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anonymous
writes:I'm really finding that I'm getting quite depressed with my life. When i look for positives I generally can't find them.My class never hesitates to make fun of me by starting rumours but now i'm just sick of it.Worst of all the perso who started the rumours is meant to be a friend of mine and even after i asked him to stop he just continued.I dont feel as if i have a reall friend to turn to.
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reader, salvadda  +, writes (1 April 2009):
 I really do feel for you, and in some way I understand. I would like to say to you first off that it's nothing to do with you. It's not your fault. Don't take the blame for someone elses actions. Most important of all don't believe anything ppl say about you.
I would try if you want to give your friend one more chance and explain to him again about his actions. I know you said you talked to him about not starting rumours, but you must make it clear to him. Maybe you can let him know that it hurts your feelings, frustrates you, and also makes you feel sad. You can let him know that if it doesn't stop he will leave you no choice but to stop hanging around him.
I'm sorry to say this. If he was a true friend he would not do this. It may be a way for him to get laughs, be what he thinks is popular to put you down, or make fun of you. Some ppl can be uncaring when it comes to their own justifications. To be honest with you and very respectful of your feelings, you don't need a person that brings you down in your life. It only adds to the every day stress also.
If you really need to put the point across to him, ask him how he would like it. How he would feel being put in your position.
I'm sure you're a nice person, a good person, and also I can tell that you are sensitive person. I believe if this keeps up it will rob you of the person you really are, or can be.
If your starting to feel depressed I would end it. It will only get worse for you if your depressing excalates.
I'm sure you can find good friends, loyal/true friends. Please don't put your mind into the hands of someone that doesn't care.
It may very well be that he feeds off of your bad feelings to make him feel better about himself.
I don't know if any of my suggestions have helped you, but I do hope you think things through. Keep yourself in mind, and how you feel. How your friend makes you feel. Know that you do deserve a good friend, someone you can trust with your feelings also.
Don't sell yourself short. Most of all don't be afraid to say how you feel.
I do want to say one more thing regarding your depression.
You said you didn't feel as if you have anyone to talk with. It is important that you do find/get someone to talk with regarding this issue of feeling depressed. If you have a doctor talk to him/her. They will keep every confidentical. You can also ask to talk with a conslor at school. Try not to keep thoughts inside, it is not healthy.
I do wish you the very best..good luck & take care
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