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We seem to have a thing going, but I'm nervous after bad experiences in the past. Can you help?
Q. I text and talk to a friend at school alot and when i was absent she texted me after school and said she wondered where i was and said she missed me i said i did too. we are in the same grade but no classes we meet at the cafe in the morning until ...
A. 16 September 2007: The more chances you have to meet her the better able you will be to understand her. I say go for it.... (read in full...)
She never wants to talk or even say please...
Q. I dont think I have ever really been happy in a realitionship.The one im with right now we were happy in the bigining but now she would rather watch tv then even sit and talk with me.Sometime I feel like im her bitch.Like She never asks me please or ...
A. 14 September 2007: Without a job she doesn't respect you. I question whether you really can't find a job or are now freeloading. I suggest you find a new job and a new girlfriend. You have destroyed this relationship. Learn from your mistakes and do better the next ... (read in full...)
He says I make a huge deal about me not wanting him to have friends. I say he receives flirtatious texts from "friends."
Q. 15 months ago I found the love of my life in a chatroom...or so I thought...He lives 250 miles away...and he came to see me several times... Everything was perfect....sensitive...caring....talked every morning on the phone and every night...Chatted ...
A. 14 September 2007: You win by being interesting and loving. If you drink, golf, fish, play tennis, scrabble, darts, judo, pool, or whatever he might like. Do thes things with him so he won't have the time to deal with them. Learn what he likes from a lover and polish ... (read in full...)
She never wants to talk or even say please...
Q. I dont think I have ever really been happy in a realitionship.The one im with right now we were happy in the bigining but now she would rather watch tv then even sit and talk with me.Sometime I feel like im her bitch.Like She never asks me please or ...
A. 14 September 2007: Obviously your selection process is flawed. There are plenty of appreciative girls out there. You should be able to tell after a couple of dates. I think you may only look for outside beauty.... (read in full...)
Embarassed about online dating
Q. Embarassed about online dating Hi everyone, This may sound really silly, but I find myself feeling embarassed about using an online dating site. Only one of my friends knows I am on Agematch.com and that is because we both joined together!...
A. 14 September 2007: Times, they are a changing. The ways of meeting people is too. What really matters is what happens after you meet someone.... (read in full...)
What do I do? I have a crush on my boyfriend's cousin!
Q. hi, im 16 and in trouble. I think i havea crush on my boyfriend's cousin. His cousin, i dont know why i do have a crush on him. He too has a girlfriend but everytime we se each other at a game or at his grandma's house we always stare a each oth...
A. 14 September 2007: You probably haven't matured enough to know the difference between love and lust.... (read in full...)
Does this mean she wants to break up?
Q. my girlfriend and I had a serious fight about me not showing enough love to her, I already admit to it and told her that I was gonna change, but she doesn't believe me, and all she says is that she doesn't know what to do anymore wit us, does that ...
A. 14 September 2007: We'll, keep going out with her and consider her arguing as a warning.... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I love my boyfriend anymore but am scared of being on my own with no family. What should I do?
Q. hi sorry if long............ am looking for advice unfortuantely my life hasnt turned out the way i planned, i have been with my boyfriend for 5 yrs, we live together, but im now wondering if the best thing to do is to go my own way. we ge...
A. 14 September 2007: You are your own worst enemy. Your sour attutude has ruined your love life. Your husband is in the same way. You've both created a living hell. Ask him to walk with you to a park bench. Then say, what the f are we doing. Decide on some goals and ... (read in full...)
My husbands family treated me very badly. I'm torn between encouraging my husband to keep in touch with his family and with him being loyal to me?
Q. I met my husband in 1988, in my home country, we got married in 1994 and i moved to the UK to live with him and his mother (he lived at home). His mother said I was not like her daughters and was too quiet, I felt forced to constantly interact with ...
A. 14 September 2007: If you no longer live with his family why do you bad mouth them. Why not shut up about his family and concentrate on the happiness of you own family? Concentrate all of your thought on what you are doing in the here and now. I can see you are angry ... (read in full...)
After we got engaged, things changed and we broke up. She still wants me, but now it feels like I can't do the right thing. What do you think I should do?
Q. I am trying to figure what went wrong in my recent engagement. I have been with this woman for about a year. We both fell in love and were engaged recently. The engagement was something she wanted. Before we were engaged she was excited about ...
A. 14 September 2007: Keep on dating her. Tell her to let you know if she feels ready to comitt. If she's not coming around within 6 months start looking for a girl without the problems.... (read in full...)
We seem to have a thing going, but I'm nervous after bad experiences in the past. Can you help?
Q. I text and talk to a friend at school alot and when i was absent she texted me after school and said she wondered where i was and said she missed me i said i did too. we are in the same grade but no classes we meet at the cafe in the morning until ...
A. 13 September 2007: It's normal to be nervous. She is probably nervous too. Invite her to do something with you. Like playing a game of scrabble, watching a video, studying in the library, etc.... (read in full...)
I fancy someone else more than my fiancee!
Q. Im a mum of 1, and were planning our wedding for next year, but i have more feelings for another male then i do my fiance. this other male feels the same bout me, and i keep sneaking round there to see him behind my partners back. I am so confused ...
A. 13 September 2007: Cancel the wedding. It's so obvious.... (read in full...)
We kiss sometimes, but it hurts to know I'm just a "friend" now. Should I walk away?
Q. My bf( we are both 17!) of 9 months and I broke up just under 3 months ago. He said he didnt want a relationship anymore( things were gettin too serious) So, obviously broke up with him cause i knew he wasnt happy and we kept on arguing over...
A. 13 September 2007: I think he has you where he wants you. In a year you'll be back with him. I see a rocky road.... (read in full...)
How do I make him leave me alone, he's very possessive.
Q. I met my bf through being mates with his 1st wife and Ive been with him for 4 years now, and when I met him he had split up with his 2nd wife.That was at xmas time, by the Feb we had decided to go on holiday, we had a great time but when we got back ...
A. 13 September 2007: You need to learn how to say no. I suggest you date a big strong guy he can't beat up. Maybe a cop or a black belt.... (read in full...)
I have always been a sexual person, but I'm not turned on in this relation, and he has a low sex drive.
Q. I know he loves me very much, he tells me all the time how happy he is. How I am his perfect match, and he does treat me the way I deserve to be treated.The problem is, we really have no passion, he has not much of a sex drive. I am not turn...
A. 13 September 2007: Get a vibrator. You are a bright star. I keep reading stories about women complaining their man wants too much sex. ... (read in full...)
Most of my hubby's friends have stopped talking to him, I think it's because of his need to correct people all the time, which is now very frequent and upsetting.
Q. I'm having a problem with my husband. He always feels the need to correct EVERYONE about almost EVERYTHING they say. For example, I'll say that the sky is blue and he'll "correct" me by saying that it's cyan. Or if a friend says that they're col...
A. 13 September 2007: I agree with AskEve.... (read in full...)
Having a torrid affair with a woman who has a bf! And.I am jealous of her bf!?
Q. Hi all. Advice needed. In love /lust with a woman who has a boyfriend. Yes it has turned into a torrid affair. Thing is we became close and realized how similar we are. But with her cheating, me being single she gets incredibly jealous but still ...
A. 13 September 2007: Demand that she make a choice and tell her you will be faithful. If she won't she's the player, not you.... (read in full...)
He doesn't like me back...what can I do?
Q. I really like a boy I recently met, but I don't think he likes me back. I don't really talk to him that much, but I do a bit. I really want him to like me back. He thinks that one of my other friends likes him and he has told loads of people that ...
A. 13 September 2007: This is a kids game. As you get wiser you'll learn that not every guy you fancy will want you. It's O.K. to try and attract a guy but you need to know when to quit and move on. When you find the one who likes you back, that's when the sparks ... (read in full...)
I'm haunted by visions of my ex sleeping with another man, and wonder if she thinks about me.
Q. Here is a revised version of my previous question - http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-get-over-my-ex-sleeping.html with some background infomation. I was seeing this girl for eleven months and it started off as just sex for us, but ...
A. 13 September 2007: Every guy wonders about who's doing his ex. Once you've moved on you might think of it but you won't care. A new girlfriend is the best way to start moving on. Time also helps.... (read in full...)
He says I make a huge deal about me not wanting him to have friends. I say he receives flirtatious texts from "friends."
Q. 15 months ago I found the love of my life in a chatroom...or so I thought...He lives 250 miles away...and he came to see me several times... Everything was perfect....sensitive...caring....talked every morning on the phone and every night...Chatted ...
A. 13 September 2007: Hey, you're not the only woman in his life. A guy like him has to be won. Get what attention from him you can and if after awhile he doesn't give up his other women you'll have a decision to make.... (read in full...)
I wonder where I would stand if I hadn't been a year behind my friends. What do you think?
Q. Perhaps it's wrong to dwell on the past, and something that I cannot change, but something has recently occured to me. 2 years ago, just before I first met my girlfriend face to face after chatting online for about 5 months, I had exams to sit. Th...
A. 13 September 2007: What might have happened is not worth thinking about. It's like saying if I had left the house 15 minutes earlier I wouldn't have been in that accident. What you need to think about now is what you are going to do next.... (read in full...)
Should my bf be able to set the rules for my 14 year old daughter?
Q. Im a widow, parent of a 14 yr old girl and my boyfriend and i just bought a house together. should he have say so in what my daughter's punishments should be or and should he be able to set rules for her?...
A. 13 September 2007: I think he should have a say. If you decided to move in with him I hope it was because you trust him totally. If not, why would you move in with him?... (read in full...)
I'm turned off from my boryfriend because of his porn habits. How can I get it out of our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend keeps downloading the filthiest porn behind my back and it makes me so sick I donn't even want him to touch me. I've just found one were a woman is practically being abused by 3 men. He says he's not into anal sex but it's in all of ...
A. 13 September 2007: Don't look at the porn and refuse to watch it with him. Otherwise stay off his back.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is demanding about sex and caused me serious pain last time. I love him, but I don't know what to do.
Q. i have this problem, my bf treats me like a sex toy, every time we see each other he demands a god 3 hour sex sesson. though i allow him to have sex with me, i feel that it is just to satisfy him and not for our relationship. we have been together ...
A. 13 September 2007: Only you can judge the best course for you. Once you become fussy about his sexual wants you will change in his mind. My advice is to tell him what you like and don't like but continue to go along. If after some time he continues to cause you pain ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend 7inch penis is hurting me. Any advice?
Q. he hurts me when we have sex. my bf has a 7inch penis, but every time we have sex he hurts me. is it because of the size?...
A. 13 September 2007: His size is probably not the problem.... (read in full...)
I am feeling jealous because my recovering alcoholic husband has a female friend with the same problem.
Q. My husband is a recovering alcoholic. During the summer he went into hospital to help this problem when he met an inpatient (female) and got along really well with her. There relationship was making me feel uncomfortable towards the end of his stay ...
A. 13 September 2007: You are being too hard on him. I suggest you watch him and try to become his new best friend.... (read in full...)
I'm new to sex and having trouble with premature ejaculation. Any advice??
Q. Hi, I'm a 19 yr old male and I have just recently began my sex life. My problem is, sex is very short. I believe this is because foreplay lasts too long. By the time we get around to sex, I'm not as hard as I could be, and I ejaculate really...
A. 13 September 2007: After you ejaculate rest for 15 minutes and then start again. By the time you get to the third or fourth time you will be lasting much longer.... (read in full...)
I'm divorcing my husband and dating his brother. How can avoid the guilt?
Q. My husband and I are going thru a divorce and I have started dating his brother there is alot of guilt involved and I want to know if there is any way to help us all not feel guilty?...
A. 13 September 2007: Well, at least you already know the inlaws.... (read in full...)
Years ago, I watched a bj video with a male friend, and he offered to give me one. I was just a curious child, is this unusual?
Q. Back when I was 11 (5th grade) I had a best friend since kindergarten (Both of us males). We were both straight and would often look at his fathers playboys, or look at women on the internet. Now, one day we watched a blowjob. My friend and I won...
A. 13 September 2007: Everybody has done something they don't want anyone to know. In the scheme of things your issue hurt no one and you'd be foolish to let it occupy any of your thinking time. Better to concentrate on what your doing now.... (read in full...)
I keep losing my erection mix-sex... why?
Q. I'm 20 and healthy. I was a virgin before I met my girlfriend. She is not, she had one partner before me, she said he was awful. Now we have had sex four times recently, on the first night I was in the missionary position. Everything was going ok, ...
A. 13 September 2007: Many things can cause your problem:
Decongestants
High Blood Pressure
Numerous medications
Masterbation
Girl who stops stimulatuion
Squeezing your penis
Lack of Practice
Failure to concentrate
Medical problem
Pschological problem.... (read in full...)
Years ago, I watched a bj video with a male friend, and he offered to give me one. I was just a curious child, is this unusual?
Q. Back when I was 11 (5th grade) I had a best friend since kindergarten (Both of us males). We were both straight and would often look at his fathers playboys, or look at women on the internet. Now, one day we watched a blowjob. My friend and I won...
A. 13 September 2007: This is not a life definning event. Smoking 1 cigarette does not make you a smoker. Nor does getting one A get you into Harvard. Punching one small kid does not make you a bully.
Falling in love with a man and expressing it physically make you ... (read in full...)
At first she avoids me, when I decide to do the same she gives signs she wants to talk again.
Q. Hi I am a college student and I happen to fall in love with a girl in my freshman year. It happened everything about us match like you know we have the sam eorigin and ulture and everything but few difference. We started messaging each oth...
A. 13 September 2007: Give it up pal. Your were tried out and reject. Move on are try a new girl. Maybe this one won't be so fickle.... (read in full...)
In love with the girl I can't have, how do I go about this?
Q. Alright, i have several questions. I have been friends with this girl for several years. I have told her how i felt a few times and each time, she kindly rejects me.Yhe last time i told her how i felt was about 2 fridays ago. I really really like ...
A. 13 September 2007: Be more specific with her. Ask her to the Friday dance or the Saturday Football game. If she keeps saying no, give it up an try another girl. Is she doesnt agee to go out with you, she may be relieved to see you go out with another girl.... (read in full...)
I know its wrong, but I am attraced to my best friend's fiance. Please help!
Q. I am a happily married 37 year old female and I am attraced to my best friend's fiance. I think he is attracted to me also. We always give a hug and a kiss when we see each other and I feel attracted to him. He always kisses me straight on the ...
A. 13 September 2007: Tell him to quit hitting on you and if he doesn't that you will tell his fiance.... (read in full...)
Would getting in shape and getting a job make me more attractive?
Q. Looking for a womans advice here... I'm not in the best of shape (I'm not fat, but I ama bit above average), and I'm unemployed atm, I was wondering if I would appear more attractive to women if I got into bettr shape and landed myself a job. ...
A. 13 September 2007: YES A properly trained body says good breading material to many women. A good income says warmth and security to many women.... (read in full...)
Ashamed of my stretch marks, what's your opinion?
Q. i am an 18 year old virgin, who has never been in a relationship. the reason is because i have no confidence in myself. i have stretch marks all over my boobs, thighs and hips and im totally ashamed and feel discusting. i have met a lad, 21. who h...
A. 13 September 2007: He is after sex. He probably won't be turned off by your strech marks. By losing weight, exercise and tightening cream you can probablly eliminate the strech marks.... (read in full...)
I like her, she has a boyfriend but she told my mate she likes me! I'm going insane!
Q. Hello i am new here i need help or i will go insane.ok there is a girl i would give the world to! i have met her and we clicked right away but... she has a boyfriend now i want her to be happy so i dont want them to split.One of my mates hered her ...
A. 13 September 2007: At her young age she doesn't know what she wants. It is O.K. to try and win her away from her current boyfriend, so long as he is not a friend of yours.... (read in full...)
My partner doesn't help with our 2 month old baby. I don't want him to grow up without a dad like I did, but my guy doesn't pull his weight! What should I do?
Q. umm dis october wil b a year i'm living with dis guy but i had my baby 2 months ago. before i had my baby he went away like running from dah responsibility and wen i had dah baby he came back. his family aren't friends with me but dats not dah ...
A. 13 September 2007: He is probably affraid of hurting the baby. Show him how to do things a little at a time. Over time he will get into it more.... (read in full...)
I'm divorcing my husband and dating his brother. How can avoid the guilt?
Q. My husband and I are going thru a divorce and I have started dating his brother there is alot of guilt involved and I want to know if there is any way to help us all not feel guilty?...
A. 13 September 2007: What kind of guy would date his brother's ex-wife? You seem to tend toward poor judgments. You need a close friend to talk things through with.... (read in full...)
Why am I so paranoid?
Q. Am 18 and my b/fs 22 we’ve been together for almost 6 months now and I love him very much, he says he loves me too and I believe him. But I just cant seam to stop thinking that he will/is cheating on me and I get extremely jealous of other...
A. 13 September 2007: Sounds like you may have low self esteem. Watch him closely and snoop when you can. If you find nothing, rethink the underlying reasons for your mostly baseless thought. Maybe you are picking up on suttle clues you are not conscious of. Find them ... (read in full...)
We've been together 2 yrs but now he says he's not ready for a relationship. Can anyone help?
Q. I am really confused. I had been with my boyfriend for 2 and half years when he said that he didnt know what he wanted anymore. He said that he loves me but doesnt know if he wants the relationship anymore. Hes 24 and says hes not sure if he is too ...
A. 12 September 2007: You are wasting your time. Tell him you intend to look for a marriagable guy. Then, after a month, start a quest.... (read in full...)
My one night stand gave me an std! He wants a relationship now. I really like him though so should I tell him about it?
Q. hi ,im 22, i first met a guy 23 yrs old at the night i wnet out with my friend we locked eyes exchanged numbers.. then after few attempts of going out for a drink one day.. we finnaly made it.. he told me he had a baby by another lady .. and i ...
A. 12 September 2007: He's not good relationship material, stay away from him. By all means tell him he infected you and that for his protection as well as others he needs to get it taken care of.... (read in full...)
What do men think about a women asking them out?
Q. I am 36, female and single. I got chatting to this great guy who's single and 38, i felt that he liked me. I then asked him out on a date and he said Yes. What do men think about a women asking them out? ...
A. 12 September 2007: Having been asked, I found it flattering.... (read in full...)
I wouldn't want to continue meeting if there's no hope of getting back together, although I broke up with him. How long should I wait this out?
Q. Well i have been dating this boy for about 2 years now. We just recently broke up for the second time( the other time was in January). I broke up with him both times. He is really a insecure person, he has a crazy mom and does not have a lot ...
A. 12 September 2007: Sounds to me like the choice is yours. Why not investigate some other options before you make up your mind?... (read in full...)
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