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writes:i havent been with my bf long but we get on really well and i have strong feelings for him already.Recently me and a ex bf have been talking and we met up last night and he kept talking about when we used to go out.He later text me and told me that he likes the idea of going out with me again as talking about stuff has made him realise how great things were.I agree with him things were good and he wants me too meet him today. But i want to stay with my bf and he has a gf. But im scared im developing feelings for him again and feel guilty. What shall i do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2006): He wants to USE you for SEX and have an AFFAIR, you are worth more then that, and there is TEMPTATION so you should lose ALL contact with him immediately to AVOID you cheating on ur bf and LOSING the person you love.Trust me... its not worth it!maybe people deserve second chances (not that you would in the worse case scenario) BUT they DONT always GET a second chance; in fact its rare these days for second chances outside marriage.
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reader, soletshearit +, writes (16 August 2006):
 Listen you really need to be careful because this meeting could totally destroy your relationship with your current bf. If you love your current bf and want to be with him then you cannot meet your ex behind his back...if he did that to you how would you feel.
The fact that you fear that you will develop feelings for your ex should tell you enough...who do you want to be with more???
It sounds to me like there's something telling you that you would kinda like for something to happen between you and your ex again, so you need to decide that. You can't string your current bf along until you see what happens between you and your ex. If you do, it clearly means you would choose your ex over your new bf...
So here's your ultimatum...stay true to your current bf and don't meet with your ex and if you do meet him don't hide it from your current bf....
Otherwise, if u kinda do have feelings, stay true to them...meet with your ex and if you have feelings let go of your current bf...its a risk you will have to take...
You cannot hang onto the current guy until you are sure your ex wants you back too, don't live with what if's...life's too short...if you would like to rekindle the old flame then be fair to your current boyfriend, if not then be fair to your ex...
FOLLOW YOUR HEART...GO WITH YOUR GUT...NEVER LIVE WITH WHAT IF'S! ITS YOUR PEROGATIVE!!!
BEST OF LUCK & KEEP ME POSTED!
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