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writes:Well okay i use to be a very out-going, bubbly person but just over the last year i've turnned into such a home body. i don't think being a home body is a bad thing i love really but i'm so young and its seem like a waste of life. but it seem every since i got into college i just dont feel like going out anymore, i cut myself off from people and enjoy spending my time by myself. which is weird because when i was in school i loved going out meeting new people but now i'm lucky if i can be bothed to go out to the shops.i just wanted to know how to get back to my old self how do i go from out going person to home-body from home-body to out-going person.i just dont want to get old before my time. how do i return back to the soical butterfly i once was. Reply to this Question
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (11 April 2006):
Angelicc is verified as being by the original poster of the question Suz thanks so much for your reply, i think i'll call my friends now okay well not right as it's pretty late. i just hope there stil my friends. lol.
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reader, Suzie767 +, writes (10 April 2006):
 Hi Angelicc,the same thing happened to me when i met my boyfriend. He was very possessive at at 1st and i just found it easier to stay in with him than go out and argue. My friends stopped aasking me to go out and in the end was spending my day at work and my nights in with him.This depressed me and i realised i had to do something about it.My advise is to take small steps. Arranging a big night out or a big gathering will seem intimidating and too much effort compared with your safe comfy life at home so arrange a drink with one of your old friends. Just a few hours and you will remember how much you enjoyed getting ready to go out and chatting.Do this with a few of your friends individually and start to build a bond with them again as this will have been broken in the time since you last spent time with them.Remember to follow up with a phone call or a text in between so that they know you are making an effort and not just bored. Also dont change your mind and break up any engagements at the last minute as it will put you back to square one and it may be the last you see of them.Then build it up gradually so that you are seeing a few friends at a time and aim to have a really good night out but give yourself plenty of time to prepare so you dont have any excuses.This way you will start to make new friends as well as you will be meeting more people but also you will be less inclined to dismiss people as aquaintances and will get to know them better. The more time you spend with people on a personal level te more at home you will feel with new people on a personal level.This is how i did it and although my social life will never be as healthy as it was whn i was younger i fell much happier in myself.I hope this will help you.Suzx
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (10 April 2006):
Angelicc is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for replying bridget, means alot to me. i'll try and follow your advise thank you.
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reader, bridget +, writes (10 April 2006):
 Hey there Angelicc,
You know, I was the same only in your situation you are at college but mine I was at work and Its not really such a bad thing.. It just means that when you take on new experiences, for instance College Courses, Working Lifes you tend to become more busier and cant always fit old relations into the new ones..
It just means that you have to organise things a bit more clearly and make time for your social life.. It is very easy to loose you social cirlce, and not so easy to get it back..
My friends left me when I started raking Panic Attacks when we went out though, and Ive got new friends now who respect who I am..
I lost mine dont you loose yours..
Good Luck
Jacqueline
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