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writes:I have been seeing this man.. who if truth be told is married. I have been seeing him for almost two months now. When I first started seeing him it was just for sex. I told him prior to us being together that there were rules so that I didn't become emotionally attached. Well we were together for the first time and he started calling me everyday Monday-Friday. w2e talk for at least two hours a night and Spend hours sometimes at his office just talking. he is my question... I feel like I've fallen for this guy(after only two months) and know I have to walk away but how do I walk away from someone that makes so much sense to me?
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reader, louweez23  +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Choose a foot, then move it, then follow it with the other one.
Left foot, right foot, left foot and so on.
Seriously, falling in love is a process. It is a conscious choice. Contrary to popular belief it isn't something that 'just happens'.
Falling out of love is the opposite of falling in love. Stop all contact. If you catch yourself daydreaming about him, banish the thought, and go out trying to find yourself a new man (and this time for god sake make sure he's not married).
Married men are NOT available and can only bring pain and heratache.
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reader, vsnod +, writes (22 April 2008):
 I totally agree with A Cappella that "if he cheats with you he will cheat on you". And just keep telling yourself that in these kinds of situations, 99% of the time the married person does not leave their spouse for the other woman. It may be hard, but the longer you wait the harder it will be. Also, good men do not cheat on their wives.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (21 April 2008):
 You think you've fallen for this guy? Well, I think when you fell yo must have bumped your head. The rules of life over ride your "fling". What you feel is way down the list of what is important in this particular ordeal. When you assume the role you've assumed, guess what, you don't count. That is the price of having very little integrity, you're value in the game of decent living is diminished. On the scale good and bad, your actions tilt the scale in the wrong direction.
So you didn't want someone to love. That is fine. You merely wanted a man to put his &*#@$ in your @$!^&, thump around and go home. I'm not trying to sound rude, just honest. Of all the people in the world you could pick to orgasm with, why would you choose another persons husband. This speaks volumes about how shallow you two are.
You can try to justify your actions but you know the truth, you're wrong. Try to be a more moral lady.
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reader, A Cappella +, writes (21 April 2008):
 Cold Turkey. You now what you have to do, you just don't know how to do it. That's the big problem you're facing. Rip the band-aid off and get on with the healing.
He's not available. You don't have a future with him. And if he cheats with you he would someday cheat on you. Cut him off hon. You'll be happier in the long run.
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