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writes:I work with a manager who is about 48 yrs old. I like him a lot for his maturity, confidence, and sincere pride in his job and life. I'm a 20 yr old girl, but feel like he is someone I could get along really well with. I don't know if he likes me because I've noticed that he keeps things very professional, thats the way he is. He's married with 2 kids a few years younger than me. How do I drop the hint to this man?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2007): You don't! He's married, he's raising his family with his wife. Don't even go there. Regardless of the attraction, please find someone in your own age bracket, who's single and start a life with them. This man is keeping things on a professional level because he doesn't share the same feelings for you and because he loves his wife and kids. If you can't handle being around him without wanting him all the time, then change jobs but whatever you do -- don't wreck his life because of your own selfishness. It'll never work out. Good luck.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (24 May 2007):
 Don't say a word to him. You're going to open up a can of worms.
DV1
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reader, stina +, writes (24 May 2007):
 Anonymous,
You can drop the hint by saying something like "Hey, you're hot. Why not cheat on your wife and leave your family for me so we can get it on?" (Notice the obvious sarcasm.)
Honestly! Anonymous, you say this man is professional, mature and takes pride in his life. Why in the world do you think he would want to be with you?
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reader, Suzie767  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 dont tell him.
this is not fair to him, his wife or his kids.
just think how you would feel if your husband cheated on you for a girl or how youd feel if your dad went off with someone the same age as you.
try and build a relationship and a future with a guy your own age
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 May 2007):
 What are you nuts? Drop a hint? Sheesh....you are only 20 years old and you want to start your life off like this?
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (24 May 2007):
 You have a crush thats all. Have you thought how devestating this would be for his family.
And really, what will you have in common with him, he is nearly 30 years older for goodness sake.
Have you thought about this seriously, when you are 40 he will be 70. If he were free I would still think it an un-wise move. Pease dont ruin this mans life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2007): You don't, plain and simple, this man is married, he is off limits to you and anyone else for that matter. What is wrong with you that you cannot find someone who is free for you to pursue. He probably doesn't view you as anything other that a co-worker anyway so don't embarrass him or yourself, if you can't trust yourself then find another job.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (24 May 2007):
 You dont. You do not drop the hint that you would like to be with a MARRIED man. You do not get to be with him EVER. It doesnt matter if you think you would get along really great or that you really like him. He is taken! Find your own man, leave hers alone. If you pursue this you are risking your job, destroying his family, ruining his childrens lives and are nothing but a low life slut.
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