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writes:Hi...Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half and we just had a son together. The problem is that we live 20 mins from each other and I barely ever see him and when we have plans to see each other it's very rare he'll come over. The other day I lied to him and told him I had my X-boyfriend over because he didn't come. Now the story was completely false and now he doesn't trust me. I want to tell him the truth that I lied but I don't know if it'll make the situation better or worse. HELP!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Hellena  +, writes (20 August 2007):
Girls or boys, everyone likes to feel loved and secure. Since he is not coming over that often and you live separately even though you have a child together perhaps it is not that trusting relationship anyway. If he can lose his trust over one statement then...
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reader, Suzie767 +, writes (31 May 2007):
 honesty if the best policy-
my guy lies to me about things and now i dont trust him at all and am leaving him.
id much rather know that i'll always get the truth no matter how bad
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reader, nicola79 +, writes (31 May 2007):
 listen, we all say or do something that we wish we didnt, and its not the end of the world. i would just tell him the truth,just say you dont know why you said it and you are really sorry. tell him you were just abit angry that he didnt come to see you and you were a bit upset.
tell him that you love him so much and you just wanted to know that he loved you.
you will be fine flower.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, DV1 +, writes (31 May 2007):
 You made a BIG mistake. It's one thing to say that you're busy, or that you don't want to see him, but you basically told him that you've moved on. He probably thinks that you're with your ex. If you go back to him, he's most likely going to assume that you're trying to play both him and your boyfriend, or he just won't ever trust you again. You need to do some serious groveling and apologizing, and you need to never go that far again to get under his skin.
DV1
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): don't lie to him about things like that. guys can't handle not being sure if they can trust their girl. my ex would lie like that, and then i couldn't trust at all, and she'd get mad when i didn't, even though she had set me up to doubt her because of all her lies.
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reader, candy00s +, writes (31 May 2007):
 Okay you want to tell him the truth.
I think it may make the situation better - he feels he cant trust you as he believes that you had an old boyfriend round.
Tell him how you feel - if you want to be with him more or if you need more commitment.
Do whatever you feel you need to do - be honest with him if that is what you WANT to do.
I dont think it can make things worse can it?
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