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How do you let go of someone you truely love? How can I get him out of my head?
Q. this is my story....i have just split up with by boyfriend of just over 2 years (we also where engaged only to cement the relationship). he got violent and was arrested for assalt because he was drunk and insecure accusing me of sleeping around and ...
A. 23 October 2007: Sounds like he doesn't know what he wants...you have to remember a few things...men are more immature than women especially when it comes to emotional issues and issues of the heart, secondly...he's 19 how could he possibly know what he wants and ... (read in full...)
I've recently gone through a brea-up. We are still friends, but now I like somebody else. Should I tell him, or just wait it out?
Q. Hi everyone, I have just recently gone through a breakup but now I have feelings for another guy. We are good friends and this poses a problem. He may like me but I think he may be afraid of what he is feeling also because he's my friend. Do you h...
A. 23 October 2007: I went through a break up a couple of months ago and we remained friends...it doesn't work...no matter how well it might seem to be working, when one starts seeing someone new its gets nasty. Best thing to do is break away from the ex first of ... (read in full...)
She has depression, no friends and issues of trust and is bringing me down!
Q. Hi, this has gone on long enough and i really need help or advice. I've been seeing my girlfriend for just over 2 years and im getting unhappier by the week. she is my first love (im 21 and she is 23) and there are a few points that are making me ...
A. 23 March 2007: God you really sound like a very committed and reliable guy, sticking by her through all this. You have to tell her that this is difficult for you too and that you cannot support her unless you are strong enough to. If you are down then how are you ... (read in full...)
14 yeasr old and I'm pregnant..what should I do?
Q. im 14 nd ad sex wit ma ex now i think im preganant wat shoudl i do?...
A. 20 October 2006: You need to take a pregnancy test, maybe 2, just to be sure.Think of someone you know you can trust completely, a sister?Your mum? And you need to decide what is best for you considering that you have to be able to support a baby financially, ... (read in full...)
Why is masterbating while laid on your front dangerous?
Q. dear cupid, i have always masterbated by lieing on my stomach but now ive heard tht this is dangerous y is this dangerous? cculd i be in dangering my self?? plz help anyone im reali worried thnx xx...
A. 20 October 2006: I think that is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard! You would think it would be broadcast a little more if it were to be dangerous! ... (read in full...)
She convinced me to fall in love with her, I did and then she flipped out on me!!
Q. I'm sort of in a very... distressing situation right now. Last year, I dated my best friend for about 5 months, and it was the greatest time of my life. However, around October of last year, she started flirting with another guy (while we were still ...
A. 11 September 2006: OMG please, where can I find a guy like you...sensitive and forgiving...there aren't many out there like that! You must be a good catch!!!!
You really need to think about letting go of this girl. It sounds like more of a lust situation on her p... (read in full...)
We mess around all the time sexually, but never actually have sex ?
Q. Well this is a bit of a weird question, but ive been with my girlfriend for about a month now, we have both had sex with previous partners, and every time we get into bed, we have a real good time joking around, tickeling each other and stuff like ...
A. 11 September 2006: Listen honey, this could be down to the fact that you aren't that long together yet...I'm glad that you enjoy her company without the sex but you need to think as to whether this will create a problem for both of you down the line! We all have our ... (read in full...)
Im a recovering drug addict and my relationship failed, trouble is he refuses to be amicable until we split for good!!
Q. i am 28 and a mother of two young children. i have been with my partner for 8 years and although i still love him and desperatley want to stay with him i feel that the time has come to go our seperate ways. we have been trying to sort out our ...
A. 11 September 2006: Listen by the sound of it this guy is controlling you.Get rid of him, he obviuosly doesn't even respect the fact that you have overcome addiction. If you have overcome an addiction then you can get over this fella...you said it yourself, its not ... (read in full...)
Shall I stop my pill while my bf is away for 6 months ?
Q. My boyfriend's going away for six months, do you think it's a good idea to stop my pill? (Note: I'm not going to be unfaithful to him)...
A. 8 September 2006: If it were me I would stay on the pill, whats the point in messing up your cycle now plus if its the case that you need to start back on it, it can take anythinf from 2 weeks to 3 months for your body to re-adjust to it again.
If you would pr... (read in full...)
Can I get him into kissing ? And whats the best way to iniate sex ?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't kiss. He claims he hasn't "made out" with anyone for about 10 years, and that his wife wasn't big on kissing or making out. He says he doesn't like the feeling of hot breath on his face. He expects me to be ready to go as s...
A. 8 September 2006: Listen you need to get it straight with this guy cause by the sound of it this is a one way relationship..he needs to meet you half way...he is throwing demands at you like you are an object or a machine.
Tell him that you are aware that he's not... (read in full...)
I dont like the way he checks out other girls!
Q. I can't help but notice my b/f noticing other girls--especially when driving---i understand guys will look..i really get that..girls look too..but i really don't do it that much or at all if with him. Glancing with eyes is ok i guess--i cant expect ...
A. 8 September 2006: Look you need to let your boyfriend know that it hurts when he does this in your company....whatever about looking when he's with the lads or whatever its not fair that he does it in your company...all eyes should be on you and you only! I have just ... (read in full...)
Is his request normal ?
Q. my boyfriend wants me to call out my ex boyfriends name when we are having sex. i find this uncomfortable. is this normal? ...
A. 8 September 2006: I find this extremely disturbing and you are obviously worried about this...if you are uncomfortable with this, tell him...ask him why he makes that request of you and tell him that you would never want to call out your ex-boyfriends name because ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so insecure and expect him to cheat ?
Q. I moved to another country 3 months ago for my boyfriend. Since my arrival, I keep expecting him to cheat on me. His best friend keeps telling me about his previous girlfriends and even makes jokes about him and the girl he works with. I have dreams ...
A. 8 September 2006: Oh girl please take it from me that you need to trust your instincts! Has he ever cheated before or lied about having contact with another girl??? Has he ever betrayed you emotionally?
Listen trust what your body is trying to tell you...if... (read in full...)
Im afriad hes going to like her and not me, how can I get to talking to him more ?
Q. okay theres this guy tom that likes me and hes pretty popular but not really that hot and i like him (but no one knows) but my friend likes this other guy jeff but she is always like talking to tom and is making him sit besider her and stuff, so im ...
A. 8 September 2006: You have got to tell your friend to back off, that you like this guy and that you feel totally left out of the equation. Tell her that you are really into him and that you really would like him to notice you...she might even be able to help ... (read in full...)
I can't focus on my studies because I am thinking of him way too much! How do I get over this?
Q. Hey everybody. Thanks to all your amazing help I got together with the guy I kept going on about, who i liked for way too long! We started off really well. We had a happy month and a half but then everything started to go downhill. The summer ...
A. 8 September 2006: Listen honey I know its difficult but you have to move on, don't ever let a guy get in the way of your studies. If its meant to be with you and this guy then things will work out in the end, I am going through the exact same thing as you right now ... (read in full...)
My BF just won't open up to me on the phone...
Q. I'm in a distant relationship with my boyfriend. He calls me every night just to talk about what happen at work and such. I like the idea that he'll call me everynight. However, I feel like I'm always the one talking, and he's just listening. He ...
A. 8 September 2006: Listen it is probably just in his nature like it is in a lot of lads, girls are more emotional and express their feelings a lot more than guys do, in general anyways. Not just our stressors but also the things that excite us and make us happy etc, ... (read in full...)
Options after failing GCSE's?
Q. Please someone help me...I have failed all my GCSE exams. I only got a few G grades (apart from getting a C in English). What are my options? Does this mean that I have got no future, and that I will never get a well paid job?? I can't stand it...I ...
A. 7 September 2006: Calm down is a start...you are very young and there's plenty of options for you. One is that you can repeat your GCSE's or go and do an evening course and start that way...build your CV with education and as that grows you can then use that to get a ... (read in full...)
Masters in HR management?
Q. I am looking to pursue a career in H.R. in the U.K. as I am Spanish and have lived for three years in this country. I have studied English for these time, and taken some important examinations: First Certificate in English and IELTS. I...
A. 7 September 2006: You are definitely going in the right direction seeking more education, a masters or a CIPD Qualification will definitely benefit you in seeking a career in HR. Look around for internships or work placements and use the college or uni that you are ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to meet up, im scared to in case Im developing feelings for him!
Q. i havent been with my bf long but we get on really well and i have strong feelings for him already. Recently me and a ex bf have been talking and we met up last night and he kept talking about when we used to go out. He later text me and told me t...
A. 16 August 2006: Listen you really need to be careful because this meeting could totally destroy your relationship with your current bf. If you love your current bf and want to be with him then you cannot meet your ex behind his back...if he did that to you how ... (read in full...)
Im nervous and distressed about my husbands Family and im not sure whats going on, so I dont know what to do!!!
Q. dear cupid I'm 26 years old and I married 2 yeard ago.I live in middle east, I just mentioned this to let you know that we have a bit different cultures(sorry for my bad english). 2 days ago my mother in law and my 2 sisters-in-law c...
A. 15 August 2006: You really need to be clear on what you and your husband feel about the events that have just happened. You should never feel like that especially in your own home. You are his wife so essentially they are your family too. Maybe you and your husband ... (read in full...)
Scared to let my guard down in case I end up hurt again...
Q. I can't relax in my relationship because i'm scared that if i let my guard down i'll get hurt. I'm 16, and until my current bf my longest relationship had been 6 days, purely because I'm scared to let people get to know me, so they dump me pretty ...
A. 15 August 2006: Listen honey you are very young to have these sort of pressures. If you are sure that he loves you as much as you do him then you shouldn't feel this way.
I have a friend just like you who never let her gaurd down and never let anyone in and has ... (read in full...)
Was my train-guy showing he's "interested"?
Q. I met this man on a train trip. We struck up a real good conversation about our interests (p.s. I'm 19, he's 20). We both live in the same town and when we got off the train he asked for my number and we hugged (by the by most people our age hug ...
A. 15 August 2006: Listen,chances are this guy does like you if he's made a significant effort to get your number and then to invite you to his birthday. Just so with the flow...let mother nature take its course! If its meant to be it won't pass you by! Go along with ... (read in full...)
Every little thing makes her angry and its hurting my feelings, I just don't know what to do?
Q. Hi there, At the moment I would appreciate someone else's thoughts. I am 18 (19 in Nov) living with my 19yo girlfriend in our own flat. My partner is 3months pregnant and I feel as if it's falling apart. First of all I love this woman as mu...
A. 14 August 2006: You have to take into account that this girl is all over the place with hormones. My advise is to be more compassionate, give her all the attention she needs, be a little extra affectionate and try to understand the mental, emotional, pysical ... (read in full...)
How do people make friends??
Q. I don't have many friends, well I don't have any best friends, e.g. people I would see over the holidays to meet up with etc. I just wanted to know how people make friends and if people can give me any advice? I know people say I should be myself b...
A. 14 August 2006: Listen you have to learn to like who you are when you are being yourself or no one else will...you have to accept yourself the way you are and then others will.
Socialise, help people out, talk to people more and not just about yourself - ask them... (read in full...)
Haven't had a period since March but had 4 negative pregnancy tests - please help!
Q. Im 14 and I have had sex with this lad that I don't even like anymore and he doesn't care about me, neither do I about him. But I did it in April and I haven't had a period from March up until June. I have taken 4 pregnancy tests and they say ...
A. 16 June 2006: Go to your nearest GP honey and just get the test done where the results will be more accurate...get your answer now rather than wait around for a period that might never happen...set your mind at ease and get your answers now! Best of luck! x... (read in full...)
The sex is great, but I am confused!
Q. My BF and I have a great sex and when he pulls out it looks like I have cum but how comes I dont feel it. And how do I get and intense orgasm n How do I Feel it. And how will I know if ive had 1?...
A. 16 June 2006: Listen it sounds to me like firstly you are way too young to have sex...secondly, if you haven't felt it then you haven't had an orgasm, trust me you will know! Until I know you are old enough to take advise on sex I won't say anymore on how to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I have broken up over trust issues
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 11 months and at the moment we hae broken up. The reason for this is because she is not so keen on a girl that is a close friend of mine. Although she used to hold feelings 4 me in the past and we almost had sex, ...
A. 16 June 2006: Look the fact is that you can't have close relationships with that girl if you want your ex back. The fact of the matter is, something did happen between you and your friend. You need to decide who is your priority and under no circumstances should ... (read in full...)
Torn between two men!
Q. 10 wks ago during a drunken arguement i told my fella to go and he did, he wouldn,t answer my phone calls or reply to my texts for weeks it broke my heart. 3 wks later we began to talk as we had a holiday booked for a wk after. I secretly hoped we ...
A. 16 May 2006: Listen take my advise...get outta there and go for it with the other fella...there is no point in being in a relationship with someone if you can't stop thinking of someone else because it is a betrayal. Its unfair of you to hang in on a ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to break up with my girl because her hair is falling out!?
Q. Hi, I'm Tom. I've been going out with my girlfriend Anna for almost two months now. Everything was great until a few weeks ago when Anna decided to dye her hair red. Because she has very dark hair, she needed to bleach it first. She's always had ...
A. 16 May 2006: Its hard to say when you have only been with this girl for 2 months now! To be honest if you really like her you should be trying to make her feel better especially if her confidence has dropped...I have a couple of friends who did this and most of ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin should I use the pill and a condom?
Q. I am a virgin and am planning sex for the first time is it reccommended that i use both a condom and the pill ?...
A. 16 May 2006: Yes of course use every method of contraception you can! The pill is 99% effective and condoms not only act as a contraceptive but also protects you from STD's! Imagine this? You get vaginal warts which quite often have to be removed surgically, ... (read in full...)
Rumours I've been cheating while my boyfriend is in prison
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and he has been in prison for the last 6 months. I have always been faithful. However, people have recently been telling him that they've heard that I have slept with someone else. This is totally untrue, ...
A. 16 May 2006: This isn't a nice situation for you and your bf to be in...whoever is spreading these lies obviously has nothing else better to do! You must have a strong relationship if you are waiting for him while in prison and if so then I'm sure if you sit him ... (read in full...)
He's having problems "keeping it up"... what could be causing this?
Q. im a virgin but my boyfriend has had sex in the past. Im really ready to have sex with him but he seems to be finding it hard to keep it up? what could be causing this?...
A. 12 May 2006: If he isn't on drugs then it is probably stage fright in other words nerves...if its an ongoing problem then he should get it checked out with his doctor! Men are very proud when it comes to their little men so be gentle with him and support him ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this relationship??
Q. hello all, You will be sick of me by now. Is it too much to want to be a strong independent woman? Why cant i get out of this relationship? My boyfriend is mentally and sexually abusing me and instead of getting rid of him and being truly happ...
A. 12 May 2006: If you know that you are being abused then why are you still there, especially if you have a child...if you arent gonna break away for yourself then do it for the sake of your child...imagine if your friend or sister was in this situation and had ... (read in full...)
After 8 months I feel like my relationship was a waste of time!!
Q. I have split from my bf for about a month and things have been really tough. A few nights ago were at a mates flat and he said that i never really loved you and that a guy has needs. I feel awful now i cant believe i wasted 8 months with him ...
A. 12 May 2006: He only said those horrible things because he wants to hurt you! Take it from me honey there is no point in confronting him about it,the best thing to do is laugh at his stupidity! Always try and look at the positive side of things...you learn ... (read in full...)
Be honest... Does he want me?
Q. Does he want me? This is what he does or says to me. Please be as harsh and honest as you can. 1- He gives me office space in his company so that I have a place to work from 2- He buys me a laptop because mine is not working properly 3-...
A. 11 May 2006: Well he is definitely being very nice to you and making a big effort to catch your attention...can i ask one question? Do u want him?... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend hasn't been making an effort lately... Is it me?
Q. Hi...I have been feeling upset with my boyfriend lately because I feel like he hasn't been making an effort to be with me and that he has been moody with me lately and I really don't like it...he sent me a text message in the morning while i was at ...
A. 11 May 2006: Ok its hard to tell why he has been like this...the best thing to do is to sit him down n tell him your concerns. Tell him that u r worried about it n u don't wanna be like that!!! If he normally pulls out all the stops to see u then there is ... (read in full...)
My wonderful man has started seeing someone else... can I get him back??
Q. I had been in a relationship for the past 2 years with a wonderful man. About a week ago, I went to call him after he got off of work, and there was no answer. I proceeded to send him a text message asking him where he was, he later replied saying ...
A. 11 May 2006: This guy obviously doesn't have any respect for you...if he was going to see someone else he should have come and talked to you and told you he was gonna do this...I wouldn't waste my time chasing someone who will always keep you running. I am ... (read in full...)
First ever man to make me feel like a women is 20 years older than me... what shall i do!?
Q. Help! I am a 29 year old disabled woman, and I am completely besotted with a man 20 years older than me. We have known each other for a long time and I feel that his feelings have grown for me too. He is the first man ever to make me feel feminine, ...
A. 11 May 2006: Tell him tell him tell him...nothing ventured nothing gained! If he really makes you feel like that then you would have to be crazy not to just take the risk and go for it...living with what if's is just no use! If you think that he is feeling the ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to get over him?
Q. heya my ex boyfriend dumped me a few weeks ago but i still really like him. i really really want to get over him. the thing is, i dont know how! how do i get over him when i have liked him for so long? i have fancied him for 2 years now. we went...
A. 11 May 2006: Look you need to just move on...break away...its the hardest thing to do but the only thing to do! Forget about any notion of hope you have of getting back with him otherwise you will be still holding on! you don't wanna hold on for someone who ... (read in full...)
Really like this girl in my school but very shy!! how do I know if she's interested?
Q. I would like some female advice. I really like this girl in my year at school. We used to go out a couple of years ago for a few months but then stopped because everyone in the year found out. One of her friends asked me if i was still interested in ...
A. 11 May 2006: You will never know until you ask her! Just ask her can you talk to her alone and then just say that you really like her and see what she says...if you go away for the summer and don't do it you will regret it and will spend the summer with what ... (read in full...)
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