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writes: dear cupidI'm 26 years old and I married 2 yeard ago.I live in middle east, I just mentioned this to let you know that we have a bit different cultures(sorry for my bad english). 2 days ago my mother in law and my 2 sisters-in-law came to our house from another city they were supposed to stay with us for two days then depart for another city. my younger sister in law is engaged recently and he live in our city too. they all wanted to visit him and of course she wanted to stay with him.me and my husband had to visit one of our friends who was going to leave us for another country (she is not going to return, she married to a german guy) so we told them to go there by taxi and we will stay with our friends for about half an hour and then we would join them (but we didn't exactly say that we were going to join, but if we were told we would go). let me add something that my husband (31 years old) and my older sister in law (28 years old) don't ilke each other in some ways. they told us that they had lunch on their way , but after a while one of them told me "do you have a piece of bread" it was 5 oclock in the afternoon, and I got mad at my self and them too. I thought to myself that I should have prepared something for them! but my husband told me you should not do anything!and after 1 hour they left our house with their luggage (sulkily) ofcourse my husband changed his mind and gave them a ride to his sisters fiance, they just went inside as if we were the taxi drivers and the older sister didn't talk to me at all. and this morning my husband argued withhis mother, and she told him that you behaved badly, and you "thrown us out of your house" and so on and so forthI don't know exactly what is going on. but I'm realy nervous and stressed. I need help. What should I do in this situation. Please note that my husband is kind to me and he says that don't worry. but I'm afraid that they are mad at me too!what do you suggest? how should I act?thank you so much
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reader, soletshearit +, writes (15 August 2006):
 You really need to be clear on what you and your husband feel about the events that have just happened. You should never feel like that especially in your own home. You are his wife so essentially they are your family too. Maybe you and your husband need to sit down and talk to his family and clear up on how you feel about the whole situation.
Familys can be difficult, especially inlaws!!! Just be straight with them and your husband. You feel how you feel for a reason. Don't sit back and be left feeling like this because the tension in the atmosphere will only get worse. Honesty is the best policy!
Hope you can sort this out!
Best of luck
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