My girlfriend lost a bottle of her favourite perfume while in a club with me last night... And she wants ME to replace it! What should I do?
Q. Last night in a club with my friends, I got separated from the group. I decided to text my girlfriend to find out where she was. When I couldn't find her from her directions I told her where she could find me. When she got there she waved to me, and ...
A. 30 January 2010: Dear friend,
After reading u I decided to give u a go. I relize to myself this would not be not inportant to me. It just water to me..gosh. To most girls I guess it's vital. I also understand the student part. I understand that things get tight. W... (read in full...)
I do not trust that this girl isn't going to attempt to sabbotage our relationship.
Q. I posted a question yesterday about a mutual friend sending my boyfriend love letters and that my boyfriend is still friends with her, and im not, she lied about sending them after i found them, and threatened me to report me to the police when i ...
A. 28 January 2010: Dear Friend;
I admire ur courage. After I read u I give u credit because u come off as being very intelligent, calm, and I can sense the passion/love u have for ur b/f. I admire ur style to say the least. I feel u have done/said the right things t... (read in full...)
I was raped and need advice on what to do
Q. i'am really lost and really do not know what to do, it's really hard to say but i have not told anyone in the 2years that it has happened. i was raped when i was 15 there was more to it, as i formed an attachment towards this man. he was a security ...
A. 27 January 2010: My Dear Friend,
First I am sorry for what u went thro and what u r going thro. I also respect u for coming out, for I know it is a very hard thing to do. I can not say I know how u feel, because I have not been in ur shoes. I do understa... (read in full...)
I have never had a girlfriend and wonder love is just a fantasy
Q. Sex vs Love Sex: Well just sex, no feelings compromised, no heartbreaks and a lot of sex stories, but maybe lonely when old. Its real. or Love:Caring for each other, the person you love, you liked becouse of her personality and her looks, ...
A. 15 January 2010: Dear Friend
I found what u wrote not only interesting but intuitive. Taking ur age I found it to be also profound. It also struck me deep that ur sex is male. You strike me as very intellient person, and also mature to have such a though. I will g... (read in full...)
How can I help him try to get a better job?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for a few months but have known each other for years, he works a job making pay that isnt that great and his hours have been cut... he's been looking for another job but "says there's nothing he likes" i pay for ...
A. 7 January 2010: Dear Friend, I read ur letter carefully to understand ur situation. If I am correct ur b/f lives with his parents *at home* You did say he was working so I tend to discredit that he is lazy. In this time many jobs have been cut or worst yet ppl ha... (read in full...)
Confusion over the kids!
Q. Should I call it quits? I know everyones answer will prob be yes straight away but here goes. I met my now second Husband in a bar May 2008 we had a lot in common he was charming and made me laugh. we both had children of the same age 3 and 5 an...
A. 6 January 2010: Dear Friend,
I was sadden to read ur follow up letter. I relize the stress, hurt, and heart ache that comes with it.
Sometimes things do come to an end. What u do and where u go is up to u now.
If u read my letter again the suggestion I g... (read in full...)
Confusion over the kids!
Q. Should I call it quits? I know everyones answer will prob be yes straight away but here goes. I met my now second Husband in a bar May 2008 we had a lot in common he was charming and made me laugh. we both had children of the same age 3 and 5 an...
A. 5 January 2010: Dear Friend,
I read ur letter twice to be certain I understand. I was very sorry to read ur letter, mostly for the children. I do hope what I will suggest might help you. I also hope u take my opinion seriously as I do ur letter.
I do not judg... (read in full...)
How do I cope with the break up?
Q. My boyfriend of a year and half and I are breaking up. The hardest part about it is that I'm pregnant and pretty much due any day. Its not a life I want to bring my baby into, and I wish it didn't have to be like this. We still love each other, but ...
A. 5 January 2010: Dear Friend,
Of all the hardest part of break ups this has to be the hardest. Frist let me say that I feel for you very much.
I hope my words which are only sent to you with good wishes, good intentions, and hope.
You stated u love eachot... (read in full...)
I can't imagine being with someone else, so why am I having these doubts?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now. He's 22 and i'm 18. He's got a full time job, which means he has to be up for work at 6 every morning until 4 in the afternoon. Whereas i am at uni. Hes my first proper relationship. He tells m...
A. 7 July 2009: Dear Friend, With all due respect to you and your problem your letter seemed very confused to me...as I feel you are. I would like to say also that you are a very lucky woman to have such a man. With so many men who don't work or take woman for ... (read in full...)
I don't feel comfortable with this friend of his, is it worth ending our relationship over?
Q. I apppreciate that I am a bit old to be feeling jealous but this is how I feel. I am due to be getting married again to a man I have known for 13 years. We met at work. At the same workplace was a lady that my boyfriend used to spend a lot of time ...
A. 7 July 2009: Dear Friend...after reading your letter I don't think your gut instinct is wrong. You do have a reason for feeling as you do, no matter what it is. When 2 decide to get married I do believe the wife/husband should come first. However in giving h... (read in full...)
How can I possibly have anything to do with someone who might be different to what I had come to assume with getting to know her?
Q. Hi, I have liked this girl for a few months now and though we are only friends at the moment I feel there could be more. Anyway last time we met (Saturday) I discovered something about her that I found incredibly shocking (I won't say what it is, ...
A. 7 May 2009: Thank you, and you know something. If you would have let her go you would/might have always been wondering if it would have worked out. You sound very easy going, and very accepting..which is such a pluss for her..and you also.
I'm was glad to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks it would be a turn on to watch me having sex with our dog!
Q. Hi everyone, I am 26 and have been with my current bf for almost 3 years. We have a great relationship, he is perfect in many ways. We get along great and have a great sex life. We are both very open at trying new things sexually and I will admit ...
A. 3 May 2009: You know something, it is forced on the dog. You enduce it and make it happen. It is not natural. If anyone is wondering about the dog, or any animal. That's why animals have mating seasons. Anyway that's not the issue. I will state more about my ... (read in full...)
How can I possibly have anything to do with someone who might be different to what I had come to assume with getting to know her?
Q. Hi, I have liked this girl for a few months now and though we are only friends at the moment I feel there could be more. Anyway last time we met (Saturday) I discovered something about her that I found incredibly shocking (I won't say what it is, ...
A. 2 May 2009: I'm very glad that you decided to give her a chance. I am also very glad that the both of you are hitting it off.
You do sound like an excepting person, which is always a good way to start.
I hope you and her continue to have nothing but good... (read in full...)
What to do when you can't do no more...
Q. Me and my girlfreind have been together for almost 4 years, she was 5 months pregnant with our daughter when we met, she's 3 and we have a son, he is legally mines. Me and my gf fight a lot, I usually end up the only one trying to talk it out but ...
A. 2 May 2009: Dear Sir,
This is a very serious matter, regarding an "illegal habit" that you mentioned. This to me is the most important part in your letter. This is the root of all your family's problem.
I do want to say to say to you that I understand how... (read in full...)
How can I possibly have anything to do with someone who might be different to what I had come to assume with getting to know her?
Q. Hi, I have liked this girl for a few months now and though we are only friends at the moment I feel there could be more. Anyway last time we met (Saturday) I discovered something about her that I found incredibly shocking (I won't say what it is, ...
A. 30 April 2009: I found your letter very interesting in it's self. I don't think your paranoid at all. I feel that in your case *if you don't mind me saying* and with great respect to you... you assume too much. Now please don't take this the wrong way. It is not ... (read in full...)
Is my friend going off me?
Q. I am good friends with this girl I met back in sixth form. We live close to each other and used to meet up all the time, especially since she passed her driving test. We enjoy each other's company a lot and when we couldn't meet, we chatted online ...
A. 28 April 2009: I don't know how long her manner has changed, so I find it a bit hard to answer you directly. If this has been going on only for a week or shorter, I would say don't worry. We all have bad days, or something that is on our mind. It could be she has ... (read in full...)
Troubled teenager with a young baby and one on the way
Q. hello, i'm sorry to bother use with such a embarrassing question but i really need to know, i am a really sexually active teenager and i already have a 3 month old baby, i went through a rough past and turned to men ive had 30 bed partners or mayb...
A. 25 April 2009: I hope your baby is a healthy child. It is not too late to go and see if you can find some parenting classes. I also hope you take the time to talk with your doctor and mother regarding some kind of birth control it is for your protection, and best ... (read in full...)
Trying to move on from ex, but I know he'll make things difficult!
Q. I am 21 years old, I have been with the same guy since I was 15, I really liked him when we first met, and then after about 6 to 8 months I got to where I just wanted to have fun and not be in a relationship, by this time he had gotten ...
A. 15 April 2009: I read your letter very carefully. I do feel for you, and I do understand what you're going through.
From what I read your ex has all the signs of being an abusing person. The first sign is control and isolation. This is one component of a very d... (read in full...)
Troubled teenager with a young baby and one on the way
Q. hello, i'm sorry to bother use with such a embarrassing question but i really need to know, i am a really sexually active teenager and i already have a 3 month old baby, i went through a rough past and turned to men ive had 30 bed partners or mayb...
A. 11 April 2009: I'm very glad you have family behind you. It will also teach you to be close/help to your family in the future. I wouldn't give too much mind about others in here that put you down. They don't have the courage to sign their name. This comes from a ... (read in full...)
Troubled teenager with a young baby and one on the way
Q. hello, i'm sorry to bother use with such a embarrassing question but i really need to know, i am a really sexually active teenager and i already have a 3 month old baby, i went through a rough past and turned to men ive had 30 bed partners or mayb...
A. 10 April 2009: I am very glad that your mom is supporting you. She will be a good person to lean on. I know your babies are very lucky to have a mom who is caring, and a grandmother who loves you all.
I do hope you will seek some counselling. It will also hel... (read in full...)
Troubled teenager with a young baby and one on the way
Q. hello, i'm sorry to bother use with such a embarrassing question but i really need to know, i am a really sexually active teenager and i already have a 3 month old baby, i went through a rough past and turned to men ive had 30 bed partners or mayb...
A. 9 April 2009: I read you, and I feel this is a very serious fact of your life. There is no need to feel embarrassed, bad, shame, etc. There are many people such as you. Don't let negitive feelings get in your way. What is done is done. I don't think anything bad ... (read in full...)
I want to start a long distance relationship with an agony aunt
Q. I think i have fallen in love with someone who i met on this site. How do i ask her out? How do i maintain a long distance relationship?...
A. 9 April 2009: Your letter interested me, very much. I was wondering how old this person is?
Since you said it was a long distance relationship, how would you manage to out with her?
Anyway back to my opinion. It is very hard to maintain a long distance re... (read in full...)
I think I am a lesbian! Am I in love or in lust, with my best friend?
Q. hello im a 17year old girl and i have a serious problem... i love my best friend who happens to be a girl. we kiss when we are drunk and recently we had sex (however girls have it) and ever since i find it impossible to forget about her. i find my...
A. 7 April 2009: After reading you I took time to think very carefuly about what I want to say to ...*state my opinion*
It is not unusual for women to have an attractions to other women. Though many will deni it, it is a normal thing for most. Some follow i... (read in full...)
Why am I always being dumped?
Q. Why are the girls in my relationships the ones who finish it? And why so early in to it?...
A. 1 April 2009: As far as OCD is concerned it's a part of your life that can be controled. You can get help with it, many ppl have it. It's a matter of getting on the right track, going to doc. I'm sure if you do this it will work out fine. You should never be ... (read in full...)
Why does my friend start rumors about me?
Q. I'm really finding that I'm getting quite depressed with my life. When i look for positives I generally can't find them. My class never hesitates to make fun of me by starting rumours but now i'm just sick of it. Worst of all the perso who sta...
A. 1 April 2009: I really do feel for you, and in some way I understand. I would like to say to you first off that it's nothing to do with you. It's not your fault. Don't take the blame for someone elses actions. Most important of all don't believe anything ppl say ... (read in full...)
Why am I always being dumped?
Q. Why are the girls in my relationships the ones who finish it? And why so early in to it?...
A. 1 April 2009: You didn't leave much of a question to get help. I would suggest if you don't mind to leave a bit more detail *if you like* It would be easier to try to give some advice for you.
I hope you do decide to leave the question again. I will be looking ... (read in full...)
I'd rather give my baby up for adoption than to let him have it
Q. I'm 7 months pregnant my boyfriend and I have since split up it live in the same apt I'm trying to find a new place. He has a daughter from a previous relationship. I want to give the child up for adoption I just think he would have a better life. ...
A. 25 March 2009: Like I said Stella don't let people get to you. For the person regarding *dogs & fleas* No guts to leave a leave a name, because they know it is of no value to show how uneducated they are. It wasn't even worth the 2 cents they think they left in ... (read in full...)
I'd rather give my baby up for adoption than to let him have it
Q. I'm 7 months pregnant my boyfriend and I have since split up it live in the same apt I'm trying to find a new place. He has a daughter from a previous relationship. I want to give the child up for adoption I just think he would have a better life. ...
A. 25 March 2009: Dear Stella, you are right to worry about your child's position, regarding the father. By what you have stated it is not a good situation for any child. I feel if your the father is filing acknowlagement of paternaty papers I would take this time ... (read in full...)
I'm losing my girlfriend..please help
Q. i am 16 and i have been going out with this girl who i absolutely adore for 2 and a half years, i thin she's the most beautiful person in the world and i love being with her. we've gone through a lot of crap in the past, her kissing other boys, me ...
A. 24 March 2009: Your letter caught my eye, for the reason that I was speaking with someone about the very same thing not too long ago. What stood out among other things is that you said your g/f was depressed. If you know what her depressing is about or caused ... (read in full...)
Is what he's doing to me ...abuse??
Q. Is this abuse? We were being intimate and I was enjoying being close with him (boyfriend of just over one year) and I have been doing kegels a lot because he tells me almost every other day that I'm 'too big' for him and that it must mean that I...
A. 24 March 2009: You really answered your own question. You have been "crying" You are feeling "trapped" and "worthless" You are also feeling "hurt" and "sad" These are not good signs. You are NONE of the quotes, nor are ANY of them. Need I add that pinching as he, ... (read in full...)
What's going on with this guy?
Q. I was seeing this guy for a while now, we have gone away to the most beautiful places and met up every week and each time just experienced the most amazing sexual experience each time, every time. One day he said he didn't want to have a weekly ...
A. 22 March 2009: This is a hard question to reply too. It kind of leaves things to read between the lines. You didn't say why only during the week? If you have contact with him during the weekend? Do you where he lives, have you called him at home? Do you have his ... (read in full...)
I need help to stop being so insecure and crazy. Why am I so off balance?
Q. I have had quite a few relationships but never found the one. I am an attractive, intelligent and successful, with men constantly wanting to be in a serious relationship with me. Finally I have met a guy and have fallen in love with him and he ...
A. 20 March 2009: After reading you, I will give you my opinion, and suggestions that I feel might help you understand what is making you manifest all this misery in your life. I am not qualified to at this point to tell you what is wrong with you. It takes more than ... (read in full...)
My wife's past...
Q. During the 8 years of my marriage my wife filtered out all sorts of sexual things that she did or happened to her. After years of dealing with them (nightmares and flashbacks) I finally seemed to come to terms with them. I had real problems because ...
A. 19 March 2009: It must very hard on you and your wife, not to mention frustrating. I felt very sad for you both, when I read you.
I would like to make an suggestion. If you can try not to hold the past against your wife. I know it does play on your thoughts... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out? Flirt?
Q. There's this girl that I like. She's one of the nicest person you can meet; she's a little shy, but once you warm up to her, fun to be around. Another thing is she had been extremely sheltered through out her life, so at times she seems a bit ...
A. 17 March 2009: Wow, I was quite intrigued by your letter. Honestly, it seems like you have done everything right. I don't believe you have made any wrong moves. Though when a girl has been sheltered, you're very right to assume that she can be a bit nieve. By the ... (read in full...)
He's so shy he runs away!
Q. he acts like he likes me and has for years however he so shy i dont know. he wants to be around me because he always is i know we're best freinds but i think he wants maby more he has kissed me. he just so shy he run away what do i do?...
A. 16 March 2009: One of the hardest things to over come is shyness. You didn't state in your letter how long have you have known him. It does make a difference for a shy person in coming out of their shell. In some instances some shy people like/are attracted to ppl ... (read in full...)
I don't want to mess up my first time with my boyfriend
Q. Hi, I'm 16 and a virgin. I want my boyfriend to have sex with me but I am scared not knowing what to do or if it will be any good. You see, I don't want to mess this up since he has experience with one other person in the past. Though, he hasn't ...
A. 14 March 2009: I hope u have given this much thought. I don't dare put u down or tell u what to do. I am asking u to think about this very carefuly. I would sugguest you talk with someone about this if there is someone u trust. I'm sure that u can talk with ... (read in full...)
How can I maintain a balance between my husband and my family?
Q. hi, we had a court marriage against wishes of my parents then we didnt talk for 1 yr. then it was my sisters marriage where one of my relative insulted me n my dad was of the view that i will have to bear it. at that time we had arguments and then ...
A. 14 March 2009: In my culture it was that way also. My generation has changed this, since we were born in Canada. It is very hard to understand they ways of our family. I do believe they have your best interest at heart, but are unable to understand the outcome ... (read in full...)
She doesn't see how special she is
Q. Hi, im 15 ad my gf is 14, shes always so self conscious abt her weight ( shes a tad bit chunky, not even) and abt how pretty she is(beautiful btw) but everytime i tell her tht i think she's perfect, it seems as though she doesnt care abt my opinion, ...
A. 8 March 2009: I can tell u love this girl very much. Don't take it personally. I can tell that it hurts u when she doesn't accept ur feelings for her. Your a very caring person to come in here ask for advice it means u want to try to do something that will help ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex's new girlfriend that he asked me for sex?
Q. Should i tell my ex new gf that a few weeks ago he asked me if i wanted sex with him, that he would offer his services 2 me, i said no but he also said he wanted 2 suck my tits a few days before he asked me for sex Im now wondering if he really m...
A. 7 March 2009: You have been put in a very bad spot. Since he is your ex, he knows the possition you are in now, and that alone tells you something about him. Since you are asking yourself if he really ment it or not your, yourself are not sure about how serious ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling lost and I don't know what to do
Q. Dear friend it's me again asking for our help. My question is dear is it possible leave with somebody for three stright years and don't love this person. I just don't understand why because me n my boy friend live all this time together, n he still ...
A. 5 March 2009: Dear Friend I have made letter longer than usual for you. I have gone into more detail than usual. You letter touched/moved me and I felt your pain thus the reason for making it very long. I hope you will read it all, *a few times over* if you have ... (read in full...)
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