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writes:A friend of mine's boyfriend just broke up with her. She's been very depressed since. I've been trying to help her(talking to her, trying to make her laugh), but nothing seems to be working. She's started to cut herself and I feel it's my fault because I used to and I think she got it from me. Please help, I don't know what she might do next.
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reader, CGL0527 +, writes (27 May 2009):
CGL0527 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks guys, you're a real help. I've convinced her to get some help and she's getting better. Once again, thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): Get her help ASAP! Stop blaming yourself and get her the professional help she needs! Talk to an adult you feel comfortable with and tell them everything!
Also, in a kind loving way, let her know how worried you are about her!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (26 May 2009):
If she is harming herself then she has gone beyond break up blues. She is clinically depressed and needs medical help.
Get her to see her doctor.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): Tell her no one is worth her to pain and suffer or worse suicide like my best friend did, coz lets face it if the fella aint coming back he aint coming back and no amount of this behaviour is gonna change that. But i've been there myself when my best mate topped himself, it's hard to see a way through but trust me there is and in time she'll be able to look back and say what a silly girl. After all thats probably what her ex would be thinking anyway if he knew, best of luck:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): Despite your best efforts, you aren't really equipped to help this girl and she may have deeper issues than just what resulted from the break up. Her parents need to be informed and she needs psychological help for cutting. That's how you can support her the best. It's not your fault. If I told someone I used to drink a lot and then they started drinking because of a break up, I wouldn't feel responsible for their choice but I would support them in going to AA or counseling.
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reader, niki20  +, writes (26 May 2009):
 Tell someone. It's self mutilation and it could lead to suicide. I used to cut when I was younger, she needs professional help. Tell someone asap. I'm sure there are other people she could have gotten the idea from, its not your fault, you're trying to help her. But in order for her to stop she needs professional help, because eventually it becomes an addiction to the pain and whatnot. It could also be an attention seeking action as well, you will be able to tell if its for attention if she doesn't cover it up. and is public about it, usually cutters cover. get her help...good luck and best wishes
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reader, summerslady21 +, writes (26 May 2009):
You need to let her know that she is worrying you and that being good friends like you are... Let her know how bad she is hurting you! Just stay by her comfort her and let her know what she means to you as a great friend! I can only say that you may need to talk to someone in her family if it has gotten this bad! She needs to know that this stuff is not the answer that there are a million boys that would like to have her as theirs! Not one teen boy is worth hurtng herself over! She has a lifetime to find Mr. Perfect and this not was not perfect! Just be her sholder to cry on! And her best friend! Keep in touch let me know if I have helped!
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