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writes:umm dis october wil b a year i'm living with dis guy but i had my baby 2 months ago. before i had my baby he went away like running from dah responsibility and wen i had dah baby he came back. his family aren't friends with me but dats not dah problem. he use to drink a lot and now he doesn't since dah baby is here. he says he loves me but i don't think so, i think we are 2gether because of dah baby and because we got use to each other. now i truly want to let him go but i'm scared he doesn't help me in anyhting, not even with dah baby at nites wen he wakes up he isn't responisble. i'm goin insane and don't know wat to do. plz give me and advice, i grew up without a dad and i didn't wanted dat for my baby. wat can i do work things out? he is dah same person as he was tru my pregnancy, never showed like he cared only wen we broke up and thing.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (13 September 2007):
 I would talk to him about what is going on with him as it could be any number of things. As Tommy7 said he could be scared of hurting the baby. When my niece was born my sister's partner wouldn't even hold her at first but my sister showed him how to hold her, change her etc and he soon couldn't put her down. Being a parent does come naturally once fear is gotten over.
Also ask him where you and him stand. If he doesn't want to be with you then you need to tell him that you want him to be there for your child.
Good Luck!
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (13 September 2007):
He is probably affraid of hurting the baby. Show him how to do things a little at a time. Over time he will get into it more.
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