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writes: Embarassed about online datingHi everyone,This may sound really silly, but I find myself feeling embarassed about using an online dating site. Only one of my friends knows I am on Agematch.com and that is because we both joined together!We have both been on the odd date and are never short of 'winks' and messages, but because I am so embarrassed of sounding desperate to my friends, I have to keep it a big secret and often worry that if I do meet someone I like, I will no doubt get asked about how we first met....and know I won't have the heart to say we met on an online dating site!I probably sounds like I am overreacting I know, I have loads of friends, loads of male friends and get asked out which is why I think I will get laughed in the face if everyone knew! I have been single for over a year now and am out of practice in the dating department which is why I joined.Am I alone in feeling this? Has anyone ever lied about how they met to their friends after meeting on an online dating site?Your feedback will be appreciated! Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn +, writes (14 September 2007):
 You're fine. It's OK to feel this way too. It may seem as if your kind of hard up, but I see it as an additional tool to network. I've used a couple of those sites, all though nothing permanent came out of it, I have met some people who I consider friends and they will be, I'm sure, for years to come.
If you do meet someone, never be embarrassed to let people know where you met, and how you met. That's part of your history, and the chapters in your book of life you wrote with them. That is absolutely not something to be embarrassed about.
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reader, pwincess  +, writes (14 September 2007):
 Hi
You dont need to be embarrased about online dating! Lots of people do it and it is now really popular! People say you can find love any were and online is one of the many places, there are alot of people looking for love online and your sure to find some one worthy of your love!
Good luck with finding your ideal partner!
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reader, sexi  +, writes (14 September 2007):
 Hi,
There is nothing to feel embarassed about. It is yor choce at the end of the day. If you choose to visit the online dating site you shouldnt feel embarassed.There are plenty of positive outcomes from that way of dating, i think it is your choice and you shouldnt worry what anyone else says.If they are your real friends they would be happy as long as you are and accept your choices.
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (14 September 2007):
 Looking online to meet someone is how loads of people meet dont be embarressed about it and dont lie about how you met and if you dont want to admit you met through an online dating site just say you met in a chatroom. I met my best friend online and we have been great friends its like we have always known each other and people thought it was odd because we met online but now everyone just accepts it because we are happy.
Dont lie dont be embaresed your friends should respect and care for you and not judge you for being modern and seeking a new way to meet people
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reader, war37 +, writes (14 September 2007):
HI I meet my partner of over 4 years on a blind date......We tell everyone we meet whilst on a night out,everyones doing online dating but its your secret and no-ones business!The only thing is are you giving snobby vibes off to the guys you meet online as they are online dating?They may pick up you are?
Its the world we live in today the internet is a way of life,online dating can be a good thing as you get to thin out the guys you wouldnt date usually.
Keep safe and good luck Mr rights out there......
One tip you will find what your looking for when you dont look ;) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2007): Think of it this way. It's better than meeting in a bar or pub the way most people used to. Nowadays millions of people look for relationships online so you're not alone. I don't see why you would lie about it, if you and the other person care about each other then it shouldn't matter how you got together.
Is there a reason you turn down all the people who ask you out in real life?
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reader, Just a Girl... +, writes (14 September 2007):
 i met my fiance on an interent thing, i was embaressed wen people saw us and asked the dreaeded question, "where did you meet" but no one reli seemed bothered when i told them so dnt worry, its all fun reli n if your lucky like me youll end up really happy x x x gd luck hun
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (14 September 2007):
Times, they are a changing. The ways of meeting people is too. What really matters is what happens after you meet someone.
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