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writes: My boyfriend doesn't kiss. He claims he hasn't "made out" with anyone for about 10 years, and that his wife wasn't big on kissing or making out. He says he doesn't like the feeling of hot breath on his face.He expects me to be ready to go as soon as he talks about wanting to have sex, and my body doesn't work that way.He claims he initiates sex 90% of the time, and he wants me to do it once in awhile. I'm not exactly sure how to do that since i can't kiss him. I'm not the type to just start taking his clothes off without saying anything. He can be quite moody, sometimes he does't want to be touched or cuddled at all. I can't tell when he's in the mood except for when he tells me. Sometimes he wants me to be close to him, sometimes he just wants me to give him a blowjob, until hes ready for sex. It's fustrating.To sum it up: Is there a way I can get my boyfriend into kissing and making out? Also, how do I initiate sex?
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (8 September 2006):
 I can understand not wanting to kiss someone when you barely know them, I'm like that. I'm a germaphobe but if thats your significant other than thats the start of foreplay. I think you should tell him how you feel. Don't attempt to initiate sex if you don't know how. Don't stress yourself about something so silly. Talk to him and if he can't understand to hell with him, thats weird anyway!!! Good Luck.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (8 September 2006):
 This guy sounds weird.
Kissing is the best foreplay going, according to me anyway. LOL.
Anyone that doesn't like to have your "hot breath on his face", isn't that into you. The way you describe him, he's just looking for an orifice for his member. That's not love. That's him getting his rocks off.
I'd give him a kiss. . . a kiss off. Say goodbye to this clown.
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reader, soletshearit +, writes (8 September 2006):
 Listen you need to get it straight with this guy cause by the sound of it this is a one way relationship..he needs to meet you half way...he is throwing demands at you like you are an object or a machine.
Tell him that you are aware that he's not into kissing but that you are and ask him can you both even give it a try...
To be honest, by the sounds of it you both have different relationship styles and views and both want different things...you will never be happy with someone who doesn't want the same thing as you.
All these demands he makes, you try and fulfill them to make him happy and satisfy his needs but you have needs too...you long to have a kiss and a cuddle and that is more than perfectly normal...don't leave yourself longing because you will never be happy.
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