...)
Could love grow from this feeling of comfortableness?
Q. I have been dating this man for about 2 months. He is funny, I enjoy spending time with him, and he is easy to talk to. I look forward to seeing him, talking to him, and spending time with him. He makes me laugh. We see each other about every ...
A. 22 April 2008: I would try to give it more time because you do enjoy spending time with him, etc. If after 6 months... it should be more clear if you feel like you are falling in love. ... (read in full...)
He enjoys fellatio whereas he doesn't even touch me in the private area... because he's religious! Any advice?
Q. Hi All I'm 45, in a relatively new relationship (six months). My guy (47) is very religious (Catholic) and believes that sex outside of marriage is a sin. I respect his views and though its not easy, I abide by them (mostly). We have had sex a f...
A. 22 April 2008: This is very unfair. You make him orgasm and he gives you nothing? I think you need to explain/talk to him about this and hopefully you guys can work out a better situation. And oral sex is sex. So if he is afraid of sinning... then I'm sorry to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to watch me with another man - healthy and normal??
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months. We have always been very sexually active and comfortable with speaking openly about what we want in the bedroom. About 2 months ago, during phone sex, he brought up how he wanted to watch me ...
A. 22 April 2008: I think your open communication with each other is great. But if you are uncomfortable with the scenario then you should not do it. I am with you on this, It's fun to be adventurous with my boyfriend, but I wouldn't want to involve a 3rd person. ... (read in full...)
He was not quite supportive when I told him I cannot climax without a vibrator! Shouldn't he be happy and excited to meet my needs??
Q. I have a problem with my boyfriend of 9 months. Everything in our relationship is great except for the sex. I do enjoy having sex with him very very much, but I can’t orgasm without a vibrator on my clitoris. I don’t know why and I wish it wasn’t ...
A. 18 April 2008: Ok, you are not alone on this. Many women cannot get off from just sex. In fact, MANY women do NOT reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. Some men do not understand this, but there is usually nothing you can do about this and it is WAY ... (read in full...)
I want him to find a girl already so he won't like her and come back! How long should I wait?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 14 months. Recently, he decided that he needed to break up with me to date other people. I'm sad that this has to happen but I do agree that he needs to go out there and date (as much as it would hurt ...
A. 18 April 2008: I think you should start seeing other people too. One of the two things will happen: #1: you find someone better. #2: he comes to the realization that you are not going to wait around for him to decide what he wants and you become more ... (read in full...)
Is saying no to sex when you don't feel like it a bad or good thing?
Q. Is saying no to sex when you don't feel like it a good or a bad thing? Sure you don't feel like it so why shouldn't you say no? But is that the sort of way you'd like your partner to treat you when you're the one wanting it? Personally if ...
A. 18 April 2008: And it really depends on many things. If a partner almost NEVER wants to have sex, then that IS a problem. But for me, if I am really not in the 'mood' then I don't want to fake being into it. Do you really want to make your partner do something ... (read in full...)
Is he still hiding something if he gives me all his passwords?
Q. hi i have a question its kinda iffy so could all of you answer it the best u can thanks. my boyfriend gave me his password to everything that needs a password so does that mean that he has nothing to hide or does he still have something to hide but ...
A. 18 April 2008: Is there some reason why you need to keep such close tabs on him? I know I wouldn't like my bf asking for all my passwords and I love my bf and do not cheat on him. ... (read in full...)
He treats me very badly, is disrespectful... is he doing this to make me mad because I lied in the past?
Q. hi all.....im 18 and ive been in a relationship for 10months and my friends feel that he treats me very badly. he makes my self esteem go way down even whn it's low already. when he sees a hot girl he looks at me jumps up and down saying that he ...
A. 18 April 2008: Look, I think you have problems with your self esteem, not getting your boyfriend to trust you. Sometimes when good friends don't like your boyfriend, it's because they really care about you and have your best interest in mind. They see your ... (read in full...)
How can I manage it "on top"?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are ready to start having sex.We've read lots of advice in this section and it seems "me on top" is the best way to start. I'm worried though abouthow to go about stroking without squashing my girlfriend and keeping ...
A. 18 April 2008: Don't worry to much about it, I think it is great that you two have looked into it together. Just remember that communication is very important. You have to tell each other what feels good and what you don't like. It is different for everyone and ... (read in full...)
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