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writes:I am really confused. I had been with my boyfriend for 2 and half years when he said that he didnt know what he wanted anymore. He said that he loves me but doesnt know if he wants the relationship anymore. Hes 24 and says hes not sure if he is too young to be in a relationship and is really confused. Theres nobody else involved (which i believe). He said there was nothing wrong with me or the relationship so i really dont understand whats going on in his head. Can anyone help? Reply to this Question
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reader, jaimeamour22  +, writes (13 September 2007):
honey look walk away , your hurting right now and after 2.6 years he pulls this card , i dont he is ready but you are so find someone who is , i know easier said that dont but please please move onwards and upwards and take what your learned from him to the next relationship and be clear about what you want ,,, hope thats some help xxx jaime
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): This happened to me too, and I was devastated, except my b.f. was 18 not 24 at that time. 24 seems old enough to me to know if you want a relationship or not. But maybe he hasn't sowed his wild oats & feels like he's getting to the age where if he's going to do that it should be now while he's relativly young still. I am sorry dear, I know it hurts so bad when a guy falls out of love or whatever, decides he wants other things. What you should do is to leave him alone. That is what I did & I met someone else. Then my ex wanted me back, said he made a mistake. I didn't take him back & learned about 6 months later he had been sleeping with strippers & he gave me an std. If your bf is at the point now where he thinks he needs to experiment with other girls, be weary cuz he may already be doing so. You'll find someone better for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): Maybe you should give him some space. Sometimes people get bored in relationships and need a break. Leave him. Do not call or come by. If he is ok with the time spent apart then I would call it quits, but if he misses you and he realizes that the relationship was good then....
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (12 September 2007):
You are wasting your time. Tell him you intend to look for a marriagable guy. Then, after a month, start a quest.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (12 September 2007):
 Hi
To be honest, without knowing too many details, i would say hes got through that honeymoon period and wants to try other people out. 18 months to 2 years is the classic time period when its make or break time with the person you are with.
I would move on if i was you. Hes young, blokes are rarely ready to 'settle down' with one person by that age.
Good luck.
C xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): Guys get tired of girls sometimes when they have been together that long. And NO it does not necessarily mean he has met someone else. Maybe you guys got into a routine that became boring to him. Maybe you guys were ALWAYS together. Or whatever. I guess people have to feel like they are working towards something. And when they stop feeling that way then they want to move on and work towards something else. Maybe he is looking for more excitement.He is pretty young and many guys that age get bored QUICKLY. And most guys that age aren't really thinking in the LONG term. He is just bored. And he has probably changed in those two years you guys have been together. He is probably ready for something different. So let him be. That has happened to me too. If you feel like he really had something good (you loved him, you were good to him, etc.) then don't worry. Guys that age (because of lack of experience) often don't know a good thing when they have one. Just let him go and move on. He may regret it or not. Who cares? You will eventually meet someone better (that always happens). And eventually you will look back and see that you have learned from this. Maybe you know what type of guys to go for and which to avoid, how to be or not to be in a relationship. Stuff like that.
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