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Will first time sex suck?
Q. Hi. I was talking about the fact that I'm a virgin with this one girl, and I told her that I wanted it to have sentimental value when I finally lost it. She said that my first time will suck, and it's not all it's cracked up to be. I'm wondering.. ...
A. 12 December 2008: She says that because she no longer has her virginity. Save it for someone you care about. That's what I did, and even though that person and I arn't together anymore, it really was worth waiting for someone who you share feelings with. ... (read in full...)
I have lost ALL my confidence...
Q. Hey, I'm so confused and just lost all my confidence :( A guy i was with for 4 months recently text me asking to go on a break as he said he cant cope being in a relationship atm as hes got 4 jobs and just needs time by himself which i thought ...
A. 10 December 2008: It will be better. The break is still fresh in your mind. Just realize that this guy is a duechebag who couldn't even give you the courtesy of splitting with you face to face. You are better than him, so stop feeling bad over this break. To get your ... (read in full...)
Is my penis too large?
Q. Hey I'm 15 and my penis 9 inches flacid and 10.5 inches erect. I am a bit scared as I was going have oral sex with my girlfriend but she declined me due to my size. I feel my penis is too large and I don't know what to do. Is this normal and if not ...
A. 10 December 2008: If that's the real size of your penis, that is massive. She declined you due to your size? Even if she couldn't fit it in her mouth, she could lick around or use her hands as well, whatever makes her the most comfortable. To be honest, I find it ... (read in full...)
How can I give this girl a Christmas card without seeming creepy?
Q. There's this extremely shy, beautiful and smart girl (we'll call her Pamela) that I've adored for some time now. Since it's almost Christmas time, I have thought of giving her a simple card, but I get a bad feeling that she may not like me back, and ...
A. 10 December 2008: Say hello in class, whatever you normally do, and when class ends and everyone is leaving or you guys are walking out, give it to her and say 'merry christmas' or 'happy holidays', smile, and proceed. If she stops and reads it there, i guess wait ... (read in full...)
How do I talk dirty?
Q. He wants me to talk dirty ? but how and what do i say ? ive read many articles on this to say what you feel but i dont know if thats the right thing to say !!! so how do i talk dirty ? xxx...
A. 10 December 2008: Tell him how big his dick his, how great it feels in you, how you want to feel him cum, all that stuff you hear in porn. That's what he wants to hear, and it reaaaaaaaaaaly is sexy... (read in full...)
How can I give up on my dream of marriage and a family, and find happiness and fulfillment in singledom?
Q. Hello, this may seem as a strange question, but I'm giving up on relationships. Forever. The problem is I always had this fantasy of getting married and having children, but I think it'd be too difficult for me to mantain relationships. I...
A. 10 December 2008: Just wait till you meet a guy like me.
There are plenty of us out there. We love spending time and being with our women and giving all our love to them. Letting them know how beautiful they are and how badly we we want them.
I'm 21 and ha... (read in full...)
I love him but...........
Q. My boyfriend was just sitting at home one night. He was texting his friend and asked him to send him a picture of a naked girl that he had already glanced at because his friend was talking to her. He sent it to him and he saved it to his phone! ...
A. 9 December 2008: I think this one is a little different...
Looking at porn is one thing, but this is a girl he knows/kinda knows. saving this on his phone and looking at it means he is physically attracted to her, and if she is just some girl him/his friend k... (read in full...)
I'm married to a swinging liar!
Q. Last year i found out that my partner of 6 years had been cheating on me with swingers all through our relationship, he started meeting these people a few months after we got together. When I found out he denied it, he even swore on his young sons ...
A. 9 December 2008: It sounds like he hasn't changed, so it's time for you to think hard about cracking down on him again or even separation. It's very tough, but if he won't stop, I really can't think of another solution. Perhaps I'm too young to be suggesting advice, ... (read in full...)
He's a closed book in the bedroom!
Q. my husband is a closed book when it comes to the bedroom. i try to get him to open up and he doesnt. our sex life is becoming so repetitive that i am getting bored. he also doesnt last long and i have been finding myself needing more. he is also ...
A. 9 December 2008: Tell him. Initiate new sexual encounters, maybe a new place, or wear something sexy, who knows. Try and spice it up a little.
If that doesn't work, hold off on pleasing him, until he makes sure you are pleased.
If that doesn't work, let him kn... (read in full...)
He responded to my facebook friend request. Does that mean he is interested in me?
Q. I asked about this situation recently but I went for it and did something about it but I feel stuck again so please help :) I saw this guy on one of my friends' Facebook and I thought he was hot. I sent him a friend request and told him I thoug...
A. 8 December 2008: Seems like he is interested in you and appreciated what you said. Talk with him a little more, and if nothing comes up, maybe YOU ask him out.
But first I would chat a little more, maybe send him a message or something. Goodluck and let us know ... (read in full...)
Help with 6 pack of abs please!
Q. ok, I am a 17 year old male. I haven't really done much exercise but I am NOT overweight. I have good strength etc but I can't seem to get a 6 Cbs? Can somebody who has done an exercise and diet or are on 1 which is working please let me in...
A. 8 December 2008: Look man, it is very simple. Here's the base exercise set I started on until my body got into a little better shape. Take a deck of cards, shuffle and separate it into 4 even piles. Flip over the first card on the first pile, whatever it is, do ... (read in full...)
What did she mean by this strange behaviour in the offce?
Q. Hi. All very odd. There's an attractive woman at work who has been around for a good few years now. I've said 'hello' a few times when passing in the corridor - but just kept going (thinking nothing more). The other day she called after me down the ...
A. 7 December 2008: Seems like shes got a little crush on you my man! BUT She is married. Don't be the duechebag who breaks up a marriage. There is nothing wrong with being friendly though, just make sure you know there is a line and you are about to walk it! ... (read in full...)
I feel like the ugly one next to my best friend!
Q. I have been single for over two years now, and Ive rarely dated or anything like that. I always go out at the weekends with my best friend, and she is gorgeous and her personality is attractive too. Im not saying Im not attractive or th...
A. 7 December 2008: If she is your best friend, let her know how you feel, and hopefully, since she has a boyfriend, she'll play almost as your 'wingman' and steer conversation toward you. It might be that she doesn't understand how you really feel.
Get involved... (read in full...)
Do I wait a week then ask her again?
Q. I like this girl and was unsure whether she liked me or not. We had kissed on a couple of occasions, but it didn't necessarily mean she liked me as we were both drunk and as most will know these things happen. Anyway, I was at a party and she was ...
A. 7 December 2008: Ahhh, you made a mistake! If you liked her, and thought that she might like you, you shouldn't have gone kissing around! Regardless it still seems like she is still interested in you, but just hurt from what happened. So, if you want to be with ... (read in full...)
He wanted to cum in my eye!!!
Q. I was having sex with a guy I've been seeing for a while the other night, when he said he wanted to do something. He didn't want to say what but I made him tell me and he said he wanted to come in my eye! I thought it was a joke at first so I ...
A. 7 December 2008: What the hell?
Look, cumming on a girls face is one thing, but solely aiming for your eye is a little disturbing. So he wants to see you blinded for a while?
I hope he was joking, just let him know he should stop complaining, cum somewhere el... (read in full...)
He's always staring in my direction, is it because he likes me?
Q. I like this guy but I don't know if he likes me back. I always catch him staring at me and looking in my direction and when I look towards him he is always smiling. Does he like me?...
A. 7 December 2008: Have you talked to him? Say hello, and see if he continues the conversation! Or next time you catch him looking at you, smile back at him.... (read in full...)
How can I finally let go?
Q. It's been 5 months and I still haven't let go. I feel totally pathetic that I have barely progressed in getting over my 2 year relationship. Granted after 3 months he started to woo me and get me to want to be with him again. And then at the 4 month ...
A. 7 December 2008: I kinda get what you are going through. I still think about my ex, and yes, it sucks.
Get him off your mind. In my case I started going to the gym, playing soccer, basketball, learning the piano, anything to get her out of my thoughts. Any spor... (read in full...)
It's so hard to get over her! What can I do?
Q. Broke up 3 months ago. It was my first real relationship, and it lasted a 1 1/2 years. I really loved her, did everything for her, and I found out for a few months prior to our breakup that she had 'fallen in love with someone else'. This was over ...
A. 7 December 2008: Thanks everyone for your responses. Anytime I feel bad I love knowing that I can come here and pour out my feelings and get responses back that make me feel better. I know that the only thing to do is move on, but I really loved how I felt when ... (read in full...)
How can a beautiful girl become sexy, hot and appealing for guys?
Q. Guys say "What a sexy and Hot girl" to some girls. My friends say that I am beautiful, have a good figure but I don't look sexy and hot. I have also seen, guys find my friend appealing who is not beautiful. I get a lot less attention. How can a...
A. 7 December 2008: So you already got the hard part out of the way, which is having a good body, looking naturally attractive, all that stuff. Now what really makes a girl sexy besides the way she looks is her personality. Be confident, and especially funny. Looks can ... (read in full...)
He says he's losing his sex drive, how can I go about fixing this?
Q. Hi I've been reading over the porn and sex topics on this site and noticed a lot of variations but i am after some advice, and especially after a male perspective.. I have been with my boyfriend not long - about 6 months, and i am happy to say ...
A. 6 December 2008: Maybe try spicing things up a little. Put on some sexy outfits and role play a little, see what turns him on and then use it.
To be honest, as a 21 year old male, in my last relationship I was always trying to have sex with my ex, and her lack of ... (read in full...)
What song should I do for my audition and do you have any tips?
Q. well, this is one of those questions that isnt really a relationship question.. but i do need help. well anyways.. in a few weeks, i plan to audition for our school musical. im only in jr high, ninth grade.. and this is my first year being invol...
A. 6 December 2008: HAHA, i like the suggestion to do Rick Astley's 'Never gonna give you up'. Do it man, and tell us the results.
If you want something a little more serious that shows off your vocal range, try 'yesterday' by the beatles, simple tune that flows up... (read in full...)
Are my breasts/areola normal?
Q. Hello dearcupiders, I have a question regarding my breast. I am a size 34 C. My areola are some what big... when they become hard I find that its bumpy... not monstrously bumpy but you can tell around the nipple is not smooth. Is this normal, and...
A. 5 December 2008: Sounds super sexy to me. Nice breasts with large areolas, personally I think that's hot, infact, if you need them to be examined feel free to message me.... haha
don't worry about, guys won't care since they will be happy that they are allowed ... (read in full...)
The girl I loved betrayed me and now I'm lost. How do I move on?
Q. I got out of a 1 1/2 year relationship 3 months ago and I feel like crap. My ex told me she fell in love with someone else she worked with and didn't love me anymore, and she hid this from me for a couple months prior to our split. This was ...
A. 4 December 2008: Thanks, I really hope that happens soon! I saw her today at our student org stuff and asked her to help me with something and she snapped at me and said she was leaving...
I don't know why she is acting like this but it makes me feel like shit, I ... (read in full...)
The girl I loved betrayed me and now I'm lost. How do I move on?
Q. I got out of a 1 1/2 year relationship 3 months ago and I feel like crap. My ex told me she fell in love with someone else she worked with and didn't love me anymore, and she hid this from me for a couple months prior to our split. This was ...
A. 4 December 2008: Thanks for the replies, I know I need to forget about her and get on with my life. I'm getting more and more involved in other things, and that really helps keep my mind off this. Like I said, avoiding her is impossible since we are in the same ... (read in full...)
My GF cheated on me with another girl and hasn't told me! What do I do?
Q. I'm 25 years old and have been dating my girlfriend for almost 5 and a half years. I just found out that she slept with her friend, another female. We "took a break" last week for less than 24 hours then she came back to me saying she was s...
A. 1 December 2008: Bring it up with her. If she is sorry, she will apologize, and then it's up to you about what path to take next. 5 years is a long time, so you need to ask yourself if you can forgive her cheating and move on. I wouldn't try and ignore it, because ... (read in full...)
How can I be more confident when meeting new people?
Q. Hi everyone I have a bit of a problem... I'm very shy. not always but mostly just meeting new people...today I joined a new teen church thingy on sundays ...I met three new people and they were rly nice but I was so quiet... at school I'm t...
A. 1 December 2008: Be yourself. Laughter is always the best ice breaker. Make a few jokes or laugh at yourself and any shyness you have will dissapear. Clearly your friends at school like the outgoing personality you have, so bring that same enthusiam to your church ... (read in full...)
Will my broken heart even be mended and will I ever find anyone?
Q. Hi, I was once at the peek of my life, had friends, had a GF who i loved and respected. life was great until 1 day my ex turns round to me and tells me that she never really loved me and the only reason she ever went out with me was because ...
A. 1 December 2008: Wow man, I thought my ex cheating on me was rough but the things your slut-of-an-ex said are horrible. Forget about her, to say somthing like that is trash, and she is nothing more than a bitch who will never find a decent man.
Look, after my... (read in full...)
I can't seem to find anyone because I'm just not good around new people.
Q. Hi, can anyone give me advice? im nearly 23 and iv never had a girl friend, i wouldn't say im a geek or anything, i socialise with my friends a lot and always go the clubs and pubs. But i cant seem to find anyone. im kind of shy around new people a...
A. 23 November 2008: Ask your female friends to help out! If you are interested in one of them, ask them to hang out or somthing when its just you and her and see how that plays out, if there is any attraction, etc. Or if you are good friends with a girl, ask her to ... (read in full...)
Is college supposed to be this lonely?
Q. Im in my second year of college and I have never beeb so lonely in my life. I know people but I feel I have no REAL friends that I can depend on. I had a best friend last year who I always partied with and stuff but we had a falling out becuase of ...
A. 23 November 2008: No. I feel the same way. I am in college, and after breaking up with my girlfriend, I feel really lonely. I guess, the trick is to get involved in a bunch of activities. Sports, clubs, wahtever you find interesting. Pick up a new hobby, learn ... (read in full...)
I plan to propose to my girlfriend - how do you find this scenario?
Q. Hello, I plan on proposing to my girlfriend, she knows i want to marry her as we have talked openly about it, but she dosent know when im going to ask her. she is away at college at the moment and has been begging me for a puppy, so i plan on buy...
A. 20 November 2008: Do it man, sounds like a good idea. Let us know how it goes... (read in full...)
I really want to have a threesome, but I'm dubious that it will ruin our relationship.
Q. Hi there! So i really love sex. I have a boyfriend,now for almost 1 year, and things are going really well. We are friends and lovers. Everything seem to be great when we are together, even with no money... When we have sex, I feel really turned o...
A. 19 November 2008: holy shit. Tell your boyfriend, he will be amazed. Hell you could use this as a birthday gift. I say go for it... (read in full...)
19 year old virgin, will guys ever want to be with me?
Q. please help! I am 19 year old and a virgin. I have had one long term relationship, but have a total lack of experience! Will guys ever want to be with me?...
A. 18 November 2008: Yes. Don't rush it, you will meet somone who will really care for you. I was a virgin till 19, met a girl whom i fell in love with, then lost my virginity. Though we are seperated now it felt good to lose it to somone who i cared for rather than ... (read in full...)
I could have sex every day while he only wants it once a week at the max!
Q. I am having HUGE relationship problems with my boyfriend of four years. I could have sex every day while he only wants it once a week at the max. I have tried everything I and others can think of to make him more interested but it seems it is ...
A. 16 November 2008: Holy shit i need a woman like you. Slap some sense into your man! Let him know that other guys would kill for a girl with your sex drive. Tell him you want it, and then take it, I'm sure he won't complain if you unzip his pants and start playing ... (read in full...)
Any pranks to play on my brother? Please help me
Q. I hate my brother. Hes younger than me, but bigger. Fatter. He cant move fast but he throws a mean punch. Mainly at me. For years I have been putting up with it, I have to, my parents dont believe me. Infact recently my dad forgot my 16th birthday a ...
A. 16 November 2008: Forget this social services crap, thats too extreme.
I got a younger brother too and we would fight constantly. Just get him in other ways. You say he is bigger than you right? so make fun of him, pull some pranks on him, put his hand in hot wate... (read in full...)
I'm so alone now my boyfriend is in prison.
Q. Im 18 but am madly inlove with someone ive been with for 2 years. hes got the kindest heart but he lost his way a lil while back and was sent to prison. hes been in there for almost 6 months now and has a couple more months left. im not sure how...
A. 15 November 2008: Sounds like you really love him. Don't stray or get tempted by other men and he will truly appreciate the sacrafice you made when he gets out. Only a couple months left so just find a new activity or somthing, pick up a sport, learn how to cook, im ... (read in full...)
Why is there blood INSIDE the condom after sex and what should we do??
Q. I was having sex with my partner of 3 months and when we finished we found there was a fair bit of blood inside the condom. The resivour teat on the end was filled with it. My partner said he felt a little bit of pain during sex (we were only ...
A. 15 November 2008: if he is uncut maybe his frenulum snapped? Or maybe your sex was that EXTREME! Sounds like a new mountain dew add to me.
Don't worry about it, check the link above, seems like the right answer up there... (read in full...)
My brother is mad at me because I slept with his wife. How can I make up it to my bro ?
Q. My brother is mad at me because I slept with his wife, I lived with them cause my girlfriend kick me up for cheating on her. My bro beat the sh!t out of me (he gave me a black eye) and throw me out. I think he's divorcing her now, He hasn't talked ...
A. 15 November 2008: Shit. How could you screw your brothers wife! Come on man!
Your brother would have to be a better man than me to ever forgive you. That was a sacred bond of trust you broke, and you will never get that back. Maybe, MAYBE he will forgive you one ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me, and yet I still think about her, why?
Q. I went out with this girl for a year and a half. I really loved her, and I thought, from the way she acted and talked, that she loved me too. About 2 months go we broke up, and afterwords I found out that she had been cheating on me with somone ...
A. 15 November 2008: Thanks for the replies, like somone said I think the person with relationship issues is her since it does seem like she is sleeping around. I just wish I could erase her out of my mind. It sucks that I still think about her even after what she ... (read in full...)
How can I control my raging hormones?
Q. hi, i feel like i have a personal problem. to put it simple im horny allllll the time. i get hard so easily. i feel that its not a good thing to be hard a lot and get hard easily. im always in the mood to masturbate but i can not always do it ...
A. 14 November 2008: No worries man I was the same. Pretty much any guy around your age is the same. The hard part for me was in school when I would get randomly hard and have to hide it. If you don't already know this, learn to 'tuck up', or when you get hard take ... (read in full...)
I need a new girl in my life, but first I have to get this one out!
Q. How do I get over somone who cheated on me. I see her alot too, around campus, which sucks. I still have feelings for her, for some reason, and I think about her more than I should. It's been over a month now and I still think about her everyday. ...
A. 14 November 2008: Thanks, I've been trying to swamp myself with activities so hopefully i'll get over her soon enough. I feel like I wasted a little over a year with her and now the fact that i still think about her after what she did annoys me. Thanks for the ... (read in full...)
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