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writes:I don't have many friends, well I don't have any best friends, e.g. people I would see over the holidays to meet up with etc.I just wanted to know how people make friends and if people can give me any advice? I know people say I should be myself but when I do I always seem to act like a weirdo and make sexual references in conversation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2007): I have the same problem. I've never really understood how to make friends, so for the most part, i haven't tried. My whole family is worried about me because I never go anywhere or do anything. I've never had more than one friend at a time except for a short time in high school/college. Now even my kids are giving me a hard time about never going anywhere. Money is a real issue due to having to pay for the older child's college. Sex is an issue because I don't really like girls or girly things and I avoid men for my marriage's sake.I have a very demanding job that requires that I bring work home. It's also very stressful, so I often unwind by spending time on the computer or working puzzles. I don't really have a lot of time outside work. My husband is beginning to think I need to see someone about this, but we really can't afford any more medical bills. My younger child's counselor costs $100 an hour, and he hasn't been in a while because we don't have any money.What do people do when they don't have any money and they don't share the same interests with other people? My sister told me that she participated in activities simply to have a social life, but I'm not inclined to do things I don't like just to be around other people. I mean, if I don't like an activity, why should I go out of my way to meet people who like an activity that I don't like?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2006): wtf? this person has no friends, you cant go straight from not talking to people to talking to everyone so i disagree with that reply. I say start on the Internet, im in the same situation and it makes you feel at home, then you can meet people (be careful and only after you know them for a while and talked alot) then once that happens and you are confident enough you can go out on nights with them to "talk to others" and make even more friends.
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (15 August 2006):
 This will probably be out of your comfort zone and not be like you. All good politicians and businessmen know this tip and work it until it becomes them.
The best way to make friends is talk to everyone. Just start chatting away if they ignore you then just find someone else to talk to.
Some might not talk to you at all, some might talk to you and think you're a weirdo, and then there will be the ones that will click perfectly with you. Talk to people out of your peer group, people you overlook, people with power, people without power, and anyone else around you at any time.
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reader, soletshearit +, writes (14 August 2006):
 Listen you have to learn to like who you are when you are being yourself or no one else will...you have to accept yourself the way you are and then others will.
Socialise, help people out, talk to people more and not just about yourself - ask them about themselves and take an interest in what the are saying. Where are you from??? Then maybe I can recommend some places to go to meet people! You are obviously feeling alone, if you make a decision to change that and are determined to do so, you will!
Keep me posted!
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