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writes:Hi everyone, I have just recently gone through a breakup but now I have feelings for another guy. We are good friends and this poses a problem. He may like me but I think he may be afraid of what he is feeling also because he's my friend. Do you have any advice for me? Should I tell him or just wait things out?thanks
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Remaining friends with an ex can get tricky but it might not be all impossible. I have remained friends with all of my ex's if they allowed it. I think that has to be a personal choice. Sometimes it works out sometimes not.
Take your time in developing the new relationship so you don't get involved on rebound. Remember that sometimes the best of relationships come from what started out a as great friendship.
Allow the new guy to get used to the idea and don't push the issue. Let things happen naturally. Don't forget to give yourself time to reaccquaint youself with the inner you. Reflect on your friendship with both men and you will be able to deal with the new relationship more effectively.
God bless you and Godspeed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo clarify, I am not friends with my ex. I am friends with this guy and my ex is an ex...I haven't talked to him in a month. Thanks for the advice though.
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reader, Asexy +, writes (23 October 2007):
 "Pronoun Trouble" -- Daffy Duck
I'm having a hard time with who the feelings are for. Are you worried that the ex would have a problem with you moving on? Or are you good friends with the new guy, and so afraid of damaging the friendship if you pursue more?
If the former, you have to decide whether he's more important to you. My guess is that he'd just date without worrying about you, and you should do so too.
If it's the latter, "nothing ventured nothing gained."
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reader, soletshearit +, writes (23 October 2007):
 I went through a break up a couple of months ago and we remained friends...it doesn't work...no matter how well it might seem to be working, when one starts seeing someone new its gets nasty. Best thing to do is break away from the ex first of all...if its over then let it be over...
Your question confused me a little...do you mean your new love interest is your friend? If he is then just go for it and be straight out...if he's your friend then he'll be cool about it regardless of how he feels in return. Nothing worse than sitting holding in your feelings about something...
Hope this helps!
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