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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2007): hun im so sorry but that was a stupid decision and ive been having sex since about 7th grade and the same thing happened to me and i told my bf and then went to a doctor and he gave me a "morning after pill" and it got rid of my baby... actually babies. I was having twins. so if its not too late u could try the same thing.
god bless and good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): Well this is entirely your decision even if your Ex is dead set on keeping or aborting the pregnancy, ultimately it is your decision.
After all you never know what might happen in the furture he may decide that he does'nt want to be tied down at such a young age then your left holding the baby, literally!!.
So be aware of all the options and make sure that you are well informed on how having a baby would change your life.
I would suggest that you tell your mother and father as soon as possible, or an adult or guardian that you are close to, because whatever you decide to do its not gonna be easy!.
Ok, Just remember whatever you decide to do it will be the right decision for you, no matter what others might say if its what you feel is right then its the right thing to do.
Ok good luck and take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): well hun you need to determine what is best for you and your un born child. Is having the baby an otion...can you emotionally, physically, mentally and financially handle it? Or should you go full term and give the baby up to a family that can provide all this and more. The answer is with in your heart...dig deep and it will come. Please don not consider abortion in my opinion that would be the easy way out. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): I want to just say how disapointed in you guys for taling about abortions. i got pregnant at 16 and had my baby at 17. i was drunk at a party. i want to say that anything is possible, ive raised my son without any baby daddy. i have gone through nursing school and have bought a house at 21. if i was to have got an abortion i would probally be on drugs with no future or partying at the clubs every night like every other 21 yr old i know. i am a better person and have a future and so does my son. i dont promote young mothers but things happen and if you love and care about your baby then everything will be okay dont have a baby for the wrong reason and dont use a baby as an excuse to not do anything in your life, the 18 yr old commented earlier that she dosent have fun anymore or go out, fun to me is spending time with my family and seeing him smile, going out is chuck e cheese and bowling and i love every bit of it, i would change nothing and would regret it so much if i had a abortion life has a great meaning
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2006): Heya, erm im 14 too, and i thought i was pregnant, if u cant get a test coz u have no money, go to ur nearest clinic, they should have a teenage drop in and u can gte a test for free. if ur planning on not having the baby, then take the big pill, be careful tho, u can only take 3 of these in ur whole life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): take a pregancy test and if it is positive then tell your mum she may be mad at 1st but she will help you through it , she will probly take you to have an abortion.But tell your mother she needs to know.
gd luck xXx
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reader, soletshearit +, writes (20 October 2006):
 You need to take a pregnancy test, maybe 2, just to be sure.Think of someone you know you can trust completely, a sister?Your mum? And you need to decide what is best for you considering that you have to be able to support a baby financially, emotionally and its not easy however choosing not to keep the baby isn't the easy way out either, that too is a very emotionally draining and life changing choice. Do not panick into making any decisions and do not let anyone influence you, you do not want to feel like someone else is the one behind this decision that either way will change your whole life. It isn't the end of the world whatever you decide to do.Please just speak to someone who can support you whatever decision you make.please keep me posted, i've been through something similar and so have 2 very close friends and we all made our own choices.you can write to me privately if you need further advise.best of luck and I hope you make the right choice for you x
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (19 October 2006):
 I totally disagree with the first post as the question of a teenager having a baby is not an opportunity to preach religious belief - everyone is entitled to their own religious beliefs and there are more pressing and urgent issues in this case. Firstly, find out if you are pregnant - do a test after you missed a period (they can be a bit unreliable beforehand). Even if it comes back negative do one again a few weeks later just to be sure. If you are not pregnant, think very hard about your contraception options so you don't find yourself in a difficult situation again in the future. If you are pregnant, there are lots of things you will need to be thinking about. Abortion is one option and you should be aware that an early termination is less complicated (medically and psychologically) than a delayed one - most countries have limits on the number of weeks you can be pregnant and still have an abortion. You can get counselling to discuss your options and certainly should do this. Few people can contemplate parenthood at 14 without a lot of support - if you don't get along with your family then find someone else to talk to - a doctor, a school counsellor, a teacher. You are not the first 14 year old to get into this situation and you will not be the last - you just have to take a deep breath, take the test and then make your decision after getting some objective advice.
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reader, stina  +, writes (19 October 2006):
 Hi Anon,
Before you do anything - take a pregnancy test. They have many different varieties at the pharmacy. You can also buy them in packs of three. This way if you feel you want to double check your results, you can take two tests. If it comes up negative, get your butt to the doctor and start taking birth control. Use this experience as a lesson.
Now, if you are positive that you are pregnant, you should tell your parents. They will most likely be disappointed, but they will be there for you. They will probably help you to realize what choices you have - abortion, adoption, keeping the baby...
Next, your parents will probably take you to a doctor. You should speak with him/her about your choices. They will be a tremendous help to you.
Once you figure out which path to take, you will feel better. Now I'm not saying that it will be easier on you, but you will (most likely) have the support of your family which can be more valuable than anything.
And I know this is probably a given, but you should really talk to your doctor about birth control for the future.
Anon, this will work out. It will be pretty rocky at times, but it will be okay. :)
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2006): hello flower,i totaly understand the position that your in, ive been there when i was 14,and to be honest its not a gud thing, i told my mum staight away and she has stood by me all the way, the worst thing is now amanda is 4 years old and i have no life i cant go anywhere if i cant get a babysitter, i spend all my money on her for new toys and stuff and when ever it gets close to birthdays and christmas i never know how im going to manage. i just want you to take a good long hard thourght to how my life is and ask your self do you want yours to be like that or would you rather have a good time with your friends? if you would like to find out any think else or ask any questions please feel free to ask.take care pet and i hope you make the right coice Kylie 18 from Newcastle
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reader, xLEAHx +, writes (19 October 2006):
 Hi Hunny i totally agree with david..you must talk to your mum or a family relative your close to about this, as the problems not going to go away you need to act quickly to make the right descission about this pregnancy..i also agree with the anonymous reader about having unprotected sex..you are far to young to be a mum and have the responsability of a baby,believe me i know and my heart goes out to you, what ever descission you make i wish you all the best.
GOOD LUCK ..TAKE CARE xLEAHx
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (19 October 2006):
 Ok hun, the first thing you need to do is tell your mum. It is important that you get all the support you can, especially that of your parents. If you are scared to tell your mum alone, maybe you can tell a schoolteacher and they can bring your mum to the school and tell her together.
You cannot try to deal with this on your own. Does your ex know about this?
You can go to the local family planning clinic and get a free pregnancy test, or you can buy one from a chemist.
Best of luck hun, keep us imformed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2006): First of all I want you to know that being pregnant at this age don't make you less special and it don't mean you are a bad person. However it wasn't a wise for you to have unprotected sex. I can imagine how you are feeling right now, but you did the act so you will have to take full responsibility for your actions. I am not going to advise you to have an abortion, because we all know that is wrong in the sight of God. The unborn baby shouldn't be robbed of his or her life. Another thing you need to let your ex know about the baby, if he tries to encourage you to take an abortion, he isn't a man, he is a little boy. And if that is the case your baby will be better off with out a father who wish him/her dead before he/she is born. On the other hand if your ex understands and is willing to take full responsibilties for his action, don't push him away let him be a part of the child's life. Trust God in what ever decision you make. In a situation like this you are to think about what is best for the baby.
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